clarification on Holland writing :0)

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Hi Jordana,

Realized in my last email misspelled your name. Think I got it correct this

time.

Went to turn off the computer for the evening, and likley a few days due to the

holiday and realized when I read your first note about Holland and Italy, I read

it differently than you wrote it. To clarify-- for me since I was told the

writing was a good way to describe any disability or special need to someone on

the outside looking in at it-- when I read the writing I see Holland as our

realizing we are working with OCD (or possibly what you thought of as Italy--as

I reread your email on how you read it earlier today re: destinations in the

writing.) I also see Italy as where my friends are that do not have children

with special needs like I do. So apparently my explanation of my " Holland "

being truly a place of beauty to me may mean more if I share when I thought I

was having a child reading it and going to Italy, ended up landing in Holland,

which is how the story in the book I am reading has it written. I suppose it

could have been written in differnt ways, or interpreted by people differently).

Regardless of however each person who reads it interprets the writing, my intent

is to say that my child is so much more to me than what we are going through. I

would be pleased to be her Mother if I lived in Italy, Holland or China. It is

not the place, but the child that is the gift to me. Even on the very

challenging and hard days. :0) For the benefit of those in this forum who

have not read the writing, I thought it would be helpful to clarify I read it

over and over and got the opposite of your email that Italy was where we thought

we were headed, but landed in Holland. I am sure I could find tulips in Italy

as well. I am glad to put this out there if anyone wants to read the story,

likley googling it online should bring it up then anyone who wants to read it

can and hopefully this will help others too. That is the great thing about

writing, it often speaks to people in so many differnt ways.

I wish you all a nice 4th of July!!

Will be back online in a few days.

Beginning The Process

My wife brought my son (who shows a lot of the symptoms associated with OCD)

to an OCD clinic last Monday. But he was close-lipped and did not want to talk

about anything. I spoke at length with the therapist later in the week. She

stated that there cannot be any treatment until he accepts there is a problem

and is a willing participant. Her only advice was that things will continue to

get worse for him and everyone until we confront this. This would be nothing

less than an intervention where we provide him with an ultimatum. This would be

to participate in the treatment program or be checked into a psychiatric unit at

a hospital when his issues flare up. Typically, they don't want the hospital

alternative, but have to know that we are serious about this. Well, we did not

have to wait long until his next episode. We had a day of reprieve on Saturday

and then Sunday he started the day off argumentative and wouldn't back down when

my wife told him to go to his room. It was time !

I called the Psychiatric Hot Line which informed me that I had to call 911

and request an officer trained in psychiatric emergencies. She then informed me

that unless he was perceived as dangerous to others or himself there is nothing

they would do. I called the non-emergency number for the police who confirmed

this but also thought that maybe having an officer show up would help. I cannot

explain all of the emotions I was experiencing at the time. How could this be

happening? Was I doing the right thing? Guilt, Anger, Shame, etc. This is tough

stuff!!!!

We did confront him and told him the options. To get checked into a

psychiatric hospital or see the Director at the local Anxiety and OCD clinic. I

spoke with him on Friday who basically reiterated the same thing that the

therapist did, that unless he was willing to participate, there was nothing that

they could do. He suggested that he meet with him if he was willing to do so.

Our son reluctantly agreed to meet with him yesterday following the

confrontation, but also understood that if this did not work that we would have

to resort to the hospital. Things started to calm down and now we await the

meeting with the Director. I can only hope that he opens to this.

I am totally second guessing myself and would greatly appreciate any words

on this. Thanks.