more school troubles

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Hi everyone. I posted a few weeks back about problems ds was having in

school. I got a positive response from administrators, but even so the

teacher that is triggering his anxiety seems unable to stop herself. At

this point there is nowhere else to place him besides that class. He has

the option of leaving the room to go to the office, but then all he can do

is sit there and wait until the therapist is available to help him. It

feels like absolute torture to him.

Ds has been saying that if this continues he won't go to school/class. I

can get him in the building, but I don't see the point of sending him just

so he can sit in the office feeling like a failure and out of place. I plan

on keeping him home tomorrow, maybe Friday as well to let him rebound.

I know it's not recommended to do this as the child may end up becoming

school phobic, but he's already at the point where he's in too deep and

will only end up making more negative associations with the setting. The

teacher ignores my efforts to communicate, and I feel that I've gotten as

much as I can from the administrators at this point.

I've told them that ds doesn't want to go to school anymore, but am not

being offered any sort of concrete plan, just offers for ds to take a break

whenever he wants. They probably think he can hobble through the next 3

weeks or so until school ends, which means that they just don't believe

it's as urgent as I have been trying to convey.

This is a private school with many positives, and I think that next year's

teachers will be better for him. There are really no other options for him.

I searched and visited many schools for him last year, but there is nothing

that is a perfect fit for him.

Prior to this ds never refused to go to school, even when he was miserable

in public school. It was easier in those larger settings to find safe

havens for him.

It's really been a tough week for us.

Fay