How Can I Feel Better About Myself and My Life?

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How Can I Feel Better About Myself and My Life?

Excerpts from Know Yourself

by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. Platinum Quality Author

The passion and determination you feel within your heart and soul are the forces

of manifestation.

So as you wish to create or give birth to a new area of self- expression and

manifestation in your life, trust that you will be divinely guided from within

to fulfill what you wish to express and manifest. Release all attachment to

outcomes. Attachment to outcomes causes anxiety. I want you to learn how to feel

and be in love with the process of your life rather than the moment of

completion. Now I am going to share with you seven steps that I learned many

years ago, to help you with manifesting what you came into this life to live.

1. Decide. You must first decide exactly what you wish to express and manifest.

2. Be Willing. You must be willing to do whatever it takes, with dignity and

pure motives.

3. Commit. You must commit fully to the process.

4. Let Go. This means to let go of doubts, worry, and fear about how it is all

going to turn out.

5. Follow. Follow your gut instincts. Follow that still small voice within.

Follow your truth at all times. Follow through with what you need to take care

of. Follow the next indicated step. This is the process, and it is meant to be

filled with joy.

6. Wait. Have patience. There are higher reasons why something is not happening

right now, this minute. Perhaps two weeks or two months from now will turn out

to be a better time to manifest what you are working to bring about. Trust that

delays are always beneficial. It will all turn out according to what is for your

highest good.

7. Have. One day you will look back and see that you actually have in your life

the full essence of what you first decided to manifest.

Desire and Outcomes

No matter what you have or don't have, no matter how much you have accumulated

or how much you achieve, you will never feel whole and complete until you look

at yourself in the mirror and feel your wholeness and completeness as you are

now.

All manifestation and desire must be a true expression of self: to be of

service, to contribute, and to make a difference-the difference you came into

this life to create.

If you set conditions on your self-worth-conditions such as marrying a certain

person or having a certain home or weighing a certain amount-you will be forever

caught in seeking to obtain your worth. This process has put many people in a

living hell of invalidation.

Did you ever notice women who have so much and still feel insecure? I used to be

one of them. I used to falsely believe that outer stature would make me

" somebody. " But as I grew, I learned that we are all somebody.

Your Role in Birthing the Life before You

Your role is to be filled with joy and to replace the belief that something will

make you better than you are now.

This is the ego's trick: the ego will lead you to believe that anything will

make you better.

Your soul came into this life to express your highest and best. It is often

during the most painful and difficult times that you will discover more about

yourself, what truly matters to you, and how you can make a difference for

yourself and others after you have grown through a difficult period.

Being Radiant

Being radiant is being centered in your divine nature and truth at all times.

It is viewing yourself as a spiritual gift and as the creator of your life's

circumstances instead of viewing yourself as a victim of your life's

circumstances.

How you view yourself is one of the most important facets of feeling radiant. If

you view yourself as " less than " any other being, then this false view will

cause you to feel " less than. " And you will suffer. On the other hand, if you

view yourself as an equal and divine member of the human race, you will feel

your equality and your divinity.

First you must incorporate right mindfulness; you must live as a conscious

being. To extinguish any negative self-view is critical if you are to know peace

in being who you are, no matter what your external conditions.

Many women have been through and triumphed over much. We admire them, their

courage, their belief in self. What does it take to have belief in self?

It takes both living in your truth and having the courage to express your truth

every moment of your life. Your truth is not negotiable. Once you negate your

truth to please another, your self-confidence will greatly diminish.

Alternatively, when you decide to be true to yourself at all times and under all

circumstances, you will radiate with glowing self-esteem.

Belief in self also means taking a simple inventory of your true purpose, how

you serve, and which ways of service bring you the most joy.

The Courage to Change

Many women face situations in which they are miserable, and they falsely believe

they should stay in their miserable circumstances. This false belief breeds more

insecurity and lowers your self-worth. To truly glow and shine from the inside

out, you might just have to take some of the biggest risks that you have been so

afraid to take, so the truth of your actions can match the truth you feel deep

inside. Once you take a risk and actually listen to your inner voice-the one

that is telling you to rid yourself of any condition, person, or circumstance

that is causing misery in your life-once you take the risk to be true to

yourself, you will begin to glow and radiate more confidence than you have ever

felt before.

You see, becoming whole requires complete self-truth. Honoring your self-truth

turns into radiance.

Living according to your truth and intrinsic joy of being of genuine service to

yourself and others in your own unique way leads to both supreme confidence and

a life filled with peace.

No matter what anybody has ever told you about yourself, if it feels degrading

in any way, it is a lie-because you were not born with it.

Even if you have made many mistakes or have done many things " wrong " in your

life, your soul is still pure and you can follow your truth. Thus you can create

an entire new life from the bottom up once you realize that the supreme moment

of now is your starting point-as well as the place you must always stay if you

are to be focused, effective, helpful to yourself and others, and the grand soul

you came into this life to be.

Always say yes to what the universe is showing you, rather than fighting it. If

a circumstance comes into your life that you do not want, then ask for the

higher perspective as to how you can transform both it and yourself, so that you

are authentically empowered rather than emotionally crushed. Look within and ask

yourself what you can do to come to the other side of any experience your

personality does not like or that your mind views as tragic. There is light on

the other side of our darkest moments. Look for the light, the higher reason, so

that you can move in a positive direction rather than remaining in misery. When

something you do not like happens to you, ask how this experience can serve as a

positive catalyst for personal or collective growth and positive transformation.

The greatest joy in life is to be of service in your own unique way. Many times

we discover our greatest area of service as a result of our greatest hardships.

Moreover, we often find that we are not alone, that others have gone through

similar experiences. Then, we create friendships and work together, expressing

our gifts from our hearts for the greater good of all.

A life that used to feel meaningless transforms itself into a life filled with

joy when you honor your gifts and work in harmony with others to help them honor

their gifts.

.. . .Once you recognize a sinking feeling inside as a result of a negative

statement you have made to yourself, simply bring it into your conscious

awareness by acknowledging the statement; then replace it with a statement about

yourself that is based on self-love and truth. Cease all negative self-talk, and

start to look at the inner gifts you do possess this very moment. Not in the

past or the future but right now.

Some blind people create astounding contributions, and live lives filled with

joy. Some people who have eyesight never seem to focus on what exists before

them in this moment. Instead, they look forward or backward, and they are

usually miserable.

Whenever I placed an expectation on a certain outcome in my life, all of a

sudden I was filled with anxiety. I was worried, and nervous. I was insecure.

How could I be sure about an event in the future?

.. . .How can you feel inner peace and feel whole, radiant, and confident when

your expectations are tied to a future outcome? You cannot, and neither can I!

***** . . . The joy of feeling in this moment and accepting what is around you,

as well as which changes you would like to make in your life, can only be

achieved with much love, understanding, compassion, and focus in this moment.

If you wish to better your life, then you must release all belief that by so

doing you will be a better person.

The key is in knowing that you are a supreme being just as you are and that

" bettering your life " is just a means of self-expression. It is your divine

expression to live according to your grandest preferences-not because it will

make you better but because you are serving as a result of discovering and

expressing the best you have within you.

Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from the book Know

Yourself. Published by The Rose Group (2006) ISBN:

0974145734