Why I Don't Solve Problems

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Why I Don't Solve Problems

by Matt Furey

The other day a man in the gym I train at began to tell me of his problems.

Good thing is we were at a gym where I could stretch, breathe and concentrate on

exercising.

As he focused and talked about his problems I concentrated - without talking -

on getting stronger and more flexible.

I did not stretch to solve a problem or to get rid of anything. I stretched

because it helps me improve upon and work toward a specific goal.

After nearly 10 minutes of yapping about his problems, the man paused for a

moment to ask, " Well, what do you think? "

" This stretch is getting a lot easier, " I said. " I like how you can choose a

target, work on it a little each day and see progress. "

The man didn't know what to say. He stopped talking - and as far as I'm

concerned, that's a good thing.

Later in the day I saw him again and he apologized for breaking Furey's " No

Whining " Rule.

Now, perhaps the above may seem 'insensitive.' Yet, I believe it is almost

always the best medicine for people who talk about their problems. If you can

get people to stop telling their " song and dance " - not just to you, but to

everyone else, too - they'd be a lot further down the road of success.

When you speak of your problems you activate your Automatic Failure Mechanism.

Sure, you may find people who offer you solutions to your problems - but you'll

probably reject the advice even if it's good because you'd rather tell your

story.

A different approach is to give up problem solving altogether and focus on being

creatively alive.

You begin creating what you want in life, for no other reason than you " want

to. " You don't do anything because you've hit a pain threshold that is somehow

forcing you to move; not because you have something to fix.

In the midst of painful problems, you can still engage your Automatic Success

Mechanism. You do this by focusing on previous successes you've had. You do this

by coming to understand that you attract more good to yourself by focusing ON

the good you've already got. Not by scratching and clawing and nit-picking

problems.

You attract more good by understanding how life works. What you focus on

expands. Positive or negative.

Focus on problems - the Universe hands you more. Focus on creative ideas (not

solutions) and the Universe sends people, information, events and circumstances

your way to help you " make it happen. "

Not long ago I told a couple who is focused on eliminating their " debt problem "

that their objective is off. Once they have eliminated their debt - what do they

have?

Nothing but eliminated debt. A big fat zero.

But what if, while in the midst of debt the couple came up with creative ideas

that made them wealthy.

Ahhh - mucho differente - don't you think?

My wife and I eliminated our debt years ago with a combination of strategies -

foremost of which was putting aside something for ourselves and " focusing " on

the nest egg instead of the debt.

In the midst of major debt - we began creating a wealth account. To feed the

wealth account we continually added 10% of everything coming our way, regardless

of bills. On top of this we came up with creative ideas designed to " bring home

the bacon. "

It didn't take long before our 10% became 20 and 30%. It didn't take long before

our wealth account contained MORE than the idea or seed of wealth.

So think - not of solving problems - not of finding solutions. Think of creating

your dream life.

As the Chinese people say, " Fei chang bu yiyang. "

Very, very different.

Best,

Matt Furey

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-- Ken Pierpont

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