Guest guest Posted January 12, 2012 Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Hello, I just want to know how others deal with being around a child they love who is constantly unhappy. I can't seem to help her find happiness. She is ten and has OCD, but depression seems to be more of an issue for her. It is difficult to spend time with her because it really sucks the life out of me and I'm her mother. I do love her, but I don't know what to do to help her be more positive. We are trying Luvox. The intial response was very good, but then it stopped helping her mood. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this type of child? I can see her friendships suffering and it breaks my heart, but I understand because I am struggling with how to handle her negativity, too. This is my first desperate post. Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Hey, I know what you're going through--it's definitely drains the life out of you when your child is emotionally unwell. My daughter also suffers depression, though hers seems to directly result from her struggles with OCD. When her OCD is under control, her mood is great. However when her OCD is really flaring up--like it has been for the past month--she is an emotional wreck and very depressed and explosive. Her anxiety is so high, she struggles with homework, and can't sleep at night. With her, she is so obsessed with being " good " and " perfect " she puts on a cheery, pleasant front at school with her teachers and friends, but then falls apart the minute she gets home. These days I have to really psych myself up when it's time to pick her up from school, as I dread the rest of the afternoon/evening. It totally depletes my patience and affects our whole household.  Also, I don't know where you live, but we're in the Midwest where it's quite cold right now. Her OCD/anxiety/depression is always at its worst at this time of year, with less sunshine and outdoor time. Anyway, my heart goes out to you and your daughter; just remember you're not alone--so many families struggle with these issues, as well as more serious/traumatic things.  I hope you have a nice weekend!  Best, Jen ________________________________ To: Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 8:42 PM Subject: depression issues  Hello, I just want to know how others deal with being around a child they love who is constantly unhappy. I can't seem to help her find happiness. She is ten and has OCD, but depression seems to be more of an issue for her. It is difficult to spend time with her because it really sucks the life out of me and I'm her mother. I do love her, but I don't know what to do to help her be more positive. We are trying Luvox. The intial response was very good, but then it stopped helping her mood. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this type of child? I can see her friendships suffering and it breaks my heart, but I understand because I am struggling with how to handle her negativity, too. This is my first desperate post. Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012  Hey, I know what you're going through--it's definitely drains the life out of you when your child is emotionally unwell. My daughter also suffers depression, though hers seems to directly result from her struggles with OCD. When her OCD is under control, her mood is great. However when her OCD is really flaring up--like it has been for the past month--she is an emotional wreck and very depressed and explosive. Her anxiety is so high, she struggles with homework, and can't sleep at night. With her, she is so obsessed with being " good " and " perfect " she puts on a cheery, pleasant front at school with her teachers and friends, but then falls apart the minute she gets home. These days I have to really psych myself up when it's time to pick her up from school, as I dread the rest of the afternoon/evening. It totally depletes my patience and affects our whole household.  Also, I don't know where you live, but we're in the Midwest where it's quite cold right now. Her OCD/anxiety/depression is always at its worst at this time of year, with less sunshine and outdoor time. Anyway, my heart goes out to you and your daughter; just remember you're not alone--so many families struggle with these issues, as well as more serious/traumatic things.  I hope you have a nice weekend!  Best, Jen ________________________________ To: Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 8:42 PM Subject: depression issues  Hello, I just want to know how others deal with being around a child they love who is constantly unhappy. I can't seem to help her find happiness. She is ten and has OCD, but depression seems to be more of an issue for her. It is difficult to spend time with her because it really sucks the life out of me and I'm her mother. I do love her, but I don't know what to do to help her be more positive. We are trying Luvox. The intial response was very good, but then it stopped helping her mood. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this type of child? I can see her friendships suffering and it breaks my heart, but I understand because I am struggling with how to handle her negativity, too. This is my first desperate post. Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Has her doctor prescribing the Luvox commented? How long has she been on the Luvox, if not long then maybe when it helps her OCD her mood will lighten. Don't forget that a person could get depressed *after* a medication, was she this way before Luvox? Also, sometimes a 2nd medication is needed to lift depression, the SSRIs may not help with that aspect. If depressed due to having OCD it might as OCD improves, but with depression it's not always related to OCD. Well - that didn't really help with an answer on how to deal with it, lol! In addition, I'd just continue to be encouraging also. Is she quietly unhappy, just uninterested in things, or teary or complaining/down on life...?? ((hugs)) > > Hello, > > I just want to know how others deal with being around a child they love who is constantly unhappy. I can't seem to help her find happiness. She is ten and has OCD, but depression seems to be more of an issue for her. It is difficult to spend time with her because it really sucks the life out of me and I'm her mother. I do love her, but I don't know what to do to help her be more positive. We are trying Luvox. The intial response was very good, but then it stopped helping her mood. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this type of child? I can see her friendships suffering and it breaks my heart, but I understand because I am struggling with how to handle her negativity, too. > > This is my first desperate post. Thanks. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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