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Re: No takers...

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-------------- Original message -------------- From: "Christel King" <christelking1verizon (DOT) net>

If you are a mom:1. What things did you do successfully to get your man involved in thetreatments ofautism?

HE SHOPS FOR FOOD ON HIS WAY HOME FOR WORK SO I DON'T HAVE TO DRIVE AND HOUR THERE AND BACK TO THE HEALTH FOOD STORE. HE FEELS MANNLY GRILLING SO I PUT THAT TO USE, HE MAKES LAMB BURGERS, TURKEY BURGERS, BUFFALO BURGERS AND VENSION BURGERS FOR MEALS ON A ROTATIONS SCALE ( WE ARE ALLERGIC TO BEEF AND PORK) SAME WITH KABOBS. HE WILL GIVE SUPPLIMENTS IF I LEAVE A LIST OF THEM TO DO, HOW TO DO THEM, AND AT WHAT TIME OR WITH OR WITH MEALS ECT.....HE DOES KNOW WHAT IS SAFE FOR MY KIDS TO EAT AND WON'T GIVE THINGS OUTSIDE OF THAT2. What did you try that didn't work?

ANY SPECIAL ORDERS, UNLESS HE HAS SEEN US USE IT FOR MONTHS, HE WON'T BE ABLE TO PICK IT UP, OR PHONE AN ORDER IN, EVEN WITH THE INFO ALL THERE3. What disappointed you the most about your spouse?

HIS LACK OF RESEARCH AND INFO GATHERING, PATIENCE WITH OUR SON DURRING INFRACTIONS AND HIM BEING "OFF" COMMUNICATION WITH OUR CHILD EFFECTED IN THE WAY HE "NEEDS TO BE TALKED TO". MY BIGGEST COMPLAINT WOULD BE DEFENDING ME TO HIS PARENTS WITH WHAT WE ARE DOING, HIS MOTHER BASHES ME TO ALL THE FAMILY ON BEING CRAZY AND MAKING MY SON EAT ALL THESE CRAZY FOODS AND NOT LETTING HIM HAVE NORMAL THINGS LIKE FRUITY PEPPLES AND STRAWBERRY MILK ECT, EVEN THOUGH HE IS IGE ALLERGIC TO MANY THINGS. HE DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING TO KEEP THE PEACE HE SAYS BUT IT MAKES OUR SON UNSAFE FOR HER TO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY WE DO WHAT WE DO......AND IT ALWAYS MAKES ME THE BAD GUY. HECK THEY DON'T THINK ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH OUR SON, EVEN FROM THE BEGGINING, THEN WHEN HE IS NOW RECOVERED THAT MEANS I ALSO DON'T GET CREDIT FOR ALL OUR WORK!!4. What were/are you most grateful for about your spouse?

COOPERATION WITH WHAT I AM DOING WEITHER HE UNDERSTANDS IT OR NOT, HE DOES TRUST ME TO TAKE THIS ON5. What would you most want men to know about this journey as far as how itaffects thethe woman?

OUR DREAMS DIE THE DAY WE GET THE DX TOO, NOT ABOUT THINGS LIKE BALL GAMES ECT BUT WE ARE HOME ALL DAY WITH A CHILD WE CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITH NOW, HIS FUTURE IS GONE WITH MARRIAGE AND THE THINGS THAT MAKE "US" HAPPY AND FUFILLED, AND WE MAY HAVE TO CARE FOR THEM FOR LIFE, BIOMEDICAL GIVES THE HOPE A CHANCE.....JUST ON THAT ALONE WHY NOT TRY IT! WE FIND OUR IDENTITY IN OUR HOME AND CHILDREN, WHEN THEY LOOSE THERE CHANCE AT LIFE, WE FEEL IT AS MORE THEN JUST OUR KID, BUT OUR IDENITY AS THOUGH WE HAVE FAILED AT PART OF WHAT OUR LIFE IS ABOUT, AND MISSION IS. WE ARE ALL THE SUDDEN AN UNSUCCESS,6. How does sex factor into your relationship through this journey?

SEX, WHATS THAT!!! BIOMEDICALLY MOM IS BROKEN THERE.....ANY HAVE INFO ON NO LABIDO AND HOW TO FIX IT. LDN HELPED BUT I AM NURSING RIGHT NOW AND CAN'T DO IT. 7. What has been the hardest part of all for you?

GOING FROM VERY SOCIAL TO NO SOCIALABILITY. OUR SON IS SO SENSITIVE TO GLUTEN HE SEIZERS TO FLYING FLOUR USED 3 DAYS BEFORE IN A ROOM, SO EATING OUT IT A NO NO, MALL FOOD COURTS, EATING AT OTHER PEOPLES HOUSE, GOING TO BOWLING ALLIES WHERE PEOPLE EAT AND THINGS ARE STERILIZED ECT. IT'S TO EXPENSIVE TO HAVE OTHER OVER TO EAT OUR DIET AND FOODS, AND EVEN CHURCH DINNERS ARE DANGEROUS AS HE LIKES TO PLAY WITH OTHER KIDS WHO HAVE BEEN EATING UNSAFE THINGS. SCHOOL HAS WORKED WITH US TO BE SAFE, (CHANGEING ALL THE SCHOOL SUPPLIES, SOAPS AND LOTIONS AND CLEANING SUPPLIES) AS HAD HIS CHILDRENS CHURCH CLASS, BUT A CHAIOS SITUATION IS TO HARD TO CONTROL. HUBBY IS "ADD WITH A TOUCH OF ASPIE" SO HE DOESN'T NEED SOCIAL- AND IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH IT ALL ANY HOW, BUT MAMA DOES LIKE AND NEED IT.....AND ALSO ON THE DIET....8. During the journey, what has been your biggest fear... the scariest thingthat you wo uldhave liked to have had more help in dealing with... the fear that you couldn'tverbalize toyour spouse.

THAT WE WEREN'T GOING TO GET OUR SON BACK AFTER POORING OUT TONS OF MONEY TO DO IT, HUBBY LOST HIS JOB AT ONE POINT, "ONE INCOME HOUSEHOLD" AND OUR SON WAS DOING WELL UP TO THAT POINT, AND NOT BEING ABLE TO "LET THINGS JUST GO" WITH OUR SON WHEN WE COULDN'T AFFORD TO KEEP GOING. WE SOLD OUR HOME TO CONTINUE AND MOVED TO A PLACE THAT BETTER SERVICED HIM FOR THE TIME WE NEEDED TO, AND ARE AGAIN GETTING READY TO MOVE TO A CHEEPER AREA IN STATES FARTHER AWAY WITH NO FAMILY TO CONTINUE YET AGAIN TILL THINGS AREN'T NEEDED ANYMORE. TALKING ABOUT IF I DIED WHAT WOULD HAPPEN AS AGAIN HE IS THE WORKER AND I AM THE AUTISM IMPLIMATER......WHAT WOULD HAPPEN, WE STILL DON'T HAVE AN ANSWER ON THAT. WE HAVE NO SAVEINGS, LIFE INSURENCE, EQUIDY IN A HOUSE, ECT.......AUTISM HAS CHANGED US AND OUR PRIORITIES VIEWING IT AS FIXING IT BEFORE MORE DAMAGE IS DONE, LEAVING US WITH NOTHING IF SOMETHING HAPPENED TO THE REST OF US. THAT IS A SCARY PLACE TO BE.Feel free to tell me a story that explains your answer.If you are a Dad:1. What helped you to get involved in helping your child?2. What was the hardest part of this journey for you?3. What would you suggest to mom's to get their spouses more involved?4. What would you want women to know about men and how they deal with all this?5. What is your exact role in your child's recovery and why did you choose thatrole?6. How does sex factor into your relationship through this journey?7. During the journey, what has been your biggest fear... the scariest thingthat you wouldhave liked to have had more help in dealing with... the fear that you couldn'tverbalize toyour spouse.

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