If this was your child

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Thank you so much for the replies!!!!

The worst thing about the school for my dd is that even the therapist and psych

are fed up. The therapist knows that I will get nowhere with the school. I have

no say with the principal because I went over her head last year with another

issue, and she has black-balled me from receiving anything I want. (She is

retiring-yay!)

Every time I've have gone in and fought with the teacher, she has pacified me

and then turned around and did exactly what she wants. She is passing my

daughter on. She hasn't retained anything. Brought home consistantly D's and F's

on her math work (even though she receives 400 min/week of resource time for

math), and yet she received a C for the grading period. Even the report card is

inconsistant, but yet they don't care. Guess they think I don't " see " it. This

seems to be the way of the whole system at this point because I know of others

that have been passed on because the school doesn't want to deal with them.

You'd think that if a parent was going in and saying that the child doesn't

deserve the grade and needs to be lowered, they'd try and figure out why.

Instead, she's fluffing the grades to try and pacify me. Not working. I know she

hasn't learned/retained any of the info and next year (middle school) is going

to be a train-wreck. I have been in the school and had many a meeting, IEP

revision meeting this year. I requested for my dd to be transferred out of the

class before school started because this teacher had a bad reputation. I was

denied because the principal was angry that I went over her head last year. And,

I was told that each of the teachers provide " superior service " . (She gave me

this big speech about how they all sat down with the special ed teachers and

decided who was best based on the child's issues.)

I seem to be beating a dead horse. I did contact our school board representative

about the fact that the school is doing all this. And I am going to email her

again today regarding my frustration with the teacher and wanting some kind of

accountability for this teacher. I do like the assistant principal at the school

who is in charge of the special ed. But I think a lot of time his hands are tied

because the principal and the teachers seem to be intwined with their " ways " of

doing things.

Luckily, this is my dd's last year in this school. However, I have a ds who will

be entering kindergarten in the same school in the fall. Hopefully the new

principal will be a little more understanding and listen.

The psych was going to try and get to my dd's transitional IEP (for going to the

middle school next year), but wasn't able to get off. The therapist said that

was huge if the psych was trying to get there. We've come out of the meetings

feeling like they've listened, but then the teacher does whatever she wants. I

know she'll be glad to see the year end just as much as I will. I have wanted so

badly to just go pull my dd out for the rest of the year. But since it's her

last year at the school, she will miss all the special things they have planned

for the 5th-graders.

Put it this way, when the report cards came home last week, she hands it to me

and say, " All F's, I guess. " She has had NO positive from the teacher at all

this year and the teacher has been absolutely a HUGE part of her OCD.

On to middle school...

Thanks again for all the replies. At least I know that I'm not " enabling " or

letting my daughter " play me " .

-Melinda