Re: Assessments

[Guest guest]

Sounds like the evaluation makes sense. My only concern for you would be getting

him there every day, if transitions are difficult.

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> We have run the gamit it seems with respect to trying to understand

[Guest guest]

I haven't gone thru this, but it sounds like a good plan if you can get him

there each day. Interesting they mentioned Aspergers could be involved.

The behaviors you listed all seem OCD to me.

But that " pit bull " part can be OCD (who with OCD isn't stubborn) or a part of

another " issue " (Aspergers or just plain personality). It actually made me

think of another of my sons who has been that way from age 1! To this day, at

age 23, he wears me down, including this week. One reason I'm just now getting

to catch up in the group, he is now on another " plan " he just won't let go of.

Anyway, I find you have to figure out where that is coming from; with my

OCD/Aspergers son I have to tweak it out as to which is causing the stubborness.

Also that " consumed " with specific issue - can be Aspie type thing but again

also part of OCD or another. It's difficult when a " symptom " falls under, can

be due to, more than one diagnosis (or, again, just personality).

With (age 23), his whole life I felt there was symptoms of autistic type

traits. Can you look back at your son and see some of those?

Quick thoughts,

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> We have run the gamit it seems with respect to trying to understand what is

going on. In our case it started with behavioral issues (beligerant,

standoffish, demands). We started with traditional therapy which was a joke.

From art therapy to talk therapy. No one ever mentioned the thought of mental

illness. Somehow we came across OCD since there were some rituals, hand washing,

and other characteristics of OCD. We went to an OCD clinic and our son was so

reticent. Nothing to him was a problem. They suggested that we be prepared to

call 911 if the behavior continues since they could do nothing until he was a

willing participant.

[Guest guest]

May thanks for your post. We recently reflected back and realized how

sensitive he always was and difficult, much moreso than our other children. It

did seem more behavioral which is why we started with regular counseling. Our

biggest source of stress relates to how our household is under his control. What

we do, when we do it, how we do it, etc. For example, we decide on going out to

dinner. If we select a restaurant he is not satisfied with, he puts up a fight.

Not just an ordinary fight, but a long drawn out discussion. During these

discussions, he demands that we shut up and listen. To avoid this pain and

frustration, we now tend to accomodate, which we realize only enables this

behavior. We have learned the triggers and tend to avoid them. However, this

runs our entire family and is not fair to our daughter or ourselves. This is the

predominant issue that is combined with the other symptoms noted. So we do see

rituals and obsessions, however,

these are mild in comparison to what I read and hear with others. It is why we

are thinking Asperger as the predominant issue combined with OCD. But at this

point we believe it is best left to the professionals to make the assessment. It

is too confusing for us, and we have run out of energy.

 

The challenge is that he is highly reticent and does not admit to any of the

symptoms noted. We are hoping that he gets to the daily evaluation. If not, we

will have to have him as an inpatient. In any case, we need a better

understanding what is going on, and most importantly to get him to understand

that he has a challenge to accept and deal with. Until we can achieve the

latter, we go nowhere except living in stress!

 

How do they or anyone help them recognize that they have a challenge, whether it

be OCD and/or Aspergers, etc.?