Guest guest Posted May 16, 2012 Report Share Posted May 16, 2012 Hi t, welcome! These are just some thoughts, trying to think back to when my 3 sons were that age; and you've probably tried some/all this. Maybe lay out the " rules " for him? Take some of the situations you mentioned and set up a plan. Like no " do over " for A, only 2 for B.... Or before he begins any of those tasks, go over it and say now you know before we start this, we will not start any CDs over, we can just not listen to any.... You might just need to pick out 1 or 2 of the problem areas to start with, not tackle all. Sometimes making a game out of things can help. If something has to be perfect, maybe like acting out those scenes -- have fun making up his own scenes, what would he like the story to be.... With an activity, change it up, see how " fast it can be done " or how " slow " , race each other, time it.... Remind him things don't have to be perfect, this is for fun.... If you label it as OCD, give OCD a name, he needs to not " listen " and to " boss back " OCD. Oh, never found all the answers with my own sons, just raising them in general! (not my present OCDer) went thru some " OCD " at a young age like that and sometimes I went along, sometimes refused and sometimes just said you are driving me a little crazy with this .... Sigh! He did get past it all though. My present OCDer is now 23 and didn't have " signs " at that same age. Gotta go, glad you found our group. OH - there are some good childen's books for OCD, he may enjoy some of those! Good parent books too! > > Hi, > > I'm new to the list, but unfortunately not new to OCD, as I have had a > history of OCD myself going back to my childhood. I have noticed that my son > (who is 3, almost 4) has what appear to me to be OCD symptoms of his own and > I'm wondering the best way to handle them. I don't think he needs therapy > at this point, but I need to know how to react when OCD situations arise. > His symptoms usually have to do with wanting to repeat something. For Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2012 Report Share Posted May 16, 2012 It would be great if your could find an OCD therapist who specializes in young children, even for just a consult. My daughter's OCD reared its head as young as yours, and since I have OCD, I realized what I was seeing, but kept hoping that I was wrong about it. It would be good to help him pick a name for the " bully " in his brain that makes him feel he has to redo things and then when he starts crying and getting angry about it, remind him that you are going to fight against " " the bully by not giving into him. You might even want to do the thing with him by telling him you two are going to play a game in which you actually don't recreate the scenes the exact way, but do it with changes. This could get him used to accepting that things don't have to be " just right " . Responding to OCD in 3-year-old Hi, I'm new to the list, but unfortunately not new to OCD, as I have had a history of OCD myself going back to my childhood. I have noticed that my son (who is 3, almost 4) has what appear to me to be OCD symptoms of his own and I'm wondering the best way to handle them. I don't think he needs therapy at this point, but I need to know how to react when OCD situations arise. His symptoms usually have to do with wanting to repeat something. For instance, he enjoys watching DVDs and acting out the scenes with his own toy trains, but if he doesn't do it right or misses something he wants to rewind the DVD back so he can recreate the scene. The problem is sometimes it's never right and he ends up beating up the DVD player (so I've taken it away because it just made him so angry and upset). Or yesterday we were driving in the car listening to one of his CDs and he likes to follow along in the booklet. He got distracted for a second and wanted me to start a track over so he could make sure he had looked at the booklet (which I know from the past can just lead to more such requests ending in total meltdown because it's never exactly what he wants) but I refused to put the track back, which led to a screaming tantrum that lasted until we got to our destination and I finally got him distracted onto another activity. The desire to go back and do something over " right " is not limited to media devices. Sometimes if he isn't satisfied with how something was done, he wants to go back to the very beginning of the activity to do it over again and is not easily distracted from his upset. For instance, he wasn't cooperating getting dressed one day and I dressed him lying down. Even when we were already done and downstairs he was still crying to start over with him standing up. It's so hard to discern the OCD from the normal toddler difficulties, but sometimes I'm very sure it's OCD. How do you react to OCD symptoms in a child so young? I have been trying not to give in to requests to repeat things that I believe are OCD but of course that makes him very upset. I tell him I understand it feels really important, but that it's OCD and it's not real. I'm not sure that's the right way to word it though and appreciate any tips or resources that could help me react in a helpful way. I am expecting our second child this summer so I know it is a difficult time for my son. Thanks for reading! t Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2012 Report Share Posted May 16, 2012 It would be great if your could find an OCD therapist who specializes in young children, even for just a consult. My daughter's OCD reared its head as young as yours, and since I have OCD, I realized what I was seeing, but kept hoping that I was wrong about it. It would be good to help him pick a name for the " bully " in his brain that makes him feel he has to redo things and then when he starts crying and getting angry about it, remind him that you are going to fight against " " the bully by not giving into him. You might even want to do the thing with him by telling him you two are going to play a game in which you actually don't recreate the scenes the exact way, but do it with changes. This could get him used to accepting that things don't have to be " just right " . Responding to OCD in 3-year-old Hi, I'm new to the list, but unfortunately not new to OCD, as I have had a history of OCD myself going back to my childhood. I have noticed that my son (who is 3, almost 4) has what appear to me to be OCD symptoms of his own and I'm wondering the best way to handle them. I don't think he needs therapy at this point, but I need to know how to react when OCD situations arise. His symptoms usually have to do with wanting to repeat something. For instance, he enjoys watching DVDs and acting out the scenes with his own toy trains, but if he doesn't do it right or misses something he wants to rewind the DVD back so he can recreate the scene. The problem is sometimes it's never right and he ends up beating up the DVD player (so I've taken it away because it just made him so angry and upset). Or yesterday we were driving in the car listening to one of his CDs and he likes to follow along in the booklet. He got distracted for a second and wanted me to start a track over so he could make sure he had looked at the booklet (which I know from the past can just lead to more such requests ending in total meltdown because it's never exactly what he wants) but I refused to put the track back, which led to a screaming tantrum that lasted until we got to our destination and I finally got him distracted onto another activity. The desire to go back and do something over " right " is not limited to media devices. Sometimes if he isn't satisfied with how something was done, he wants to go back to the very beginning of the activity to do it over again and is not easily distracted from his upset. For instance, he wasn't cooperating getting dressed one day and I dressed him lying down. Even when we were already done and downstairs he was still crying to start over with him standing up. It's so hard to discern the OCD from the normal toddler difficulties, but sometimes I'm very sure it's OCD. How do you react to OCD symptoms in a child so young? I have been trying not to give in to requests to repeat things that I believe are OCD but of course that makes him very upset. I tell him I understand it feels really important, but that it's OCD and it's not real. I'm not sure that's the right way to word it though and appreciate any tips or resources that could help me react in a helpful way. I am expecting our second child this summer so I know it is a difficult time for my son. Thanks for reading! t Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2012 Report Share Posted May 17, 2012 My son was diagnosed at 3 with severe OCD but had likely been moderate as early as 9 months old or likely even from birth. My advice is to find a good CBT/ERP therapist who is experienced with very young children ( very hard to find) and get some information on how to treat. If this is OCD, the sooner you start exposures on it, the better because in my experience, once it gets rolling it can explode very fast and when it explodes, it is MUCH harder to treat. (analogy to cancer- easier if it is localized, harder if metastatic). In the meantime, while looking for a therapist, you can help him make a fear hirarchy, and begin to tackle the things one at a time as a specific " time out from life " type exposure. YOu are going to practice doing stuff " wrong " . My son used to make " set ups " with playmobiles at that age which took hours to create " right " then couldnt be touched ever again. They were museum pieces essentially. Our babysitter even got him little bits of museum wax and tiny little red ropes to rope them off ( kind of as a joke) before we realized we actually needed to treat the " set ups " with exposures. It is really hard at age 3 ( and with a new baby- my son was 20 months when we had our second and clearly had OCD, but was my first and I thought he was just a very persnickety toddler) but also in my experience really important to work on. No time to be more extensive right now, but happy to discuss more rx in the very young child if you would like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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