Re: Has anyone experienced this

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Bennie wrote:

> I have no friends in my town and I really don't want any.

I also have no close friends here in my town, and I don't really need

or want any. I never really gave thought to toxic relationships, but

that's exactly what these ex friends were to me!

> My husband is my best friend and my son is twenty and does what he can.

You and I must be the luckiest women in the world, my husband is a

gem. After working in construction all day, (he is a general

contractor) he will come home and cook dinner for me every night. I do

what I can to keep the house clean, and keep up with the laundry, but

without him, I'm not sure I could do it.

I also have my 25 year old youngest son living with us right now, and

he is unemployed, and looking for work. But he helps tremendously. He

always asks if there is anything he can do for me, or what can he do

to make me more comfortable. He turned into such a caring young man.

I too have often thought about joining a pain support group, but I

find I don't do well in a group setting, it makes me nervous for some

reason. But with my family around me, including my Mother, I get

support from them.

This forum also helps a lot.

Leigh Anne

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Rebbecca wrote:

I'm sorry your friends did that to you. I have not experienced

what you went through yet.

Hi Becky,

I hate to say this but, I too am now shying away from people. I think

mainly because I don't want to get close to anyone outside my family

after my experience with people I thought were my friends and cared

about me.

My Mother thinks I need friendships, but I've explained to her what

those people did to me, so I think she understands more now about the

way I feel.

But you are right, these so called friends were not real friends.

Thanks Becky

Leigh Anne

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You have a true blessing. My chronic pain has cost me my closest friends

because I am no longer happy go lucky like I used to be. It has cost me my 10

yr

relationship as my partner grew tired of me constantly in bed in pain. It

cost me my career, my identity, my self. But I am doing all I can do and that

is take one day at a time and trust the Lord wont give me more than I can

handle. It seems I live through others on TV.

ny in WVa

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Hi Leigh

I know how you feel about using a wheelchair/scooter. My hubby was the same

and I had a terrible time trying to get him to use it. He said peoplewould

think he was just putting it on, kidding he could not walk. that was really

down to the gossips of the village.

The reason I moved from Scotland. My attitude is " if you need it, use it " why

suffer more than you need to.

You can use the scooter when out but walk around the house. I find it very

painful to stand for more than a minute but as my job in the house is to wash up

the dishes, I use a tall stool. I nearly topple off it as I am so round, but I

get the job done in the end.

You will not be helpless, you can still do things even at alower level. Might

not be able to do the marothon or run up the stairs but there will be lots of

things you can d.

I am happily suprised at how people treat you. When in a supermarket, People

offer to get things for a shelf, high or low. Most people get out of my way too.

I tell myself, " it could be worse " and do try to be positive. I certainly do

have days when I can't but I say " take it easy, don't worry as you will be

better tomorrow "

Hope your pain is lesser today.

Berenice