Update from Melinda regarding dd/school

[Guest guest]

Hi all,

Thanks so much for the replies. I especially liked the comparison of the

diabetic! That really was a great analogy!

Well, I emailed the assistant principal (who deals with special ed). He emailed

me back that he was out of the school, and to call the principal. I know the

principal doesn't give a hoot because she is retiring and then, she was mad that

I went over her head regarding the teacher last year allowing the students (10

year olds) to give her back massages and braid her hair. (I went to the

principal twice and the 3rd time called the director of elementary education.

Principal wasn't too thrilled.)

Anyway, I went ahead and called the principal since I didn't want my dd to get

in trouble for not returning the paper. I explained the entire issue. How I

thought the note was humiliating and punishing her and didn't think it was

appropriate for 5th-graders to be doing. Plus the fact that it is totally

feeding into her ocd and depression. Went through the whole thing. (She's not

familiar because the assistant deals with special ed.) So, to take care of it,

she (supposedly) is emailing the teacher while I am on the phone with her,

telling the teacher that my dd had written the note (which she had said that

sometimes this is how the teachers's communicate home or the parents wouldn't

know. How lame), had brought it home to show us and that she hadn't brought it

back signed. She said that my dd had done everything that was asked of her, but

nothing about how I refused to sign it. She also stated in the email that she

assumed that there would be no further action towards my dd for not having the

paper.

Never said anything about how I felt it was inappropriate. Never addressed it

with me, nor the teacher. Totally missed my point, or didn't care to address it.

That makes me the most mad. If she is totally playing me, I'd at least like to

be able to know. That drives me nuts. The teacher is the same. I KNOW she's

trying to control me and put me in my place. But I have no way of proving it.

However, the principal is a different story. I don't know if she's so used to

snowing everyone or pacifying parents, that she doesn't know the difference when

she does.

I emailed the assistant principal back and explained to him that I had touched

based with the principal but she'd totally missed my point. And explained my

dilema. UGH. Glad there aren't too many more days left and she'll be out of that

school. It's been a VERY LONG year and totally ridiculous.

Thanks again for all your replies. So encouraging!

-Melinda

[Guest guest]

I really think you need to escalate this matter - Superintendent - He needs to

ensure a PERFECT classroom placement next year. I would " hint " about contacting

an Attorney...etc..they don't like discussion going in that direction. The

current school Admin is ineffective - you need to go to the TOP...believe me -

parents contact Sup.for FAR LESS important matters...

Write this year off as a loss....start working on next year. Once you have a

good teacher placement - I would request meeting with them prior to school

starts, to discuss everything - make sure your daughter gets off to a positive

start. She should be able to meet the teacher early as well - 1st day of school

is very very stressful.

>

> Hi all,

>

> Thanks so much for the replies. I especially liked the comparison of the

diabetic! That really was a great analogy!

>

> Well, I emailed the assistant principal (who deals with special ed). He

emailed me back that he was out of the school, and to call the principal. I know

the principal doesn't give a hoot because she is retiring and then, she was mad

that I went over her head regarding the teacher last year allowing the students

(10 year olds) to give her back massages and braid her hair. (I went to the

principal twice and the 3rd time called the director of elementary education.

Principal wasn't too thrilled.)

>

> Anyway, I went ahead and called the principal since I didn't want my dd to get

in trouble for not returning the paper. I explained the entire issue. How I

thought the note was humiliating and punishing her and didn't think it was

appropriate for 5th-graders to be doing. Plus the fact that it is totally

feeding into her ocd and depression. Went through the whole thing. (She's not

familiar because the assistant deals with special ed.) So, to take care of it,

she (supposedly) is emailing the teacher while I am on the phone with her,

telling the teacher that my dd had written the note (which she had said that

sometimes this is how the teachers's communicate home or the parents wouldn't

know. How lame), had brought it home to show us and that she hadn't brought it

back signed. She said that my dd had done everything that was asked of her, but

nothing about how I refused to sign it. She also stated in the email that she

assumed that there would be no further action towards my dd for not having the

paper.

>

> Never said anything about how I felt it was inappropriate. Never addressed it

with me, nor the teacher. Totally missed my point, or didn't care to address it.

That makes me the most mad. If she is totally playing me, I'd at least like to

be able to know. That drives me nuts. The teacher is the same. I KNOW she's

trying to control me and put me in my place. But I have no way of proving it.

However, the principal is a different story. I don't know if she's so used to

snowing everyone or pacifying parents, that she doesn't know the difference when

she does.

>

> I emailed the assistant principal back and explained to him that I had touched

based with the principal but she'd totally missed my point. And explained my

dilema. UGH. Glad there aren't too many more days left and she'll be out of that

school. It's been a VERY LONG year and totally ridiculous.

>

> Thanks again for all your replies. So encouraging!

>

> -Melinda

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