Guest guest Posted July 22, 2006 Report Share Posted July 22, 2006 Hi Rhoda, I can tell you from experience that there's probably nothing you can do to speed up the BM thing. We had the same experience with urinating in the potty -- my son got that part quickly, but Dr. G told me quite frankly that " number two " is simply developmental and we would have to wait until he was ready. We tried every single motivation, trick, and technique to get him to do it. Fact was, he simply couldn't FEEL the BM urge yet. And if your son can sit in his squishy pants without letting you know about it (like mine did!), then you *really* know he's not ready. What we ended up doing was keep track of what time of day he usually had his bowel movements, and having him wear a pull-up during those hours. That made clean-ups, if not a breeze, certainly less miserable. My son finally started doing his BM's in the toilet about a year after he started peeing there. Hopefully, you won't have to wait so long! Donna > > Hi everyone! I'm just posting to see if anyone has any tricks re: toilet training for bowel movements. My son got the hang of it very quickly for urination (we started 10 days ago and he had it nailed in about 7 days), but he refuses to go on the toilet for bowel movements. When he goes in his pants I explain to him that he needs to go on the toilet and he says (limited vocabulary -- only about 15 words) " no " . I explain that big boys go on the toilet, etc., etc. but he just won't. > > A lot of people have told me that this part comes later, but as you can imagine, the clean up is brutal so I would like to expediate the process if possible. > > If anyone has a tip or trick they think might work, you can e-mail me offline at rboyd@... > > Thanks, > > Rhoda > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2006 Report Share Posted July 22, 2006 I also kept track of what time of day it usually came around, however, I had to completely remove pull-ups because my son felt to comfortable going in them, once I figured out the general time of day (his was after a nap around lunch time) I watched him like a hawk and even let him run around naked at our house, this took a couple weeks but if I didn't take my eyes off of him, I usually could figure out when he was had to go, then literally at the last moment I would put him on the potty (therefore, he couldn't stop the act in progress). It was a pain, but it worked, once he connected the BMs to the potty, now he goes there. He will have the occasional incident with a BM accident, but its rare, and its usually when he is really tired and is being lazy, he just turned 4 last week and we started this around 3.5. I think that BMs are traditionally harder for neurotypical kids as well, in that it takes a little longer then learning to urinate in the potty. Re: Toilet Training - BMs Hi Rhoda, I can tell you from experience that there's probably nothing you can do to speed up the BM thing. We had the same experience with urinating in the potty -- my son got that part quickly, but Dr. G told me quite frankly that " number two " is simply developmental and we would have to wait until he was ready. We tried every single motivation, trick, and technique to get him to do it. Fact was, he simply couldn't FEEL the BM urge yet. And if your son can sit in his squishy pants without letting you know about it (like mine did!), then you *really* know he's not ready. What we ended up doing was keep track of what time of day he usually had his bowel movements, and having him wear a pull-up during those hours. That made clean-ups, if not a breeze, certainly less miserable. My son finally started doing his BM's in the toilet about a year after he started peeing there. Hopefully, you won't have to wait so long! Donna > > Hi everyone! I'm just posting to see if anyone has any tricks re: toilet training for bowel movements. My son got the hang of it very quickly for urination (we started 10 days ago and he had it nailed in about 7 days), but he refuses to go on the toilet for bowel movements. When he goes in his pants I explain to him that he needs to go on the toilet and he says (limited vocabulary -- only about 15 words) " no " . I explain that big boys go on the toilet, etc., etc. but he just won't. > > A lot of people have told me that this part comes later, but as you can imagine, the clean up is brutal so I would like to expediate the process if possible. > > If anyone has a tip or trick they think might work, you can e-mail me offline at rboyd@... > > Thanks, > > Rhoda > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2006 Report Share Posted July 22, 2006 Rhonda, Before we started training we read books about " the potty. " When he was young, my son never gave me an indication one way or another that he was ready for being toilet trained. If you wait for signs, it will never happen. I just started training him. He was three in a half and I woke up one day and said, " I guess it is time for to learn to be toilet-trained. " I did the same thing I did with my daughter. I put up a piece of construction paper on the wall of the bathroom. I made a big deal out of picking out stickers at the store. One kind of sticker was for " Pee Pee " and one for " Poopie. " We also picked out " big boy " underpants. (Although he didn't act like he cared we still did this.) I stayed home for two days and put him in the underpants (not pull-ups because our kids do not like being wet) and when I had to go I would put him on the toilet too. My needs reminded me not to forget to put him on the toilet. The first time he used the toilet, we danced around the house, called Dad, and were singing with delight this stupid song that our family always sings when something great happens. Within two days, he was trained for daytime. I didn't even attempt nighttime until he woke up dry. Then I yanked off the diaper and put him on the toilet. That is part of the problem with these kids. I never knew one way or another if he was listening or understood a thing I said. I think parents sometimes stop talking to their kids because they don't get an indication one way or another that their child is listening. Don't make that common mistake. It wasn't until he was older that I realized he understood everything I said, but didn't know how to respond or show me he was listening. Hope this helps, Marcia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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