success

[Guest guest]

My 8 yo dd has not been dx, but we feel she has a little anxiety and ocd, but

not enough that it causes problems in her daily life.  She has always had some

social anxiety, most people call her " shy " because of it.  Last year at her

school concert, she had a meltdown before it started and said her tummy hurt. 

She had just gotten over being sick, so we thought she really was not feeling

good. Shortly after that, we found out there was a bully situation in school and

she and her BFF had been bullied.  She was supposed to be standing in front of

the bully at the concert.  We figured that was the problem.  She had done fine

at her concerts the 2 years prior.  She had this year's concert last night.  She

seemed ok, until we were at school waiting for it to begin.  She had a panic

attack, but we were able to talk through it, and work it out.  First, she wanted

to stand by a friend.  I told her she would HAVE to commit to going on stage if

we asked

the teacher to move someone.  She would not commit.  Then she said she wanted

to move, to the middle row.  She is very small and is always in the front row. 

She HATES attention drawn to herself and the thought of being in the front row

was making her panic.  We talked and she said she would go on stage if she could

move to the middle row.  We talked to her teacher, who agreed, and put her by a

friend.  She said she would do it, but not sign.  It was very difficult for her,

but she did it, AND sang, AND smiled!!  It would have been so easy to not make

her do it, but I am so glad we did.  She did great and was so proud!!!!  I feel

lucky that she was able to express what the problem was and we were able to

brainstorm how to fix it.  We told her teacher next year to remember to not put

her in the front row. 

Sharon

[Guest guest]

That is great Sharon.  When my daughter was that age, it was really helpful for

her to write a little blurp and draw a picture of what she had been afraid to do

but what she DID do.  We proudly posted it on the refrigerator and later would

move it into a memory book.  It was very therapeutic for her to be able to look

back at the things she was able to accomplish in spite of all the anxiety.

Way to go!!!

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To: " " < >

Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 11:54 AM

Subject: success

 

My 8 yo dd has not been dx, but we feel she has a little anxiety and ocd, but

not enough that it causes problems in her daily life.  She has always had some

social anxiety, most people call her " shy " because of it.  Last year at her

school concert, she had a meltdown before it started and said her tummy hurt. 

She had just gotten over being sick, so we thought she really was not feeling

good. Shortly after that, we found out there was a bully situation in school and

she and her BFF had been bullied.  She was supposed to be standing in front of

the bully at the concert.  We figured that was the problem.  She had done fine

at her concerts the 2 years prior.  She had this year's concert last night. 

She seemed ok, until we were at school waiting for it to begin.  She had a

panic attack, but we were able to talk through it, and work it out.  First, she

wanted to stand by a friend.  I told her she would HAVE to commit to going on

stage if we asked

the teacher to move someone.  She would not commit.  Then she said she wanted

to move, to the middle row.  She is very small and is always in the front

row.  She HATES attention drawn to herself and the thought of being in the

front row was making her panic.  We talked and she said she would go on stage

if she could move to the middle row.  We talked to her teacher, who agreed, and

put her by a friend.  She said she would do it, but not sign.  It was very

difficult for her, but she did it, AND sang, AND smiled!!  It would have been

so easy to not make her do it, but I am so glad we did.  She did great and was

so proud!!!!  I feel lucky that she was able to express what the problem was

and we were able to brainstorm how to fix it.  We told her teacher next year to

remember to not put her in the front row. 

Sharon

[Guest guest]

That is great Sharon.  When my daughter was that age, it was really helpful for

her to write a little blurp and draw a picture of what she had been afraid to do

but what she DID do.  We proudly posted it on the refrigerator and later would

move it into a memory book.  It was very therapeutic for her to be able to look

back at the things she was able to accomplish in spite of all the anxiety.

Way to go!!!

________________________________

To: " " < >

Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 11:54 AM

Subject: success

 

My 8 yo dd has not been dx, but we feel she has a little anxiety and ocd, but

not enough that it causes problems in her daily life.  She has always had some

social anxiety, most people call her " shy " because of it.  Last year at her

school concert, she had a meltdown before it started and said her tummy hurt. 

She had just gotten over being sick, so we thought she really was not feeling

good. Shortly after that, we found out there was a bully situation in school and

she and her BFF had been bullied.  She was supposed to be standing in front of

the bully at the concert.  We figured that was the problem.  She had done fine

at her concerts the 2 years prior.  She had this year's concert last night. 

She seemed ok, until we were at school waiting for it to begin.  She had a

panic attack, but we were able to talk through it, and work it out.  First, she

wanted to stand by a friend.  I told her she would HAVE to commit to going on

stage if we asked

the teacher to move someone.  She would not commit.  Then she said she wanted

to move, to the middle row.  She is very small and is always in the front

row.  She HATES attention drawn to herself and the thought of being in the

front row was making her panic.  We talked and she said she would go on stage

if she could move to the middle row.  We talked to her teacher, who agreed, and

put her by a friend.  She said she would do it, but not sign.  It was very

difficult for her, but she did it, AND sang, AND smiled!!  It would have been

so easy to not make her do it, but I am so glad we did.  She did great and was

so proud!!!!  I feel lucky that she was able to express what the problem was

and we were able to brainstorm how to fix it.  We told her teacher next year to

remember to not put her in the front row. 

Sharon

[Guest guest]

That is great Sharon.  When my daughter was that age, it was really helpful for

her to write a little blurp and draw a picture of what she had been afraid to do

but what she DID do.  We proudly posted it on the refrigerator and later would

move it into a memory book.  It was very therapeutic for her to be able to look

back at the things she was able to accomplish in spite of all the anxiety.

Way to go!!!

________________________________

To: " " < >

Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 11:54 AM

Subject: success

 

My 8 yo dd has not been dx, but we feel she has a little anxiety and ocd, but

not enough that it causes problems in her daily life.  She has always had some

social anxiety, most people call her " shy " because of it.  Last year at her

school concert, she had a meltdown before it started and said her tummy hurt. 

She had just gotten over being sick, so we thought she really was not feeling

good. Shortly after that, we found out there was a bully situation in school and

she and her BFF had been bullied.  She was supposed to be standing in front of

the bully at the concert.  We figured that was the problem.  She had done fine

at her concerts the 2 years prior.  She had this year's concert last night. 

She seemed ok, until we were at school waiting for it to begin.  She had a

panic attack, but we were able to talk through it, and work it out.  First, she

wanted to stand by a friend.  I told her she would HAVE to commit to going on

stage if we asked

the teacher to move someone.  She would not commit.  Then she said she wanted

to move, to the middle row.  She is very small and is always in the front

row.  She HATES attention drawn to herself and the thought of being in the

front row was making her panic.  We talked and she said she would go on stage

if she could move to the middle row.  We talked to her teacher, who agreed, and

put her by a friend.  She said she would do it, but not sign.  It was very

difficult for her, but she did it, AND sang, AND smiled!!  It would have been

so easy to not make her do it, but I am so glad we did.  She did great and was

so proud!!!!  I feel lucky that she was able to express what the problem was

and we were able to brainstorm how to fix it.  We told her teacher next year to

remember to not put her in the front row. 

Sharon