Re: Is this just my mother or BPD?

[Guest guest]

It's NOT just your mom. My mom, too. I could have written this.

>

> I was wondering if this is a common BPD trait or just my mother. If

> any of you have a similar thing happen with their BPD parent, please

> share.

>

> My severely BPD mom doesn't talk with me, she talks at me. She can

> carry on an entire conversation, by her self, for an hour and 1/2.

> She only interupts and wonders why you just rolled your eyes at her and

> what that means. Can't she see that she is boring me out of my mind?

> Instantly she's at it again, barely coming up for air. And it's often

> just the same ramblings that I've been told for the past 42 years of my

> existance, everytime that I've seen her...like a broken record,

> without a scratch. I can hardly take it. I sit there ready to scream.

> Finally, I just have to jump up, and say " well I've got to go right now

> or I'll be late. " As I practically shove her out the door.

> Interesting, there is a neighbor that she doesn't like. And it's

> because that neighbor talks non-stop. Oh, brother.

>

> I don't understand it. And I don't understand why the same exact

> topics for years. It's beyond boring...it's torcher.

>

[Guest guest]

Me too!

On Thu, Apr 24, 2008 at 4:55 PM, froglegs6281

wrote:

> It's NOT just your mom. My mom, too. I could have written this.

>

>

> >

> > I was wondering if this is a common BPD trait or just my mother. If

> > any of you have a similar thing happen with their BPD parent, please

> > share.

> >

> > My severely BPD mom doesn't talk with me, she talks at me. She can

> > carry on an entire conversation, by her self, for an hour and 1/2.

> > She only interupts and wonders why you just rolled your eyes at her and

> > what that means. Can't she see that she is boring me out of my mind?

> > Instantly she's at it again, barely coming up for air. And it's often

> > just the same ramblings that I've been told for the past 42 years of my

> > existance, everytime that I've seen her...like a broken record,

> > without a scratch. I can hardly take it. I sit there ready to scream.

> > Finally, I just have to jump up, and say " well I've got to go right now

> > or I'll be late. " As I practically shove her out the door.

> > Interesting, there is a neighbor that she doesn't like. And it's

> > because that neighbor talks non-stop. Oh, brother.

> >

> > I don't understand it. And I don't understand why the same exact

> > topics for years. It's beyond boring...it's torcher.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I can relate too. Our phone conversations are mum talking 95% of

the time about her. And about stuff that I'm really not interested

in. And because I don't want to tell her anything meaningful about me,

my 5% of phone conversation time I talk about the weather.

I'm starting to get sick of the phone " conversation " thing. I think -

when is it my turn to speak?

[Guest guest]

I'm in the same situation - I can count on Nada to say these things

at least 5 times in each phone conversation:

" You have NO idea what I've been going through "

" I've never been treated this way in my life by anyone "

" I've never been this ______ (sad, lonely, upset, whatever "

" If you'd just pray harder, things will work out "

And my favorite:

" I am never speaking to (insert friend name here) again "

"

>

> Yes, I can relate too. Our phone conversations are mum talking 95%

of

> the time about her. And about stuff that I'm really not interested

> in. And because I don't want to tell her anything meaningful about

me,

> my 5% of phone conversation time I talk about the weather.

> I'm starting to get sick of the phone " conversation " thing. I

think -

> when is it my turn to speak?

>