Re: Depression as a Recurring Thing

[Guest guest]

I very much recommend The Minful Way Through Depression by Mark which is very ACT friendly. Depression is very painful and if we feel it coming back we can often panic and get all worried. The problem with this is that this brings on a depressed state even more. By holding back and not struggling I have found that these depressed feelings pass away after a short space of time. I have noticed how I can often talk myself into a depression because I get these feelings and get scared saying to myself, oh! my depression is coming back. Then things spiral out of control and you might not sleep well which can mean you feel really down when you wake up in the morning, afterwhich you start to notice other depressed thoughts and then you talk yourself into a depression. But you can nip this in the bud early and stop things getting out of control.

The Mindful Way Through Depression is a very optimistic book. One of my favourites.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Mindful-Way-through-Depression/dp/1593851286/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1342976283 & sr=8-1 & keywords=the+mindful+way+through+depression

http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Mindful-Way-Through-Depression/dp/1593851286/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1342976719 & sr=8-1

Kv

>> i just crashed the other day, a sum of time of busyness and then returning to life in general, and a couple of triggering events, sent me back down the depression abysis cycle again.> > It seems that for me, depression is a recurring thing, there are good days and there are not so good days. I re read the mindfulness and acceptance workbook for depression again (strosahl n robinson) and re visited some of their exercises.> > My sense is that there are always something wrong, or something out of balance, life is like that, there will always be something out there that can or will trigger something, an irate customer, an unexpected bill, someone you know doesnt acknowledge you, or somehow something doesnt quite work out .... > > I am thinking, you can t get away from these things, its how you deal w these things that matters, ie mind fusion, acceptance, re visiting and re re visiting my life vision binder, letting go of the struggle and keep moving.> > it seems this loop is endless, there will always be a triggering event, and there will always be something to re visit.> > Tom>

[Guest guest]

Oh Tom!! That is just what I am in the midst of too. I read someone else's

description of what happens to them on another forum and felt like it described

my most recent experience to a T. He said he sees something as a perceived

threat and all of sudden his flight or flight response activates and he feels

totally overwhelmed. That is what has happened to me. My 28 year old son began

experiencing anxiety and depression for the first time in January. He took a

leave from work and was at my house for about 6 weeks. Believe it or not that

did not send me down the rabbit hole myself, go figure. It has continued to be a

stress on me probably more than I realized though. He is still working on his

mental health. My teaching has often overwhelmed me from time to time but last

year was one of my better years, so I was looking forward to this year without

much anxiety until this past week. I thought of a couple of children that I was

going to have to work with that might be difficult. All of a sudden I had a wave

of being scared to death about having to handle those situations and I have

continued to spiral down the hole. Just so disappointed that it is back when I

didn't think it would be. I thought for a few days that it would just pass by as

an inkling of anxiety but I woke up in the middle of the night Friday night and

have been in the throes of feeling totally consumed by the anxiety and

depression since. I feel like if I can't get rid of the overwhelmed feeling that

I'll never feel right again. i feel like it has a hold on me that is dooming me

to misery!!!Any helpful advice??

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> i just crashed the other day, a sum of time of busyness and then returning to

life in general, and a couple of triggering events, sent me back down the

depression abysis cycle again.

>

> It seems that for me, depression is a recurring thing, there are good days and

there are not so good days. I re read the mindfulness and acceptance workbook

for depression again (strosahl n robinson) and re visited some of their

exercises.

>

> My sense is that there are always something wrong, or something out of

balance, life is like that, there will always be something out there that can or

will trigger something, an irate customer, an unexpected bill, someone you know

doesnt acknowledge you, or somehow something doesnt quite work out ....

>

> I am thinking, you can t get away from these things, its how you deal w these

things that matters, ie mind fusion, acceptance, re visiting and re re visiting

my life vision binder, letting go of the struggle and keep moving.

>

> it seems this loop is endless, there will always be a triggering event, and

there will always be something to re visit.

>

> Tom

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[Guest guest]

i have been revisiting my library of self help books, re reading and taking it

all in again.

my thoughts are.... validate how i feel, how i feel about something is how i

feel, nothing to justify nor explain.... setting personal goals dignify

everything i do, goals and values give me guidance from meandering around doing

nothing, if i do nothing, then nothing is what i will get..... sometimes if i

crash it is OK to sit for awhile, maybe that may be days of sitting on my hands,

or just wanting to sleep it off, days of rest can be helpful as well, listen to

my body and decide if rest is what is needed now.... once i get over this hump,

gently return to my values, what i care about, what is important to me, and see

where i wanna go from here?

Tom

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> > i just crashed the other day, a sum of time of busyness and then returning

to life in general, and a couple of triggering events, sent me back down the

depression abysis cycle again.

> >

> > It seems that for me, depression is a recurring thing, there are good days

and there are not so good days. I re read the mindfulness and acceptance

workbook for depression again (strosahl n robinson) and re visited some of their

exercises.

> >

> > My sense is that there are always something wrong, or something out of

balance, life is like that, there will always be something out there that can or

will trigger something, an irate customer, an unexpected bill, someone you know

doesnt acknowledge you, or somehow something doesnt quite work out ....

> >

> > I am thinking, you can t get away from these things, its how you deal w

these things that matters, ie mind fusion, acceptance, re visiting and re re

visiting my life vision binder, letting go of the struggle and keep moving.

> >

> > it seems this loop is endless, there will always be a triggering event, and

there will always be something to re visit.

> >

> > Tom

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[Guest guest]

Tom - such compassionate views!! That did a lot for me!! I love the part " how I

feel about something is how I feel,nothing to justify nor explain " . I tend to

resist letting myself sit on my hands. My mind tends to say " how are you ever

going to get better just sitting " . Sometimes that is just what I have to do, but

that is an argument I have with my mind, is it ok to just sit on my hands or

should i be pushing to do something even though i really don't feel like it. You

know all the ACT books say just accept your feelings but do something you value.

I have difficulty wrapping my mind around that.(Mind may be a poor choice of

words)

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> > > i just crashed the other day, a sum of time of busyness and then returning

to life in general, and a couple of triggering events, sent me back down the

depression abysis cycle again.

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> > > It seems that for me, depression is a recurring thing, there are good days

and there are not so good days. I re read the mindfulness and acceptance

workbook for depression again (strosahl n robinson) and re visited some of their

exercises.

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> > > My sense is that there are always something wrong, or something out of

balance, life is like that, there will always be something out there that can or

will trigger something, an irate customer, an unexpected bill, someone you know

doesnt acknowledge you, or somehow something doesnt quite work out ....

> > >

> > > I am thinking, you can t get away from these things, its how you deal w

these things that matters, ie mind fusion, acceptance, re visiting and re re

visiting my life vision binder, letting go of the struggle and keep moving.

> > >

> > > it seems this loop is endless, there will always be a triggering event,

and there will always be something to re visit.

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> > > Tom

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