Re: Bonnie - how are things?

[Guest guest]

Hi et al...

We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a 6-8

week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

Another thing that is coming to light (according to Yale) is social phobia. SHe

said that really needed exposure therapy for his panic attacks and

social anxiety. Great.....his therapist just had a baby! I'll have to dive

into that with his psychiatrist.

started going to a new school. He's only been three times due to the

flooding we had as a result of Irene. SO far so good, but there is a little

anxiety. I hope that I can get some answers and begin working in a new

direction with therapy to avert any school refusal. He says he likes it a lot

better than the school he went to last spring. I like it much better too.

He started a regular exercise program with my husband and I think it'll help

some - anyway he lost 6lbs! Puberty is definitely beginning - I have been told

all his life that these adolescent years may be a little difficult, but that he

may be much better when fully grown.....I can only pray that's true.

Just found out that my father is terminally ill, and my father in law is

scheduled for a biopsy next week. I hope that these things don't rock the boat

too much. has done so well this summer, and I know that I will be

emotional and lacking the energy to deal with 's issues as closely as I

usually do. When you have kids later in life, you get sandwiched in and I am a

part of that generation.

How are your Boys?

BOnnie

>

> Hi Bonnie, did you get your son evaluated? Seem to recall you were taking him

somewhere...for something other than the OCD. What's the school situation now?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Been part of that sandwich too, Bonnie. It's not an easy place to be. So sorry

to hear of your father and father-in-law.

I'm glad to hear had a good summer and is liking his new school better.

I hope that continues.

In all honesty, I think now that Josh is older, it if easier in some ways and

tougher in others.

BJ

>

> Hi et al...

>

> We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a 6-8

week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

>

> Another thing that is coming to light (according to Yale) is social phobia.

SHe said that really needed exposure therapy for his panic attacks and

social anxiety. Great.....his therapist just had a baby! I'll have to dive

into that with his psychiatrist.

>

> started going to a new school. He's only been three times due to the

flooding we had as a result of Irene. SO far so good, but there is a little

anxiety. I hope that I can get some answers and begin working in a new

direction with therapy to avert any school refusal. He says he likes it a lot

better than the school he went to last spring. I like it much better too.

>

> He started a regular exercise program with my husband and I think it'll help

some - anyway he lost 6lbs! Puberty is definitely beginning - I have been told

all his life that these adolescent years may be a little difficult, but that he

may be much better when fully grown.....I can only pray that's true.

>

> Just found out that my father is terminally ill, and my father in law is

scheduled for a biopsy next week. I hope that these things don't rock the boat

too much. has done so well this summer, and I know that I will be

emotional and lacking the energy to deal with 's issues as closely as I

usually do. When you have kids later in life, you get sandwiched in and I am a

part of that generation.

>

> How are your Boys?

>

> BOnnie

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Been part of that sandwich too, Bonnie. It's not an easy place to be. So sorry

to hear of your father and father-in-law.

I'm glad to hear had a good summer and is liking his new school better.

I hope that continues.

In all honesty, I think now that Josh is older, it if easier in some ways and

tougher in others.

BJ

>

> Hi et al...

>

> We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a 6-8

week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

>

> Another thing that is coming to light (according to Yale) is social phobia.

SHe said that really needed exposure therapy for his panic attacks and

social anxiety. Great.....his therapist just had a baby! I'll have to dive

into that with his psychiatrist.

>

> started going to a new school. He's only been three times due to the

flooding we had as a result of Irene. SO far so good, but there is a little

anxiety. I hope that I can get some answers and begin working in a new

direction with therapy to avert any school refusal. He says he likes it a lot

better than the school he went to last spring. I like it much better too.

>

> He started a regular exercise program with my husband and I think it'll help

some - anyway he lost 6lbs! Puberty is definitely beginning - I have been told

all his life that these adolescent years may be a little difficult, but that he

may be much better when fully grown.....I can only pray that's true.

>

> Just found out that my father is terminally ill, and my father in law is

scheduled for a biopsy next week. I hope that these things don't rock the boat

too much. has done so well this summer, and I know that I will be

emotional and lacking the energy to deal with 's issues as closely as I

usually do. When you have kids later in life, you get sandwiched in and I am a

part of that generation.

>

> How are your Boys?

>

> BOnnie

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think it'll always be trading one issue for another. I am seeing a little

problem solving on his part and I think it's great....

> >

> > Hi et al...

> >

> > We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a

6-8 week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

> >

> > Another thing that is coming to light (according to Yale) is social phobia.

SHe said that really needed exposure therapy for his panic attacks and

social anxiety. Great.....his therapist just had a baby! I'll have to dive

into that with his psychiatrist.

> >

> > started going to a new school. He's only been three times due to

the flooding we had as a result of Irene. SO far so good, but there is a little

anxiety. I hope that I can get some answers and begin working in a new

direction with therapy to avert any school refusal. He says he likes it a lot

better than the school he went to last spring. I like it much better too.

> >

> > He started a regular exercise program with my husband and I think it'll help

some - anyway he lost 6lbs! Puberty is definitely beginning - I have been told

all his life that these adolescent years may be a little difficult, but that he

may be much better when fully grown.....I can only pray that's true.

> >

> > Just found out that my father is terminally ill, and my father in law is

scheduled for a biopsy next week. I hope that these things don't rock the boat

too much. has done so well this summer, and I know that I will be

emotional and lacking the energy to deal with 's issues as closely as I

usually do. When you have kids later in life, you get sandwiched in and I am a

part of that generation.

> >

> > How are your Boys?

> >

> > BOnnie

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie, sounds like you're getting some answers, though maybe none you didn't

know already. But hopefully since it'll be on paper, then they'll have

something to offer about getting any type help/services, either privately or

stuff in school.

I can identify with the social anxiety/phobia, have to work on that myself!

I'm with you and BJ on any differences between child/puberty/adult, sort of

trade one thing for another. Some ways adult is much better (is with my two

typical sons) but with 's Aspergers, just brings another set of

" dilemmas. " Although, speaking of my 2 typical sons - LOL, one which has

anxiety/panic now and the other showing some OCD stuff on top of what I call his

hypochondria symptoms and who still freaks about spiders - yeah, my typical sons

- I do find them much easier as adults than the teen years, easier for me to

step back now (more than they like sometimes I'm sure).

Right now with , his OCD is still apparent. I've asked him a couple

times about that mumbling he does, he shrugs it off, saying he's singing or

something. But watching him try to hide it by a hand " casually " over his mouth

and disappearances to the restroom if we're out somewhere too long -- I can see

it. (The restroom is where he will go when things build up in him)

Anyway, the dilemma with now is that he graduated college and so now

needs a job. YAY that he graduated but a problem for a job with the Aspergers.

He can't just drive himself. He is after me to practice driving, but working

M-F and then the regular household stuff and the extra (still clearing house out

bit by bit from my mom's stuff and trying to get things fixed) doesn't leave me

with energy. I do like some downtime myself! But we did go out driving a few

times, just not to the larger city 30+ minutes away he keeps asking me to. I'm

wanting to feel fine here in the smaller area before I let him drive me there &

around! The good thing is his wanting to, because he wants to be able to drive

the interstate or at least other ways to Chapel Hill, Durham, Raleigh area. I

keep telling him to go out while I'm at work and practice here, there are places

in our town he hasn't driven around, but he just hasn't.

I'm so sorry about your father!! Does he live close by? Wishing the best for

your father-in-law's results!

((hugs))

>

> Hi et al...

>

> We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a 6-8

week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie, sounds like you're getting some answers, though maybe none you didn't

know already. But hopefully since it'll be on paper, then they'll have

something to offer about getting any type help/services, either privately or

stuff in school.

I can identify with the social anxiety/phobia, have to work on that myself!

I'm with you and BJ on any differences between child/puberty/adult, sort of

trade one thing for another. Some ways adult is much better (is with my two

typical sons) but with 's Aspergers, just brings another set of

" dilemmas. " Although, speaking of my 2 typical sons - LOL, one which has

anxiety/panic now and the other showing some OCD stuff on top of what I call his

hypochondria symptoms and who still freaks about spiders - yeah, my typical sons

- I do find them much easier as adults than the teen years, easier for me to

step back now (more than they like sometimes I'm sure).

Right now with , his OCD is still apparent. I've asked him a couple

times about that mumbling he does, he shrugs it off, saying he's singing or

something. But watching him try to hide it by a hand " casually " over his mouth

and disappearances to the restroom if we're out somewhere too long -- I can see

it. (The restroom is where he will go when things build up in him)

Anyway, the dilemma with now is that he graduated college and so now

needs a job. YAY that he graduated but a problem for a job with the Aspergers.

He can't just drive himself. He is after me to practice driving, but working

M-F and then the regular household stuff and the extra (still clearing house out

bit by bit from my mom's stuff and trying to get things fixed) doesn't leave me

with energy. I do like some downtime myself! But we did go out driving a few

times, just not to the larger city 30+ minutes away he keeps asking me to. I'm

wanting to feel fine here in the smaller area before I let him drive me there &

around! The good thing is his wanting to, because he wants to be able to drive

the interstate or at least other ways to Chapel Hill, Durham, Raleigh area. I

keep telling him to go out while I'm at work and practice here, there are places

in our town he hasn't driven around, but he just hasn't.

I'm so sorry about your father!! Does he live close by? Wishing the best for

your father-in-law's results!

((hugs))

>

> Hi et al...

>

> We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a 6-8

week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

>

[Guest guest]

At our hospital (and other rehab facilities), they have driving lessons for

those with neurological impairment.... Don't know if has visuospatial

issues, but it might be something to think about? Also there are life coaches

out there for adults with AS, ADHD. Nonprofit organizations seem to be kinder

places to work, and hospitals are great for those with disabilities ( don't know

what 's major was). It' a tough time in his life....a lot of pressure to

succeed. I remember it.

Palilalia?(is he repeating himself). has done it from time to time to

" make sure I said it right " he told us.

My typical dd sometimes demonstrates a lot of anxiety....I think that to some

extent it's learned behavior (learned how to react like her big brother), and

some of it is that biological component.

I do know a lot about , but I am most interested to know how he learns

and processes information since this affects his stress level that always leads

to breakdowns, and perhaps our past therapeutic approach has not been

appropriate for him. It would be nice to have therapy recommendations so that

our therapist can get started (I don't think she really understands how he

functions and what drives his behavior). Meantime, I'm getting caught up on

some things I have needed to do now that school is in, and I'm taking it a day

at a time.

My dad is in FL and so I've been talking to him frequently and planned a visit

soon. I called my sister and brother and suggested they visit him. Another

thing to take a day at a time.

Wish you all the best

Bonnie

> >

> > Hi et al...

> >

> > We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a

6-8 week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

> >

>

[Guest guest]

At our hospital (and other rehab facilities), they have driving lessons for

those with neurological impairment.... Don't know if has visuospatial

issues, but it might be something to think about? Also there are life coaches

out there for adults with AS, ADHD. Nonprofit organizations seem to be kinder

places to work, and hospitals are great for those with disabilities ( don't know

what 's major was). It' a tough time in his life....a lot of pressure to

succeed. I remember it.

Palilalia?(is he repeating himself). has done it from time to time to

" make sure I said it right " he told us.

My typical dd sometimes demonstrates a lot of anxiety....I think that to some

extent it's learned behavior (learned how to react like her big brother), and

some of it is that biological component.

I do know a lot about , but I am most interested to know how he learns

and processes information since this affects his stress level that always leads

to breakdowns, and perhaps our past therapeutic approach has not been

appropriate for him. It would be nice to have therapy recommendations so that

our therapist can get started (I don't think she really understands how he

functions and what drives his behavior). Meantime, I'm getting caught up on

some things I have needed to do now that school is in, and I'm taking it a day

at a time.

My dad is in FL and so I've been talking to him frequently and planned a visit

soon. I called my sister and brother and suggested they visit him. Another

thing to take a day at a time.

Wish you all the best

Bonnie

> >

> > Hi et al...

> >

> > We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a

6-8 week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry to hear about your father.  My thoughts are with you and your

family.

My dd had a panic attack at a friend's sleep over and was soooo embarressed to

see those kids/parents again!

Sharon

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Sent: Tuesday, September 13, 2011 3:46 PM

Subject: Re: Bonnie - how are things?

 

Hi et al...

We are still having the testing done - it began in late august and it's a 6-8

week process. He has had some cognitive and academic testing done. I won't

have the results for a while, but they told me that he is very bright. I knew

that, but I think the way he expresses it and the way that he learns may be

different. We had a tough time the last time we were there because we had to

evacuate on the previous visit when the earthquake moved the building. It

really freaked out and so the next time we went there, he was afraid and

embarrassed that anyone remembered that he had a panic attack (social anxiety).

Another thing that is coming to light (according to Yale) is social phobia. SHe

said that really needed exposure therapy for his panic attacks and

social anxiety. Great.....his therapist just had a baby! I'll have to dive

into that with his psychiatrist.

started going to a new school. He's only been three times due to the

flooding we had as a result of Irene. SO far so good, but there is a little

anxiety. I hope that I can get some answers and begin working in a new

direction with therapy to avert any school refusal. He says he likes it a lot

better than the school he went to last spring. I like it much better too.

He started a regular exercise program with my husband and I think it'll help

some - anyway he lost 6lbs! Puberty is definitely beginning - I have been told

all his life that these adolescent years may be a little difficult, but that he

may be much better when fully grown.....I can only pray that's true.

Just found out that my father is terminally ill, and my father in law is

scheduled for a biopsy next week. I hope that these things don't rock the boat

too much. has done so well this summer, and I know that I will be

emotional and lacking the energy to deal with 's issues as closely as I

usually do. When you have kids later in life, you get sandwiched in and I am a

part of that generation.

How are your Boys?

BOnnie

>

> Hi Bonnie, did you get your son evaluated? Seem to recall you were taking him

somewhere...for something other than the OCD. What's the school situation now?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

That is great. :~)

BJ

>

> I think it'll always be trading one issue for another. I am seeing a little

problem solving on his part and I think it's great....

>