Re: School Refusal/Anxiety

[Guest guest]

this is our issue,it is draining. She is getting behavioral therapy ,on klonopin

and abilify. its a nightmare. She too would have everything taken away then to

go to school. She's 15,this started in 6th grade.

jennie

School Refusal/Anxiety

I am so very glad I found this support group. I am struggling with a 10year old

son, who was diagnosed with OCD.

He was getting CBT from Sept-Dec, but it didn't help him very much and also the

OCD was not full blown at that time.

Since Dec his OCD came on with a vengence. School refusal is vey prevalent and

just trying to get him there is a huge struggle.

It is very sporadic, Forgethomework, he just freezes up. I am working with the

school to get him an IEP but that is just starting.

We were advised to put him on Zoloft (which) we did about 2 months ago - he

started out on 25mgs, then went to 50mgs.

We saw s big change in the compulsions but the school anxiety was still very

prevelant.

His psy. increased the dosage to 75mgs yesterday. We have a new therapist lined

up to help him next Monday.

I wanted to see if anyone else is stuggling with this and how they are managing.

Bribes don't work for him and he would

rather sit doing very little in the house. He is a darling boy but his defiance

is strong because of the OCD.

Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all so much.

JJ

[Guest guest]

Jenni,

 

I am so glad to hear I am not alone. I am emotionally drained because I wake up

each morning knowing the struggle

ahead. I know scare tactics are pointless but I feel the more he is out of

school, the harder it will be. I am trying to live in the

present BUT can't help flashing forward to the future and what it holds. The

only thing that keeps me going is that tomorrow brings

new hope.

 

Thanks for your response, we are all in this ugly fight together but at least we

have support and are able to share our stories

through this wonderful site.

 

JJ

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To:

Sent: Wednesday, March 7, 2012 8:32 AM

Subject: Re: School Refusal/Anxiety

 

this is our issue,it is draining. She is getting behavioral therapy ,on klonopin

and abilify. its a nightmare. She too would have everything taken away then to

go to school. She's 15,this started in 6th grade.

jennie

School Refusal/Anxiety

I am so very glad I found this support group. I am struggling with a 10year old

son, who was diagnosed with OCD.

He was getting CBT from Sept-Dec, but it didn't help him very much and also the

OCD was not full blown at that time.

Since Dec his OCD came on with a vengence. School refusal is vey prevalent and

just trying to get him there is a huge struggle.

It is very sporadic, Forgethomework, he just freezes up. I am working with the

school to get him an IEP but that is just starting.

We were advised to put him on Zoloft (which) we did about 2 months ago - he

started out on 25mgs, then went to 50mgs.

We saw s big change in the compulsions but the school anxiety was still very

prevelant.

His psy. increased the dosage to 75mgs yesterday. We have a new therapist lined

up to help him next Monday.

I wanted to see if anyone else is stuggling with this and how they are managing.

Bribes don't work for him and he would

rather sit doing very little in the house. He is a darling boy but his defiance

is strong because of the OCD.

Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all so much.

JJ

[Guest guest]

I can sure relate to what you are going through, so sorry to hear you are having

so much trouble.  My son is ten years old as well and has had

OCD/anxiety since kindergarten but always managed to get through until this

year.  By Feb, he was so stressed about going to school that is was impossible

to get him out the door because he was performing so many rituals.  He finally

just said that he absoulutely could not go.  I pulled him from school and we

started him on Prozac.  His psychiatrist filled out the forms our school needed

to get him a home-bound teacher 2 days per week.  He already had an ed

assessment this fall and has an IEP for math.  His anxiety went way down as soon

as he was assured that he did not have to deal with school.  He is in 5th grade

this year and changes classes and had 3 different teachers. 

I know keeping kids home is not an option for everyone.  My dh and I both work

full time, but I am fortunate to have a job that allows me to work flexible

hours.

Hang in there, I know what you are going through.  Praying that everything gets

better for you soon.

[Guest guest]

,

 

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I really needed it today as I

am having my onw internal

panic attack which I never thought was possible as I have always held it

together somehow.  Just knowing that

someone else can relate can lift your spirits.

 

Please God this will all pass and light will shine.

 

Warm regards,

JJ

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To: " " < >

Sent: Wednesday, March 7, 2012 1:10 PM

Subject: Re: School Refusal/Anxiety

 

I can sure relate to what you are going through, so sorry to hear you are having

so much trouble.  My son is ten years old as well and has had

OCD/anxiety since kindergarten but always managed to get through until this

year.  By Feb, he was so stressed about going to school that is was impossible

to get him out the door because he was performing so many rituals.  He finally

just said that he absoulutely could not go.  I pulled him from school and we

started him on Prozac.  His psychiatrist filled out the forms our school needed

to get him a home-bound teacher 2 days per week.  He already had an ed

assessment this fall and has an IEP for math.  His anxiety went way down as

soon as he was assured that he did not have to deal with school.  He is in 5th

grade this year and changes classes and had 3 different teachers. 

I know keeping kids home is not an option for everyone.  My dh and I both work

full time, but I am fortunate to have a job that allows me to work flexible

hours.

Hang in there, I know what you are going through.  Praying that everything gets

better for you soon.

[Guest guest]

exactly,to start your mornings like that is just exhausting. I use to handle it

much better , now im getting angry . I have to remove myself.

jennie

School Refusal/Anxiety

I am so very glad I found this support group. I am struggling with a 10year old

son, who was diagnosed with OCD.

He was getting CBT from Sept-Dec, but it didn't help him very much and also the

OCD was not full blown at that time.

Since Dec his OCD came on with a vengence. School refusal is vey prevalent and

just trying to get him there is a huge struggle.

It is very sporadic, Forgethomework, he just freezes up. I am working with the

school to get him an IEP but that is just starting.

We were advised to put him on Zoloft (which) we did about 2 months ago - he

started out on 25mgs, then went to 50mgs.

We saw s big change in the compulsions but the school anxiety was still very

prevelant.

His psy. increased the dosage to 75mgs yesterday. We have a new therapist lined

up to help him next Monday.

I wanted to see if anyone else is stuggling with this and how they are managing.

Bribes don't work for him and he would

rather sit doing very little in the house. He is a darling boy but his defiance

is strong because of the OCD.

Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all so much.

JJ

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your response. Yes, he has a cell phone but doesn't want to use

it. He has a wonderful

teacher who is very accommodating but my son still has fear of feeling the odd

man out and doesn't want

to bring attention to himself.

 

It is a rough time and we are still trying to figure it all out.

 

Warm regards

JJ

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To:

Sent: Wednesday, March 7, 2012 2:59 PM

Subject: Re: School Refusal/Anxiety

 

We had this problem with my 6 year old. The only thing that worked was

giving him a cell phone that he was able to use to call home at ANY time

during the day with NO restriction and NO questions asked. We told him him

that, if asked, we would pick him up.

For him, being at school was okay. It was the fear of being trapped that

made him hysterical. In the beginning, we got a ton of calls. Now, a year

later they are rare (once a month). He needed to feel like he had control.

By the way, he only asked me to pick him up once. I arrived, no questions

asked, and he decided to stay at school.

Kids want to do the right things. It's just a matter of helping them find a

way to accommodate their issues. I firmly believe that forcing him to go to

school would have been counterproductive.

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Re: School Refusal/Anxiety

this is our issue,it is draining. She is getting behavioral therapy ,on

klonopin and abilify. its a nightmare. She too would have everything taken

away then to go to school. She's 15,this started in 6th grade.

jennie

School Refusal/Anxiety

I am so very glad I found this support group. I am struggling with a 10year

old son, who was diagnosed with OCD.

He was getting CBT from Sept-Dec, but it didn't help him very much and also

the OCD was not full blown at that time.

Since Dec his OCD came on with a vengence. School refusal is vey prevalent

and just trying to get him there is a huge struggle.

It is very sporadic, Forgethomework, he just freezes up. I am working with

the school to get him an IEP but that is just starting.

We were advised to put him on Zoloft (which) we did about 2 months ago - he

started out on 25mgs, then went to 50mgs.

We saw s big change in the compulsions but the school anxiety was still very

prevelant.

His psy. increased the dosage to 75mgs yesterday. We have a new therapist

lined up to help him next Monday.

I wanted to see if anyone else is stuggling with this and how they are

managing. Bribes don't work for him and he would

rather sit doing very little in the house. He is a darling boy but his

defiance is strong because of the OCD.

Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all so much.

JJ

[Guest guest]

Wow on the cell phone I can see that working because I struggle with panic

attacks. Does ur 6 yr old have panic attacks and OCD?

Sent from my iPhone

On Mar 7, 2012, at 4:59 PM, " gaudethughes@... "

wrote:

>

> We had this problem with my 6 year old. The only thing that worked was

> giving him a cell phone that he was able to use to call home at ANY time

> during the day with NO restriction and NO questions asked. We told him him

> that, if asked, we would pick him up.

>

> For him, being at school was okay. It was the fear of being trapped that

> made him hysterical. In the beginning, we got a ton of calls. Now, a year

> later they are rare (once a month). He needed to feel like he had control.

> By the way, he only asked me to pick him up once. I arrived, no questions

> asked, and he decided to stay at school.

>

> Kids want to do the right things. It's just a matter of helping them find a

> way to accommodate their issues. I firmly believe that forcing him to go to

> school would have been counterproductive.

>

> Connected by DROID on Verizon Wireless

>

> Re: School Refusal/Anxiety

>

> this is our issue,it is draining. She is getting behavioral therapy ,on

> klonopin and abilify. its a nightmare. She too would have everything taken

> away then to go to school. She's 15,this started in 6th grade.

>

> jennie

>

> School Refusal/Anxiety

>

> I am so very glad I found this support group. I am struggling with a 10year

> old son, who was diagnosed with OCD.

> He was getting CBT from Sept-Dec, but it didn't help him very much and also

> the OCD was not full blown at that time.

> Since Dec his OCD came on with a vengence. School refusal is vey prevalent

> and just trying to get him there is a huge struggle.

> It is very sporadic, Forgethomework, he just freezes up. I am working with

> the school to get him an IEP but that is just starting.

>

> We were advised to put him on Zoloft (which) we did about 2 months ago - he

> started out on 25mgs, then went to 50mgs.

> We saw s big change in the compulsions but the school anxiety was still very

> prevelant.

>

> His psy. increased the dosage to 75mgs yesterday. We have a new therapist

> lined up to help him next Monday.

> I wanted to see if anyone else is stuggling with this and how they are

> managing. Bribes don't work for him and he would

> rather sit doing very little in the house. He is a darling boy but his

> defiance is strong because of the OCD.

>

> Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all so much.

>

> JJ

>

>