Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 Hi...my name is Maggie, and I have a son, Aiden...27 months. A brief history: Aiden was born with with an isolated soft, cleft palate. He had the cord wrapped around his neck and needed oxygen/low APGAR score. Aiden was developing normally, although he had GERD and we found a small hole in his heart. Before his first palate repair, at 5 1/2 months, he was babbling and we were attempting feeding him baby oatmeal, etc. He had a palate repair at 6 months that opened up 5 days post op with massive bleeding. He then had an ER repair that opened up the next morning. After much testing, it was determined he had a bleeding disorder. He had a third palate repair at 9 months with medication to help with the bleeding. During this time, he changed. He had to be in arm restraints for almost 3 months so that he wouldn't touch his mouth. He stopped using his arms completely, refused to hold his bottle, refused to pick up toys, food, etc. It took us 6 months of work to get him to hold his bottle, a year to get him to LOOK and USE sippy. He still will barely self-feed. He has MAJOR food issues. I used to think they were all related to surgery trauma, but now I don't know. It's been so long. He is still eating baby oatmeal and 2nd stage baby food for the majority of his meals. Food is a major source of upset and control for him. He wont' try anything new. He gets extremely upset at meal times. He always fights us, even if he is hungry. He seems to have no understanding of his own hunger impulses. I still have to feed him as I would an infant. I know he is hungry, so it is dinner time. He will end up crying on the floor before he would cave and get food out. There are times, he will try to get food out of his diaper bag (HIS food), but other times, it is all me. I can go into this in much more detail if anyone else has information on feeding issues. After his fourth surgery (ear tubes), he nightmared for 6 months. This surgery was more than a normal ear tube surgery because of his bleeding. They had numerous botched IV attempts, blood draws, etc. It was very traumatic. Aiden really changed after this surgery. (before this, he had hearing loss from 11-15 months). He was scared to even go into his room, near his crib, etc. He panics if we hold him too tight, put him in his highchair with the straps on too tight, etc. His pediatrician did not think all Aiden's issues were due to surgery trauma. He thoughts Aiden showed signs of autism early on. We saw a developmental ped. who said she thought it was trauma, and that Aiden has excellent receptive skills and is working through things at his own pace right now and to keep up with his speech therapy and do more one on one play dates. My concerns: - Aiden is completely non-verbal. He was evaluated at 9 months for expressive speech. - He won't sign. Sporadically he will do a sign when he REALLY wants something. But if I try to work on sign language, he tantrums and runs away even though he is desperate to communicate with me. - He considers it very relaxing to play " car " with just about anything. He runs a car, book, DVD up and down on the carpet and watches it. I can break him of this though at any time and he will smile at me and stand up. - He tenses his whole body randomly...points his toes, shakes his whole body - example, last night I asked Aiden for over 20 minutes if he was hungry. I sat him down, told him to look mommy in the eyes (I knew he was very hungry) and said " tell mommy. are you hungry " He woudl smile, look away, look me in the eyes, tense up, look away, look at me, smile. This went on and on. Finally I gave up and told him it was time for bed. He smiled and followed me out of his room and got in his high chair. The whole time, he wanted food. This is the issue. He just doesn't get that he can feed himself; he can communicate with me; he can initiate the feeding process; he can initiate communication. He can't seem to let go of me. He would rather push my arms to feed him (literally) than use his own arms. He woudl rather push me to pick up something, than pick it up himself. - He is in Little Gym and he has a very difficult time doing the group activities. When all the other kids kick the balls, he runs around like a wild man. He can't focus. He acts ADD. He sometimes throws it back and forth. But never kicks, throws through the hoop, etc. He is delayed in this area as well. He tantrums if I try to bring him onto the group mat. - He will play with other kids sometimes. Good days and bad days. He will play very well some days. The other day, his little girlfriend said " Chase me Aiden! " And he chased her all over the house laughing. Today, a little boy tried to share a toy with him. He followed him from room to room saying " Aiden, Aiden AIDEN!!! " And Aiden acted like he couldn't even hear him.... - He is between 18-22 months in almost all areas, besides expressive language, which is 9 months. There is so much more, but if there is anything you can tell me, I would appreciate it. We are going to see another developmental ped soon and we've had some genetic testing done. Thanks, Maggie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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