Therapist Update

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Hello,

I had posted that my therapist wanted to see my husband and I to discuss using a

different technique to discipline our son, aged 6, who at the time she diagnosed

with OCD (intrusive thoughts). I was truly confused why she thought I needed a

new system, since we NEVER discussed what system our house used. I could have

been using 123 Magic all along and she wouldn't have known.

Well... my husband and I watched the movie she requested. Found the DVD

insightful and figured it was interesting enough for us to try. Actually turns

out, I like it.

We go to the therapist, she reprimanded me for starting the program without her

permission..ok.. didn't realize I needed her permission. We talk to her about

that. Then I ask, OK--now what are you going to do to help my son?

She then proceeds to tell my husband and I that my son is psychopath, has been

afraid of himself and his anger issues since an early age. My husband is like

what? Our son is totally different since this all started, he is a different

kid. In years past he would get picked on, my husband would tell him to stand

up for himself and our sweet boy would tell us that he didn't want to hurt the

other kids feelings, or he didn't want to get the other kid in trouble. He was

always kind, a very sweet kid. Now, he sits around thinking about killing

people all day. She says, he was always so thoughtful and nice to others because

he was afraid to unleash his inner hate and rage... SAY WHAT? She makes this

diagnoses of my son after seeing him 3x's. We have only ever talked about this

intrusive thoughts, I have been in this therapy appointments and I have no clue

where she would come up with that diagnoses. I had a previous post in regards to

our last session where she got in to a power struggle with my son in regards to

where he sat. That is the only time I could say that he gave her any type of

hard time. I have never spoken to her at about anything but his intrusive

thoughts and what affect they were having on him.

Again asked her, although I knew at this point I was totally through with her,

is there anyway she can help my son with his thoughts. It is very upsetting to

him to keep thinking about this stuff.

Her response, well come back in a month as a family and we'll have a family

session about setting limits and rules in your house. My husband asked her how

she knows what are rules are, and why she decided that we need help with

that...and how was that going to help our son... her response was basically..

well you couldn't have raised a child like this unless there was a break down in

the household.

I left crying.. just wasted 2 months trying to see if this therapist could help

him. Back to square 1, my son yesterday just looked at me and said Why did God

make him this way? He just wants to be back to normal, wants to know why he

can't he stop thinking about these things. Talked to him about bossing back his

OCD and just hugged him and told him that he is a good boy and that he is going

to get through this that I love him. Really, what else can I do?

I am really just venting... up another night with insomnia.. trying to figure

out what I can do to help my child. Spent all day calling therapist, seems that

NJ is in the need of therapist who can see children sooner then 3-4 months.

Trying to figure out how my husband I can pay for therapy without insurance

help.. costs about 150-200 a pop in NJ. Who is worth that much money for 45

minutes?

Sad and confused

(NJ-6 year old son with OCD)