If this were your child

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Hi all,

I have had a TERRIBLE year with my dd's teacher. She has not cared one bit about

my dd's OCD. The psychologist that tested her said that my dd has the

" emotional " ocd. She wants to please and gets really upset with herself if she

makes any mistakes. Then it turns to guilt and then she has bad thoughts where

she wants to die. (we've dealt with this.)

The teacher has been a MAJOR trigger for my dd's ocd and guilt. This teacher has

not taught my dd all year (she has an IEP with 400 min. of math and still get's

d's and f's consistantly.) I have been in there fighting almost every month. The

therapist has had two meetings with the teacher/resource teacher as well as the

assistant principal and yet the teacher hasn't cared to deal with any of this.

One of the things this teacher do is have the kids write letters to their

parents and HER stating what they did wrong and that they were sorry that they

did it.

The last time, my dd failed to write her name on the paper she turned in. So she

had to write a letter to me, my husband and the teacher. And she was sorry and

sorry and sorry and so sorry. One of us has to sign the paper. I was so mad at

the teacher for making my daughter do this. I wrote back reminding her that this

feeds into my daughter's guilt that causes her depression to the point she wants

to die because she wants to please and wants to do everything right. I got no

response from the teacher, but my dd thought she saw the teacher and resource

teacher talking about it and the teacher's reply was, " so what?! "

So, today, my dd has brought home yet another paper saying that she failed to

use a certain technique on her math test. (Apparently most of the students

failed to do this as well.) So, she has come home with a note to me, my husband,

and the teacher, stating what she had done, and then apologizing for her failure

to remember. (She has recall issues as part of her auditory processing, etc.)

My first reaction is to not sign it and not let her turn it back in, but then

she might get in trouble for it.

I need to know if I am overreacting to this. Honestly, for a 5th-grade class, I

think this is pretty degrading.

I would appreciate any feedback as I plan on taking it up with the assistant

principal tomorrow, if possible.

Thanks,

Melinda Hall