HELP! I'm having issues with my son

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My son is 8 years old and going into the 3rd grade. He has been labeled

Pervasive Developmental Delay,ADHD, Oppositional defiant Disorder, OCD,

etc...looking at Aspergers. He is the most creative little boy I know. I call

him my artist, and he is fascinated with military history and ARMY. Army

everything...and an imagination so incredible. He can make odd things out of

just things we throw away. He loves cutting and tearing things up. The

sensation seeking...always bored and needs activities none stop. He loves to

sit down and draw and will do this for a very long time and things will be in

such detail. Unfortunately at this time he is really obsessed with ARMY stuff

and he is drawing WWII soldiers...Americans VS Germans and there is alot of

violence in them....soldiers being shot and killed.

I am having a horrible time keeping him under control. I am a single mother. I

have two boys, he is the oldest, the youngest lives with his father. I try to

do everything to keep him happy. I give in, and let him get whatever he wants.

We go to the store, I get him something because I dont want to deal with a melt

down. If I do something wrong, I immediately try to fix it so he doesn't get

into this horrible mood where he says VERY hateful and hurtful things to me. I

know he doesn't understand, but I'm trying to express to him that it hurts my

feelings. He doesn't care...tells me he isn't sorry...If I apologize first.

Very mean to me. He is on Vyvance and Risperdone. I am trying my hardest. I

take him to counseling: group social skills therapy once a week, therapist once

a month, and NP every two or so months (medicines refilled, etc).

I don't know what I am doing wrong or what I need to do. I am getting him a

full evaluation done through a local rehabilitation center. This won't take

place for another 6 months or so. He gets over stimulated and i wish I could

learn when his threshold is...I really haven't delved into this like I should

have. I guess been in denial.

Any suggestions or experience sharing would be great. I really don't have

anyone that fully understands this...and even yet...I am not fully aware of

everything AS is about. I am still learning and reading...wanting to get my son

in the right services, seeking out support groups, and thought I might get some

good leads on things here.

Thank you,

Indiana

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,

Strep was a problem for my son also. He had strep so often that eventually

the antibiotics didn't work on it anymore. Whenever he got strep I got

strep. We were always ill. We had his tonsils and adenoids out when he

was in first grade. It was one of the best things I ever did for his immune

system. He was no longer constantly sick and the snoring like a freight

train was gone as a result of the adenoids being taken out. This was one of

the times Dr. G and I disagreed about what to do. I think he realized how

big of a ordeal it was to get over this operation and I was ignorant. When

the ear nose and throat doctor said it was a ten day recovery, it was a ten

day recovery. But the results were worth it. And the long term benefit to

his immune system was definitely worth it. Without tonsils and adenoids he

was a much healthier kid and we saw many gains at that time.

Best,

Marcia