Re: Re: Husband as trigger for son's OCD

[Guest guest]

Thanks - Childrens Services did come today and wanted to investigage for

medical neglect - hospital did turn us in. CPS said she would wait til Monday to

question son. One thing is sure, that hospital is on my blacklist. I thought

they would give us til tomorrow.

This is so funny. It turns out some of son's hesitation to go has been that Mom

(me) often doesn't keep her promises and backs out of things at the last minute

(ouch). So would she change her mind at the last minute and not let him go? As

soon as he heard CPS was onto me, he figured Mom has to follow through. So he's

got his computer shut down and unplugged. Gone to bed. Says he will get up

tomorrow and go.

This just confirms my opinion that I am having the weirdest dream ever and maybe

I will eventually wake up.

Here's a link to Bon's major points in relating to a BP - it's a free ebook.

http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/wp-content/uploads/4x4ebook.pdf

See what you think. He teaches actual technique to help BPs feel their feelings

are okay, valid and normal, so that they can release and move on.

I am a little nervous about tomorrow. I want to cry a lot and my daughter, who

is going along, keeps asking me if I want son to stay here like he is. Good for

her. There might be a long wait in ER and several days wait to get into a unit.

Son will stay in some kind of holding room til then.

I'm going to remember . She sure went through more than I'm going to, so I

should be able to do it, even without husband. Most important is to get son in

car.

thanks all for thoughts and prayers, I know you'll be here when I come back.

Rhonda

Re: Husband as trigger for son's OCD

Rhonda, Ihope all goes well with the ER and your son. Sounds traumatic. Our

other son with the BP had to be transported in handcuffs from the ER to the

hosp. I guess it was protocol. He wouldn't go get help when he was home over

break but the school acted on it. So it was a pretty dramatic thing but he tells

me he wasn't traumatized. I was traumatized even hearing about it. It was hard

that he was far away when it happened, but I guess that is how it all played

out.

I talked to roy's pdoc today without my husband. He said I had to be stronger

about making him get help. He said he would see him without Roy and see if he

can get him to get help. He had Roy leave the room and then asked if I had

considered leaving him. Pretty heavy question.I hadn't expected that. I guess I

kind of minimize things and have always dealt with crisis, from when I was

young. So I get used to it and don't know any different. He said I need to keep

protecting/standing up for Roy. As far as the soothing stuff, I am pretty calm

person and don't engage him when he starts being irrational. I prob. am too

patient and try to make humor of the weirdness to cope. His thing is to deflect

and get off topic. I thought it was his ADD but it is pretty intentional so now

i think BP. He does need to learn insight b/c he does not see any problem most

of the time and thinks we are ganging up on him. The pdoc said it is part of the

mental illness I guess.

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[Guest guest]

Oh Rhonda, I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this!!! Yes, my

situation was difficult, but you're really going through the ringer! Sorry I

haven't been able to post much this week, it's been a crazy week. But I've been

quickly perusing and trying to follow your posts. I have been thinking about you

and praying for you and your son.

I know this will be really difficult, but what really helps me in times like

this is I sometimes just take it an hour at a time, or even 15 minutes at a time

to get through a really tough ordeal. I know that may sound kind of silly, but

it really does work!

We will all be thinking of you and praying that all goes as smoothly as it can.

Please keep us posted.

Many hugs to you!

> Thanks - Childrens Services did come today and wanted to investigage for

medical neglect - hospital did turn us in. CPS said she would wait til Monday to

question son. One thing is sure, that hospital is on my blacklist. I thought

they would give us til tomorrow.

>

> This is so funny. It turns out some of son's hesitation to go has been that

Mom (me) often doesn't keep her promises and backs out of things at the last

minute (ouch). So would she change her mind at the last minute and not let him

go? As soon as he heard CPS was onto me, he figured Mom has to follow through.

So he's got his computer shut down and unplugged. Gone to bed. Says he will get

up tomorrow and go.

>

> This just confirms my opinion that I am having the weirdest dream ever and

maybe I will eventually wake up.

>

> Here's a link to Bon's major points in relating to a BP - it's a free ebook.

>

> http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/wp-content/uploads/4x4ebook.pdf

>

> See what you think. He teaches actual technique to help BPs feel their

feelings are okay, valid and normal, so that they can release and move on.

>

> I am a little nervous about tomorrow. I want to cry a lot and my daughter, who

is going along, keeps asking me if I want son to stay here like he is. Good for

her. There might be a long wait in ER and several days wait to get into a unit.

Son will stay in some kind of holding room til then.

>

> I'm going to remember . She sure went through more than I'm going to, so

I should be able to do it, even without husband. Most important is to get son in

car.

> thanks all for thoughts and prayers, I know you'll be here when I come back.

> Rhonda

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> Re: Husband as trigger for son's OCD

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> Rhonda, Ihope all goes well with the ER and your son. Sounds traumatic. Our

other son with the BP had to be transported in handcuffs from the ER to the

hosp. I guess it was protocol. He wouldn't go get help when he was home over

break but the school acted on it. So it was a pretty dramatic thing but he tells

me he wasn't traumatized. I was traumatized even hearing about it. It was hard

that he was far away when it happened, but I guess that is how it all played

out.

> I talked to roy's pdoc today without my husband. He said I had to be stronger

about making him get help. He said he would see him without Roy and see if he

can get him to get help. He had Roy leave the room and then asked if I had

considered leaving him. Pretty heavy question.I hadn't expected that. I guess I

kind of minimize things and have always dealt with crisis, from when I was

young. So I get used to it and don't know any different. He said I need to keep

protecting/standing up for Roy. As far as the soothing stuff, I am pretty calm

person and don't engage him when he starts being irrational. I prob. am too

patient and try to make humor of the weirdness to cope. His thing is to deflect

and get off topic. I thought it was his ADD but it is pretty intentional so now

i think BP. He does need to learn insight b/c he does not see any problem most

of the time and thinks we are ganging up on him. The pdoc said it is part of the

mental illness I guess.

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[Guest guest]

what a funny picture , you reading letter! It looks like CPS will have to

go bother someone else, since my son did exactly what he said, he went on

Friday. If Cinci hadn't called CPS, we might have gone down there, so I'm glad

they did!

thanks for hugs, I think I'm done crying for now and will take all I can get

Rhonda

Re: Husband as trigger for son's OCD

Rhonda, just catching up on reading some here and soooo sorry CPS got called!

They have to investigate everyone they get a call on, so I wouldn't worry much

because you HAVE been seeking help for your son, so where is the neglect in

that? Just that you were changing who/where you wanted to get help from, that is

still in the best interests of your son. On the good side, if one, is CPS may be

able to help you navigate all this hospitalization/treatment stuff to get him in

sooner, or maybe help with whatever treatment when he gets out?

I know with my mom (who was elderly, was getting/had dementia, and physically

going downhill), her one doctor that I'd always liked -- well, I saw a letter

(not meant to see) at the nursing home where we ended up having her go (with the

help of that doctor) and the letter FROM THE DOCTOR mentioned if I didn't do

xxxx he was going to call Social Services on me for neglect. Reading the letter

upside down and trying to do it where Social Worker at nursing home didn't see

me; but I sure got a little ticked off when I saw that. Don't remember who the

letter was to.

Hang in there, (((hugs)))

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> Thanks - Childrens Services did come today and wanted to investigage

for medical neglect - hospital did turn us in. CPS said she would wait til

Monday to question son. One thing is sure, that hospital is on my blacklist. I

thought they would give us til tomorrow.

>

> This is so funny. It turns out some of son's hesitation to go has been that

Mom (me) often doesn't keep her promises and backs out of

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much for prayers , your 15 minute strategy worked, I used it a

number of times - still am.

What's your update?

hugs to you

Rhonda

Re: Re: Husband as trigger for son's OCD

Oh Rhonda, I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this!!! Yes, my

situation was difficult, but you're really going through the ringer! Sorry I

haven't been able to post much this week, it's been a crazy week. But I've been

quickly perusing and trying to follow your posts. I have been thinking about you

and praying for you and your son.

I know this will be really difficult, but what really helps me in times like

this is I sometimes just take it an hour at a time, or even 15 minutes at a time

to get through a really tough ordeal. I know that may sound kind of silly, but

it really does work!

We will all be thinking of you and praying that all goes as smoothly as it

can. Please keep us posted.

Many hugs to you!