You are doing everything right

[Guest guest]

Martha,

It sounds like this is one lucky kid to have you as a mom. You are doing

amazing things for him. I too dropped everything to help my son and

although I didn't know it until much later. it did pay off. However, there

were times when I stopped everything because I just had to be mommy and he

just needed to be a kid but you seem aware of that too.

My son also used to hide when kids came over to play. The language and

social take so much time. is now twenty and such a great kid. His new

obsession is surfing. This last week he met a group of surfers he met

online in San Diego to go surfing with the group. He still is a bit

innocent and trusting. I had to be cautious for him and wasn't sure if he

should go. My husband was the one who made me let him do it. He said just

a few years ago you would have given anything for your son to do these kinds

of things and never would have imagined any of this when he was little. Of

course I made give me everyone's email he was meeting up with and call

several times during the day. He did have a little fender bender of course

with my car but the old surfer was so impressed with what a nice kid

was that he only made him pay $75 to replace the light he smashed. He is

meeting them all next month too.

Keep it up Martha you are doing everything right. Just trust your gut and

call me if I can help.

Marcia

805 497-8202

Martha said:

Kristy,

Thank you so much for your quick reply. This is an encouragement to me.

We have supplemented our son with private speech, OT, and ABA (right now

about 15 hours a week) since he was 2 1/2. He also gets music therapy, OT,

speech and aba at school. MT and speech are good at school thankfully. We

have him lined up with regular playdates at least once a week with typical

peers and he has two older brother who are NT. We have also done language

classes at the local university and social skills classes. Actually we have

overdone the therapies in the past year and are now backing off a bit to

give him more down time and time to be a kid. We *are* seeing progress but

it is much slower than we anticipated. For example he used to run to his

room and hide when friends came over but now he can at least be in the same

room although we have to make him stay. He is a smart kid and has such

potential if we can just get past the two big ones: language and social.

I have dropped everything to help this child and would do so for any of my

boys. I just hope and pray this all pays off and we can be one of

the success stories.

Thanks again for your kind feedback.

Martha

[Guest guest]

Marcia,

Thank you so much for this encouragement. You just cannot know what it means

to have your story that gives such hope. I am so happy for and your

family. What a blessing to be able to see the fruits of your labor. Thank

you for taking the time to help those of us who are just beginning the

journey.

And thank you for the offer to call you.

Take care,

Martha

On Mon, Jul 6, 2009 at 9:51 AM, Marcia Hinds <hindssite@...> wrote:

>

>

> Martha,

>

> It sounds like this is one lucky kid to have you as a mom. You are doing

> amazing things for him. I too dropped everything to help my son and

> although I didn't know it until much later. it did pay off. However, there

> were times when I stopped everything because I just had to be mommy and he

> just needed to be a kid but you seem aware of that too.

>

> My son also used to hide when kids came over to play. The language and

> social take so much time. is now twenty and such a great kid. His new

> obsession is surfing. This last week he met a group of surfers he met

> online in San Diego to go surfing with the group. He still is a bit

> innocent and trusting. I had to be cautious for him and wasn't sure if he

> should go. My husband was the one who made me let him do it. He said just

> a few years ago you would have given anything for your son to do these

> kinds

> of things and never would have imagined any of this when he was little. Of

> course I made give me everyone's email he was meeting up with and call

> several times during the day. He did have a little fender bender of course

> with my car but the old surfer was so impressed with what a nice kid

> was that he only made him pay $75 to replace the light he smashed. He is

> meeting them all next month too.

>

> Keep it up Martha you are doing everything right. Just trust your gut and

> call me if I can help.

>

> Marcia

>

> 805 497-8202

>

> Martha said:

> Kristy,

> Thank you so much for your quick reply. This is an encouragement to me.

>

> We have supplemented our son with private speech, OT, and ABA (right now

> about 15 hours a week) since he was 2 1/2. He also gets music therapy, OT,

> speech and aba at school. MT and speech are good at school thankfully. We

> have him lined up with regular playdates at least once a week with typical

> peers and he has two older brother who are NT. We have also done language

> classes at the local university and social skills classes. Actually we have

> overdone the therapies in the past year and are now backing off a bit to

> give him more down time and time to be a kid. We *are* seeing progress but

> it is much slower than we anticipated. For example he used to run to his

> room and hide when friends came over but now he can at least be in the same

> room although we have to make him stay. He is a smart kid and has such

> potential if we can just get past the two big ones: language and social.

> I have dropped everything to help this child and would do so for any of my

> boys. I just hope and pray this all pays off and we can be one of

> the success stories.

>

> Thanks again for your kind feedback.

> Martha

>

>