Re: Feeling Sorry for Myself?

[Guest guest]

Hugs to you ! So hard navigating all of this. I don't think it's really

possible for others to understand how difficult and painful it is just to talk

about our kids and all the " stuff " around the OCD. It can feel like your heart

is being ripped out and stomped on repeatedly.

The grieving for the loss of " normal " happens a little bit everyday I think.

When faced full-on with all the " issues " that result from this disorder, as

presented to you at school, it can be overwhelming. Try to tuck it away as

paperwork you've dealt with, re the school meeting, and turn your focus back to

just loving your son and continuing to find your way.

Go ahead and feel sorry for yourself. It's hard, it's not fair, it feels

impossible to accept that this disorder is now part of your life. Not what

anyone wants for their child. But remember, your son is not his OCD, it is part

of him now, but there is so much more. The loss you are feeling right now will

dissipate with time, as things shift and evolve you will come to a new place

with it all.

Hang in there .

Hugs,

Barb

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> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate their

assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I wish that

there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there, how difficult

it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would give if only my son

didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to know that he feels

" different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it just breaks my heart.....

>

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[Guest guest]

Hugs to you ! So hard navigating all of this. I don't think it's really

possible for others to understand how difficult and painful it is just to talk

about our kids and all the " stuff " around the OCD. It can feel like your heart

is being ripped out and stomped on repeatedly.

The grieving for the loss of " normal " happens a little bit everyday I think.

When faced full-on with all the " issues " that result from this disorder, as

presented to you at school, it can be overwhelming. Try to tuck it away as

paperwork you've dealt with, re the school meeting, and turn your focus back to

just loving your son and continuing to find your way.

Go ahead and feel sorry for yourself. It's hard, it's not fair, it feels

impossible to accept that this disorder is now part of your life. Not what

anyone wants for their child. But remember, your son is not his OCD, it is part

of him now, but there is so much more. The loss you are feeling right now will

dissipate with time, as things shift and evolve you will come to a new place

with it all.

Hang in there .

Hugs,

Barb

>

> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate their

assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I wish that

there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there, how difficult

it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would give if only my son

didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to know that he feels

" different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it just breaks my heart.....

>

>

[Guest guest]

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I think everyone would agree that all of us here are perfectly entitled to feel

sad, mad, and all the other emotions we deal with due to our kids' OCD and other

issues. Being a parent is difficult under the best of circumstances, so be

gentle with yourself and know that you are doing an amazing job with your son. I

totally feel your pain, it can be excruciating and unbearable sometimes and you

wonder how you will make it through another day, let alone the coming weeks and

months. But just know that you are not alone. We all are right there with you

and completely understand what you are going through, and yes it is okay, you

absolutely have permission to feel sorry for yourself, I think we should all be

granted that permission:)

Hugs to you!

> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate their

assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I wish that

there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there, how difficult

it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would give if only my son

didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to know that he feels

" different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it just breaks my heart.....

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I think everyone would agree that all of us here are perfectly entitled to feel

sad, mad, and all the other emotions we deal with due to our kids' OCD and other

issues. Being a parent is difficult under the best of circumstances, so be

gentle with yourself and know that you are doing an amazing job with your son. I

totally feel your pain, it can be excruciating and unbearable sometimes and you

wonder how you will make it through another day, let alone the coming weeks and

months. But just know that you are not alone. We all are right there with you

and completely understand what you are going through, and yes it is okay, you

absolutely have permission to feel sorry for yourself, I think we should all be

granted that permission:)

Hugs to you!

> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate their

assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I wish that

there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there, how difficult

it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would give if only my son

didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to know that he feels

" different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it just breaks my heart.....

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I totally get it. Hugs to you!!! I remember when my daughter's OCD and

compulsive hair pulling was totally out of control in fourth grade and I had to

meet with the school to explain it all and later to ask permission for her to

wear a hat if it came to that, and I felt so embarrassed and sad that I had to

have such a meeting.

I go through it now too. While my daughter's OCD is so much better and she has

long beautiful hair now, she is ostracized by so many at school. The grade is

going on a three day trip and I had to speak with the principal about ensuring

that the chaperone knows to make sure she isn't by herself and that there is a

way for both of my children, twins, to take their medication for OCD while on

the trip without other kids knowing about it. I hate that I have to talk about

such things, because there is still such a stigma. I hate to admit it, but I

even wonder if the school people I deal with know enough not to judge me as

lacking in parenting skills for having kids with OCD.

Feeling Sorry for Myself?

I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate their

assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I wish that

there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there, how difficult

it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would give if only my son

didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to know that he feels

" different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it just breaks my heart.....

[Guest guest]

I totally get it. Hugs to you!!! I remember when my daughter's OCD and

compulsive hair pulling was totally out of control in fourth grade and I had to

meet with the school to explain it all and later to ask permission for her to

wear a hat if it came to that, and I felt so embarrassed and sad that I had to

have such a meeting.

I go through it now too. While my daughter's OCD is so much better and she has

long beautiful hair now, she is ostracized by so many at school. The grade is

going on a three day trip and I had to speak with the principal about ensuring

that the chaperone knows to make sure she isn't by herself and that there is a

way for both of my children, twins, to take their medication for OCD while on

the trip without other kids knowing about it. I hate that I have to talk about

such things, because there is still such a stigma. I hate to admit it, but I

even wonder if the school people I deal with know enough not to judge me as

lacking in parenting skills for having kids with OCD.

Feeling Sorry for Myself?

I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate their

assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I wish that

there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there, how difficult

it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would give if only my son

didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to know that he feels

" different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it just breaks my heart.....

[Guest guest]

All of school meetings are stressful, IEP/504, school conf.. I work in

sp.ed. so have been on both sides of the table. From my experiences with

Roy, I think I have more empathy for the parents. We do want to say our

piece, give out advice because that is our job. But I don't think we listen

very well since parents usually know more than we do since they live it

every day with their child. I like it the best with Roy and with other IEPs

with my students, when Roy comes to the meetings and talks. I notice it

disarms the professionals and makes them more human. It is stressful for

Roy and we started out having him come for part of the meeting but now he

can make it for the whole meeting. He is 17 so it probably takes some

working up to it if your child is younger. We also go through what he wants

to say before the meeting, mainly things that would be helpful and accom.

for 504.

It is still hard for me to go to parent/teacher conf. and see all the other

parents that I have known for years. They like to tell me about all the

rigorous classes their child takes and how well they do. I know if I was a

better person, I would be happy for them, but it is hard to come out of a

conf. where Roy is struggling and to hear all of that. I have been giving

myself a break and e-mailing them to give me input and sending my husband

to the conf. in WI

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> I totally get it. Hugs to you!!! I remember when my daughter's OCD and

> compulsive hair pulling was totally out of control in fourth grade and I

> had to meet with the school to explain it all and later to ask permission

> for her to wear a hat if it came to that, and I felt so embarrassed and sad

> that I had to have such a meeting.

>

> I go through it now too. While my daughter's OCD is so much better and she

> has long beautiful hair now, she is ostracized by so many at school. The

> grade is going on a three day trip and I had to speak with the principal

> about ensuring that the chaperone knows to make sure she isn't by herself

> and that there is a way for both of my children, twins, to take their

> medication for OCD while on the trip without other kids knowing about it. I

> hate that I have to talk about such things, because there is still such a

> stigma. I hate to admit it, but I even wonder if the school people I deal

> with know enough not to judge me as lacking in parenting skills for having

> kids with OCD.

>

>

> Feeling Sorry for Myself?

>

> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate

> their assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I

> wish that there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there,

> how difficult it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would

> give if only my son didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to

> know that he feels " different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it

> just breaks my heart.....

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

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Sent: Thursday, April 19, 2012 10:22 AM

Subject: Re: Feeling Sorry for Myself?

All of school meetings are stressful, IEP/504, school conf..

> I totally get it. Hugs to you!!! I remember when my daug

[Guest guest]

I know what you mean. IEP meetings are always hard. You're not feeling

sorry for yourself....you're having perfectly normal feelings about your

ds' struggles. We all feel that way at times. Fay

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> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate

> their assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I

> wish that there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there,

> how difficult it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would

> give if only my son didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to

> know that he feels " different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it

> just breaks my heart.....

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I know what you mean. IEP meetings are always hard. You're not feeling

sorry for yourself....you're having perfectly normal feelings about your

ds' struggles. We all feel that way at times. Fay

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> I just came back from my Middle School IEP meeting...While I appreciate

> their assitance & accomodations - I don't think they realize how much I

> wish that there was no need for them....How badly I don't want to be there,

> how difficult it is to hear all about my son's " issues " ....What I would

> give if only my son didn't have these OCD struggles...How painful it is to

> know that he feels " different " I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but it

> just breaks my heart.....

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