Re: Re: One of the moments that makes you proud

[Guest guest]

What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing! Sheri

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From: Betty <bettybona1@...>

Sent: Tue, October 19, 2010 11:16:58 AM

Subject: Re: One of the moments that makes you proud

Marcia,

Wonderful story!!! Please report back to us on how your son's talk goes. I

really want to know how it's received. Very brave of him. A true hero.

Betty

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> Wow. I really needed that after our second six hours ARD yesterday.

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> CC: ryan.r.hinds@...; megan.hinds@...; elyse-g@...

> From: hindssite@...

> Date: Tue, 19 Oct 2010 04:57:13 -0700

> Subject: One of the moments that makes you proud

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> Hi list mates,

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> Just wanted to share one of the encouraging stories. The kind that makes us

> proud of any of our kids when we are parents. is in a fraternity at

> school. About a year ago when I was up for parent's weekend there was a

> dinner from the fraternity for all the parents and kids. There was one

> fraternity brother in particular who kind of followed around. and

> I exchanged a knowing glance from across the dinner table that this kid was

> touched. (Our own terminology for a someone who is a member of the A-club).

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> later explained this kid always wants to be his friend. I of course

> went into mom mode and said you better be his friend because you remember

> what it was like to not have any. He assured me he is always nice to this

> kid but just last week he really proved it to me. Some of the fraternity

> guys were complaining that this particular fraternity brother was weird and

> annoying. got up in front of the entire fraternity and explained

> things to them. He told the entire fraternity about his autism. He

> explained how this kid was medically ill and they needed to show compassion.

> He must of done a good job because one of his brothers asked him if he would

> speak about his own autism in one his classes. and I are leaving this

> morning to go see him speak.

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> When was stressed out last week about all the work college is, I told

> him not to worry so much about grades and that coursework is just a blip in

> the thing we call life. I went on to say I don't care if you don't get

> straight A's and to stop pushing himself so hard. I also told him the thing

> that makes me most proud is not his grades, but when he does things like he

> did for his fraternity brother. That was a measure of a real man and I am

> so proud of him. It was one of those moments in life that makes us realize

> our kids are something special.

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> Best,

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> Marcia

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[Guest guest]

Marcia-Thanks for sharing this wonderful story about ! He is truly an

amazing young man and I hope my son can someday follow in his footsteps! God

Bless him!

Gayle

Re: One of the moments that makes you proud

He is much like his mom! Thanks for sharing such a sweet story, Marcia.

-Jen

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> Hi list mates,

>

> Just wanted to share one of the encouraging stories. The kind that makes us

> proud of any of our kids when we are parents. is in a fraternity at

> school. About a year ago when I was up for parent's weekend there was a

> dinner from the fraternity for all the parents and kids. There was one

> fraternity brother in particular who kind of followed around. and

> I exchanged a knowing glance from across the dinner table that this kid was

> touched. (Our own terminology for a someone who is a member of the A-club).

>

>

>

>

> later explained this kid always wants to be his friend. I of course

> went into mom mode and said you better be his friend because you remember

> what it was like to not have any. He assured me he is always nice to this

> kid but just last week he really proved it to me. Some of the fraternity

> guys were complaining that this particular fraternity brother was weird and

> annoying. got up in front of the entire fraternity and explained

> things to them. He told the entire fraternity about his autism. He

> explained how this kid was medically ill and they needed to show compassion.

> He must of done a good job because one of his brothers asked him if he would

> speak about his own autism in one his classes. and I are leaving this

> morning to go see him speak.

>

>

>

> When was stressed out last week about all the work college is, I told

> him not to worry so much about grades and that coursework is just a blip in

> the thing we call life. I went on to say I don't care if you don't get

> straight A's and to stop pushing himself so hard. I also told him the thing

> that makes me most proud is not his grades, but when he does things like he

> did for his fraternity brother. That was a measure of a real man and I am

> so proud of him. It was one of those moments in life that makes us realize

> our kids are something special.

>

> Best,

>

> Marcia

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[Guest guest]

What a great story!! You have much to be proud of in him and yourself.

These are the things that are really important in life and here¹s to

for taking a stand. I really believe that our kids are here to teach us

tolerance and I¹m especially touched by the siblings of kids who are a

little different.

Thanks for sharing!

Laureen

On 10/20/10 7:36 AM, " " <jlhank80@...> wrote:

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> He is much like his mom! Thanks for sharing such a sweet story, Marcia.

> -Jen

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>> > Hi list mates,

>> >

>> > Just wanted to share one of the encouraging stories. The kind that makes

>> us

>> > proud of any of our kids when we are parents. is in a fraternity at

>> > school. About a year ago when I was up for parent's weekend there was a

>> > dinner from the fraternity for all the parents and kids. There was one

>> > fraternity brother in particular who kind of followed around. >>

and

>> > I exchanged a knowing glance from across the dinner table that this kid was

>> > touched. (Our own terminology for a someone who is a member of the

>> A-club).

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> > later explained this kid always wants to be his friend. I of course

>> > went into mom mode and said you better be his friend because you remember

>> > what it was like to not have any. He assured me he is always nice to this

>> > kid but just last week he really proved it to me. Some of the fraternity

>> > guys were complaining that this particular fraternity brother was weird and

>> > annoying. got up in front of the entire fraternity and explained

>> > things to them. He told the entire fraternity about his autism. He

>> > explained how this kid was medically ill and they needed to show

>> compassion.

>> > He must of done a good job because one of his brothers asked him if he

>> would

>> > speak about his own autism in one his classes. and I are leaving

>> this

>> > morning to go see him speak.

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> > When was stressed out last week about all the work college is, I told

>> > him not to worry so much about grades and that coursework is just a blip in

>> > the thing we call life. I went on to say I don't care if you don't get

>> > straight A's and to stop pushing himself so hard. I also told him the

>> thing

>> > that makes me most proud is not his grades, but when he does things like he

>> > did for his fraternity brother. That was a measure of a real man and I am

>> > so proud of him. It was one of those moments in life that makes us realize

>> > our kids are something special.

>> >

>> > Best,

>> >

>> > Marcia

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

[Guest guest]

I'm so happy for you, , your family and all of us who get to witness your

journey.

May God continue to bless you and and your efforts to help others.

Thank you.

Sheryl

Sent from my iPhone

On Oct 21, 2010, at 12:52 PM, " and Marcia Hinds " <hindssite@...>

wrote:

Okay so we just got back from 's university. Betty wanted me to report

in on how 's talk went. spoke in front of more than 100 psychology

kids about his autism. He did great! He is such a great kid and I am so

lucky to be his mom. When I was in the middle of what all of you are going

through, I never could have imagined him as he is today. He was just so

weird and hard back then. I hope all your kids get there. They may drive

you insane now, but know there is hope for the future. I think did

much to help the cause by speaking at this class and showing them how kids

can recover and how this is not psychiatric developmental disorder but is a

medical disease.

First, an administrator from a rehab/group home spoke. She explained the

typical definition of what autism is and then told what her organization

does with rehabilitation. Then spoke. It should have ended with a dad

who is a Judge with a 24 year old kid (not recovered) talking about how hard

our lives are with these kids and how it affects the entire family. Neither

speaker knew anything about the medical at all. They were both so educated

as people, and yet so wrong about what autism is. That's when I asked the

moderator if I could say a few words, I felt compelled to get up and speak

about how it is medical. It makes me sad that so many still don't get it,

especially the professionals who are supposed to be there to help parents.

After I told what a great job he did I asked him how I did. I thought

he would say that I was funny and held their interest but he didn't. He

said I did okay but I was a bit too " Strident " I didn't know what that

meant, so I asked him to explain. He said I came on a bit too strong. At

first I felt a bit bad because sometimes I am a bit opinionated and try hard

not to be that way. But after I thought about things, I had to laugh that

my autistic son was filling in the holes in my vocabulary and teaching me

the correct way to act. Isn't he something?

Part of our entourage was our two dogs who are so fun. I almost feel like I

am reliving part of raising and with these too. Luke (Skywalker

his complete name) reminds me of when he was little, very anxious,

smart, and nerdy. While Marty (Mc Fly) is reincarnated (very

socially gifted). He has the world by the tail and loves every dog and

person he meets. The dogs came with us to the lecture since we had no place

to leave them. Luke had to come up front to talk with me. Everyone thought

that was very funny. While this was going on our other dog Marty (McFly )

was traveling around the auditorium getting everyone to pet him. It was a

wonderful moment in time and I will always remember how much did for

others that day.

Best,

Marcia

[Guest guest]

I have goosebumps! Thanks for sharing and congratulations to and all of

you. I pray that all of us on this list have just such a thing to celebrate in

the future.

God Bless,

Robyn

From: and Marcia Hinds <hindssite@...>

Subject: Re: One of the moments that makes you proud

bettybona1@...,

Date: Thursday, October 21, 2010, 12:52 PM

 

Okay so we just got back from 's university. Betty wanted me to

report

in on how 's talk went. spoke in front of more than 100 psychology

kids about his autism. He did great! He is such a great kid and I am so

lucky to be his mom. When I was in the middle of what all of you are going

through, I never could have imagined him as he is today. He was just so

weird and hard back then. I hope all your kids get there. They may drive

you insane now, but know there is hope for the future. I think did

much to help the cause by speaking at this class and showing them how kids

can recover and how this is not psychiatric developmental disorder but is a

medical disease.

First, an administrator from a rehab/group home spoke. She explained the

typical definition of what autism is and then told what her organization

does with rehabilitation. Then spoke. It should have ended with a dad

who is a Judge with a 24 year old kid (not recovered) talking about how hard

our lives are with these kids and how it affects the entire family. Neither

speaker knew anything about the medical at all. They were both so educated

as people, and yet so wrong about what autism is. That's when I asked the

moderator if I could say a few words, I felt compelled to get up and speak

about how it is medical. It makes me sad that so many still don't get it,

especially the professionals who are supposed to be there to help parents.

After I told what a great job he did I asked him how I did. I thought

he would say that I was funny and held their interest but he didn't. He

said I did okay but I was a bit too " Strident " I didn't know what that

meant, so I asked him to explain. He said I came on a bit too strong. At

first I felt a bit bad because sometimes I am a bit opinionated and try hard

not to be that way. But after I thought about things, I had to laugh that

my autistic son was filling in the holes in my vocabulary and teaching me

the correct way to act. Isn't he something?

Part of our entourage was our two dogs who are so fun. I almost feel like I

am reliving part of raising and with these too. Luke (Skywalker

his complete name) reminds me of when he was little, very anxious,

smart, and nerdy. While Marty (Mc Fly) is reincarnated (very

socially gifted). He has the world by the tail and loves every dog and

person he meets. The dogs came with us to the lecture since we had no place

to leave them. Luke had to come up front to talk with me. Everyone thought

that was very funny. While this was going on our other dog Marty (McFly )

was traveling around the auditorium getting everyone to pet him. It was a

wonderful moment in time and I will always remember how much did for

others that day.

Best,

Marcia