Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 OCD can bring out the anger. And the therapy for it too. What types of exposures are you trying to do? Maybe you can come up with a plan to begin working on them and how. Some find letting their kids earn rewards helps motivate them to do the exposures/therapy. Rewards can be points, stickers.... Can be simple like their fav dessert/treat/supper, stay up a little later, a fav outing, movie night, or earn towards something from a store Others may find restricting some things more helpful, like less computer or TV time or something (not taking it all away, just less time), may help them to try 5, 10, 15 min of exposures; or the opposite for reward, earn more time.... Start small with exposures and work up over time. It may be as simple as being in the same room for 10 seconds or a whole minute with something OCD despises, etc. Quick thoughts. > > Just wondering how anyone has dealt with anger while trying to do epr. My 7 year old has some " just right " things she does, but if I even bring it up she gets angry about it. I can't even get to the point of exposure. What does this mean? I have let some of her " rules " go because they do not have a huge impact on us. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 The issue is that the compulsion I see is that she can't let the sink get water on it or she has to wipe it dry. Even though it is not impacting us I still need to address it right? It is just difficult because some people may actually do that without having OCD. My daughter just doesn't get why I want her to work on not wiping it. She says it is not mr. Wrong but I know that it is. Sent from my iPhone > OCD can bring out the anger. And the therapy for it too. What types of exposures are you trying to do? > > Maybe you can come up with a plan to begin working on them and how. Some find letting their kids earn rewards helps motivate them to do the exposures/therapy. Rewards can be points, stickers.... Can be simple like their fav dessert/treat/supper, stay up a little later, a fav outing, movie night, or earn towards something from a store > > Others may find restricting some things more helpful, like less computer or TV time or something (not taking it all away, just less time), may help them to try 5, 10, 15 min of exposures; or the opposite for reward, earn more time.... > > Start small with exposures and work up over time. It may be as simple as being in the same room for 10 seconds or a whole minute with something OCD despises, etc. > > Quick thoughts. > > > > > > Just wondering how anyone has dealt with anger while trying to do epr. My 7 year old has some " just right " things she does, but if I even bring it up she gets angry about it. I can't even get to the point of exposure. What does this mean? I have let some of her " rules " go because they do not have a huge impact on us. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 The issue is that the compulsion I see is that she can't let the sink get water on it or she has to wipe it dry. Even though it is not impacting us I still need to address it right? It is just difficult because some people may actually do that without having OCD. My daughter just doesn't get why I want her to work on not wiping it. She says it is not mr. Wrong but I know that it is. Sent from my iPhone > OCD can bring out the anger. And the therapy for it too. What types of exposures are you trying to do? > > Maybe you can come up with a plan to begin working on them and how. Some find letting their kids earn rewards helps motivate them to do the exposures/therapy. Rewards can be points, stickers.... Can be simple like their fav dessert/treat/supper, stay up a little later, a fav outing, movie night, or earn towards something from a store > > Others may find restricting some things more helpful, like less computer or TV time or something (not taking it all away, just less time), may help them to try 5, 10, 15 min of exposures; or the opposite for reward, earn more time.... > > Start small with exposures and work up over time. It may be as simple as being in the same room for 10 seconds or a whole minute with something OCD despises, etc. > > Quick thoughts. > > > > > > Just wondering how anyone has dealt with anger while trying to do epr. My 7 year old has some " just right " things she does, but if I even bring it up she gets angry about it. I can't even get to the point of exposure. What does this mean? I have let some of her " rules " go because they do not have a huge impact on us. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 Hmmm.... Well since she *has* to wipe it dry, then you're right. If she's getting angry about it, maybe try that plan I mentioned. She could start by waiting it out as long as she can before *having* to wipe it. See if she can work up to longer times. See if she can leave the room and wait X time before going back to wipe it. You may have to ignore it when she really needs the sink to use and wipes it, and set up an " OCD homework " time for when she isn't needing it, then purposefully get water on it and work on " bossing back " . Sometimes having " homework time " is better than working on it in the midst of the everyday routine/rush, etc. Quick thoughts, > > The issue is that the compulsion I see is that she can't let the sink get water on it or she has to wipe it dry. Even though it is not impacting us I still need to address it right? It is just difficult because some people may actually do that without having OCD. My daughter just doesn't get why I want her to work on not wiping it. She says it is not mr. Wrong but I know that it is. > > Sent from my iPhone > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 Hmmm.... Well since she *has* to wipe it dry, then you're right. If she's getting angry about it, maybe try that plan I mentioned. She could start by waiting it out as long as she can before *having* to wipe it. See if she can work up to longer times. See if she can leave the room and wait X time before going back to wipe it. You may have to ignore it when she really needs the sink to use and wipes it, and set up an " OCD homework " time for when she isn't needing it, then purposefully get water on it and work on " bossing back " . Sometimes having " homework time " is better than working on it in the midst of the everyday routine/rush, etc. Quick thoughts, > > The issue is that the compulsion I see is that she can't let the sink get water on it or she has to wipe it dry. Even though it is not impacting us I still need to address it right? It is just difficult because some people may actually do that without having OCD. My daughter just doesn't get why I want her to work on not wiping it. She says it is not mr. Wrong but I know that it is. > > Sent from my iPhone > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 Very helpful Chris! Thanks:) I'm learning so much here. Sent from my iPhone > Hmmm.... Well since she *has* to wipe it dry, then you're right. If she's getting angry about it, maybe try that plan I mentioned. She could start by waiting it out as long as she can before *having* to wipe it. See if she can work up to longer times. See if she can leave the room and wait X time before going back to wipe it. > > You may have to ignore it when she really needs the sink to use and wipes it, and set up an " OCD homework " time for when she isn't needing it, then purposefully get water on it and work on " bossing back " . Sometimes having " homework time " is better than working on it in the midst of the everyday routine/rush, etc. > > Quick thoughts, > > > > > > > > The issue is that the compulsion I see is that she can't let the sink get water on it or she has to wipe it dry. Even though it is not impacting us I still need to address it right? It is just difficult because some people may actually do that without having OCD. My daughter just doesn't get why I want her to work on not wiping it. She says it is not mr. Wrong but I know that it is. > > > > Sent from my iPhone > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2012 Report Share Posted January 3, 2012 Very helpful Chris! Thanks:) I'm learning so much here. Sent from my iPhone > Hmmm.... Well since she *has* to wipe it dry, then you're right. If she's getting angry about it, maybe try that plan I mentioned. She could start by waiting it out as long as she can before *having* to wipe it. See if she can work up to longer times. See if she can leave the room and wait X time before going back to wipe it. > > You may have to ignore it when she really needs the sink to use and wipes it, and set up an " OCD homework " time for when she isn't needing it, then purposefully get water on it and work on " bossing back " . Sometimes having " homework time " is better than working on it in the midst of the everyday routine/rush, etc. > > Quick thoughts, > > > > > > > > The issue is that the compulsion I see is that she can't let the sink get water on it or she has to wipe it dry. Even though it is not impacting us I still need to address it right? It is just difficult because some people may actually do that without having OCD. My daughter just doesn't get why I want her to work on not wiping it. She says it is not mr. Wrong but I know that it is. > > > > Sent from my iPhone > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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