What Kindergarten should I put my child in?

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Have I sent you the medical stuff I forward to new parents yet? Can I steal

your living on an " Autism Island " for my book. I love it!!!

I'm going to post this answer minus your letter on the list as it might help

someone else in a similar situation. The fixation, OCD and arm flapping

will go away with medical treatment or more correctly, after treatment he

can then learn not to do these things. When you get there I will help you

with this.

As for what you are doing, your instincts are correct. Put him in a typical

Kindergarten with an aide. The aide needs to be introduced as the aide for

the entire class. That way he won't feel different or get too dependent on

her. She should help everyone but know she is really there for him. But

she will be there to immediately correct social issues which are the last to

come. At our school the teacher was grateful for the help and then didn't

resent because he was much more work. In addition, we would cluster

kids who were behind academically with . was ahead, and that way

the kids who would not otherwise qualify for services got help. We called it

's shit screen. They made look better in comparison. It was a win

win.

He needs to be with " typical " kids so when he does something appropriate, he

gets an appropriate response. In addition, he needs role models that do

thinks correctly and a classroom that is stimulating. The one big mistake I

made with was to put him in a hand-in-hand class for preschool. Half

the kids were special and half were typical. was the worst behaved kid

in the class at that time, but with the medical and ABA, he soon surpassed

the rest of the special kids.

I started with Dr.G when was just five. Did DAN before that. Very

similar timing as you. But back then Dr. G didn't have all the tricks in

his bag he has now. We were one of the first he treated and he didn't yet

have the virus component in place. That was big for . If a kid is not

too messed up in their immune system, I think things move faster now than

they did then.

We did not start in Kindergarten till he was six. In Minnesota, you

couldn't start unless your child was five September 1. This was lucky for

us because back then I didn't understand it is important for our kids to be

one of the older kids since they are behind socially. Also, that gives you

more time to work with them to catch them up before they start school. Of

course it wasn't enough time, he was a mess back then. We continued to work

after school and on weekends until about fourth grade. Summer was always a

big work time for us even after that because while everyone else was losing

skills, we were gaining them. I'm attaching my summary chapter on

Kindergarten from my book.

I'm not as good at the medical but Dr. G will address the lymph node issue.

It sounds to me like he has an active infection that needs addressing but

I'm not a doctor.

I like you worked all hours to make sure I did all I could for my kiddo. My

husband used to yell at me when I was reading way into the night on new

therapies (before I found Dr G). There was no internet back then and when I

wasn't working with I was reading. My husband told me I can't do this

24/7. My reply was I have to, I'm 's only hope.

That is the needed attitude to help them. We have to be a bit obsessive and

only a dedicated stubborn mom can do that. When was younger, I didn't

really believe he could get better. Most of what I did was to alleviate any

guilt if I had to place him in a group home after I was too old to care for

him. But thank goodness for guilt. It kept me going when I was ready to

give up. Please call me if I can help or failed to answer any of your

questions.

Best,

Marcia

805 497-8202