Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 I know that this isn¹t a solution to the bathroom panic, but if you have a vehicle large enough, could you just keep a potty in there for a while until you get it worked out? Several of my kids went through a phase where they wanted to check out every public restroom. I put the training potty in the back of the van and when they wanted to go, we¹d head back out to the van instead of going into the bathroom... that stopped the million trips to every public restroom. There¹s also the ³jar in the car² for boys, but of course that¹s only for #1, and since your little guy may not be able to tell you what he needs to do, a jar might not be the answer. Oh, I feel for you... you have a frustrating situation. Caroline G. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 I have been through this with my 6 y.o. son, and it's awful! His whole body would shake when we got near the restroom, and he had a few accidents. We have a car potty, and have used it at times like this, but once we were at Disneyland for 3 days so using the public potty was essential. I got ear plugs for his ears, and put those in and also held my hands over his ears. I ushered him into the restroom with my body closely behind his to assure him I would be right there, and kept my hands firmly over his ears the whole time. Before we went in I explained we would go in, go potty, wash hands and leave and I would hold his ears for him the entire time. His OCD/sensitivity was related to medications and also coming out of a flu-like illness and I think his whole system was on overload with virus and new meds and resulting yeast flare-up - and this last time around also blue dye on Valtrex and bubble gum flavoring for one of his compounded meds. Aaaahhhh! It was pushing me over the edge to see him so out of sorts, but with Dr. G's help we got everything figured out and he's now much better than ever before. Kristy From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of startics Sent: Tuesday, July 08, 2008 2:40 PM Subject: Re: bathroom anxiety Hi Caroline, Thanks for your suggestions, I appreciate you taking the time to address my situation. The problem here is that my son has been potty trained since he was 3 yrs old and he is now 8 yrs, so I don't want to have to do the jar thing or the potty thing in the car since that may become another thing we may not be able to break out of. Basically it's all about whatever OCD type behavior will come afloat and it's pretty much always been mostly about the bathroom in one way or another: Loving it or now hating it! This all started with a trip to an amusement park when he was about 4 yrs old and having an automated flushing toilet " flush " while he was still on the potty (which I am sure has happened at least once to all of us...) I could explain to him that there is no need to be scared until I am blue in the face, but he still is genuinely scared/anxious and will not always take my word for it. He is pretty high cognitively, so he understands most everything (abstract things...well not always as easy). I even carry post-it notes with me to cover the sensors in the toilet so it won't flush automatically. He had become much better about it in the past year, having the fear almost gone until just a few weeks when this whole thing just " exploded " really out of nowhere and got worse than ever... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 Hi, don¹t know if these could be of any help - a few things that were recommended recently (ds has several fears...). I just copied quotes from people: 1. We had a similar situation here about five years ago and had amazing results for fear of known and unknown things with mimulus flower essence. 2. Arsenicum Album homeopathic remedy ...but also Anacardium orientalis .... that kind of fear belongs when the GUT bacteria " Dysentery Co " is out of balance in it's poathogenic stage causing anticipatory fears.... Btw we have only just started Mimulus Bach remedy, too early to tell if working... Natasa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 I have used Social Stories re: this issue and these toilets with some of my clients. We would describe the fact that there are different kinds of toilets -- in one case, the Mom would actually demonstrate the flush before her daughter sat down and they would label the sound (this one is a loud whooshy one, this one is a loud, fast one, etc.) We also acknowledged that " I might be scared of some of the toilets when they flush. But, it's ok to be scared. When I am scared, I can... " one child would sing a favorite song, another child counted how long the flush was, another child chewed on a chewy, another one had some phrase like " I might be scared, but I can be stronger than that nasty toilet. " (he's very verbal and is able to give himself all sort of amazing supports-) And then we always acknowledge something good about being done using the toilet. Another child compiled a book about what type of toilets were at different stops---and when they were new ones. Don't know if this will help, but I do know that if I am scared about something (like our kids are), it is a very real feeling and there is nothing anyone can say that will make me not feel scared. But, when I know what I can do or have some degree of control, I feel much better. ann On Tue, Jul 8, 2008 at 4:40 PM, startics <emmy@...> wrote: > Hi Caroline, > > Thanks for your suggestions, I appreciate you taking the time to > address my situation. The problem here is that my son has been potty > trained since he was 3 yrs old and he is now 8 yrs, so I don't want > to have to do the jar thing or the potty thing in the car since that > may become another thing we may not be able to break out of. > Basically it's all about whatever OCD type behavior will come afloat > and it's pretty much always been mostly about the bathroom in one way > or another: Loving it or now hating it! This all started with a trip > to an amusement park when he was about 4 yrs old and having an > automated flushing toilet " flush " while he was still on the potty > (which I am sure has happened at least once to all of us...) I could > explain to him that there is no need to be scared until I am blue in > the face, but he still is genuinely scared/anxious and will not > always take my word for it. He is pretty high cognitively, so he > understands most everything (abstract things...well not always as > easy). I even carry post-it notes with me to cover the sensors in > the toilet so it won't flush automatically. He had become much > better about it in the past year, having the fear almost gone until > just a few weeks when this whole thing just " exploded " really out of > nowhere and got worse than ever... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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