School problem - suspension

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Hi all,

I just thought I'd post a problem here to see what you think about it...

My 8 yr old - w/CFS - has been suspended for licking the back of a kid's neck in

line (he was trying to get his attention and he had not responded to him tapping

on his shoulder).  Recently he had also called a kid a b*tt-hair (which I can

accept as 'harassment " ), and I don't remember the one before - maybe hit a kid

for cutting in line in front of him. 

He is suspended for 'harassment' - for licking a kid on the back of his neck -

granted - a very inappropriate behavior... but there was not an ill intention

here.

Standing in line is clearly where all of his worst actions occur.  He doesn't

think before he acts, obviously.

He has an IEP for specific learning disorder.  He has trouble w/listening and

expressive language - the common stuff w/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome of course.

I'm going to talk to them in the morning.  I want to know how they would have

handled that behavior if he had an autism, PDD, or Asperger diagnosis.  I feel

pretty sure that if he had testing on Asperger, he would likely qualify right

now, but I also think it would likely be wrong and I'd rather not go there, not

when he has a formal CFIDS diagnosis w/documented language disorders, etc, plus

the memory deficits (he said he forgot he wasn't supposed to lick until too late

and he had already done it).  Principal said it took him 10 minutes for him to

tell the asst principal why he did it (trying to get the kid's attn), and the

tone was kind of condescending.

Anyway, I'm upset, and they have not done well putting any kind of behavioral

plan in place.

Just wanted your thoughts or any suggestions.

Thanks!