You make the call

[Guest guest]

I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible. A few nights back my

brother (the bi-polar, suicidal, drug/alcohol addict) started yet another

brawl with my parents...so DH and I went and bailed them out, got control of

him and brought peace and order back to their house. (yeah, yeah....my

therapist keeps telling me to stop too, but when I say no then there ends up

being hell to pay...my mother kills an animal, sets my house of fire, you

name it...it's just easier to just go over their and squash it and walk

away) This has gone on for 3 nights in a row. So Monday night my husband

caught my brother stealing medicine from out house (again...this makes the

6th time)...the last time he did it I told him, no screwing around...if he

does it again, I press charges...period. So he did it again. I approached

both my mother and my father, told them that I HAD to do something but

didn't want to make it worse on them...what did they want me to do. I got a

guilt ridden, nasty " do whatever you have to " from nada and a shoulder shrug

from fada. I brought up him being suicidal and told them I was concerned

about what he may have taken that we DIDN'T know about. So I went and got

all my prescription medications and counted them...nothing more was missing.

I thought on it for about 4 hours and then finally told my husband that my

hands were tied...I have to follow through and file charges. So we did. In

the process of filing charges I had a severe panic attack and the police

department called 911...i signed off because by the time they got there it

had passed. I sobbed for 3 days...I hated what I had to do, but it did have

to be done.

Last night we had a war to top off all wars. Apparently in order to dodge 3

dui charges that he has racked up over the past 5 days he has agreed to go

to rehab (he just got out of re-hab 2 week ago) I asked them if they were

just fighting those charges...they said yes. I replied well, I didn't want

you to be blindsided so you might as well know, that's not the sum of the

charges...I filed one on Monday...so that's one more. OMG...they totally

went OFF on me. There was alot said that was so twisted I won't even go

into it because most of the comments end up contradicting each other. (For

instance, they blamed me for an " anxiety attack " my brother had when I told

him I filed charges against him <which I never told him> just to turn around

and tell me that I should have told them. In one breath they said they knew

and then in the same breath said they didn't.) Here was the peach of the

comments from nada:

Nada: " I can't understand WHY you would press charges against him.....he

didn't do anything wrong! "

Me : " Yes he did, he came into my home and stole medication from

me...AGAIN! "

Nada: " But you sat right at my kitchen counter and told me nothing was

missing "

Me : " No, I said nothing ELSE was missing "

Nada: " But he didn't take anything, you got you medicine back! "

Me: " Yes, because he got caught taking it and it was recovered before he

could leave with it! "

Nada: " So he didn't do anything wrong! What's wrong with you?!!?! "

Me: " Holy Shit Mom, if you can't see what is wrong with this picture then

you are worse off than he is! "

Nada: " Well you just wait, your father knows people and we will see who ends

up in trouble, you have asked for more trouble than you will ever get out

off, you just wait, you will get yours, and I will make sure of that! "

Me: " What's that supposed to mean? "

Fada: " Just wait until tomorrow and you will see...I know the judge and I

know the commissioner and this isn't going to end the way you thought it

would little girl. "

Nada: " Yes and tomorrow he will be taken away from me and you won't have to

worry about your precious medication " (Uhhhh....they are the one who

MANIPULATED the rehab in order to avoid him being prosecuted for violating

his DWI probation with 3 MORE Dui charges...they made the choice to hide him

away in rehab before any of this went down.)

I just said " whatever " and walked out. I told both of them a thousand times

that this was between my brother and I and this was all just about

consistency...nothing more, nothing less. If I tell him I will do something

then I will do it...and that goes both ways....not just for negative stuff,

but for positive stuff too. If I tell him I will take him somewhere or bail

him out, I do it. To be honest that is his biggest problem...they have

never been consistent one single day in their lives.

Ugh...I don't know...I did the right thing, I know but the guilt and

frustration has overtaken me and all I can do is cry. Get this...my brother

is totally cool with it. He and I are just fine. I kissed him this morning

and told him I loved him and he kissed me back and told me he loved me too

and " was glad he had SOMEONE to count on " . I started to tell him I was

sorry but he interrupted me and said " no, it's cool...you told me before you

were going to do that, and you did so....it's all cool " .

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Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny