Guest guest Posted March 28, 2011 Report Share Posted March 28, 2011 Hi All, I am sure all of us must be going through to this? I also have a twin sister who is NT. Been busy with my son taking him to hospital, therapy, etc Am not having any playdates for my daughter yet. Sometimes, I want my son to be a bit social before I have playdates for my kids. Dauther who is about 3.5yrs feels left out at theapy as it is mostly play method. My daughter on the other hand I feel is loosing out on her childhoold if I don't do anything for her. What should I do? Am I taking her for granted ? Please help as to how you handle these situations. Thanks 3yrs old ASD ... will start cheltion soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2011 Report Share Posted March 29, 2011 I, too, have boy/girl twins (they just turned 9 on Sunday). My daughter gets a lot of socializing at school and now that they are older, it's much easier to arrange for playdates for her to go to a friends' or to have a friend over on those rare afternoons we are actually home and not at some kind of therapy appointment. Can you put your daughter in a really fun preschool at least a couple of days a week? I did Stroller Strides classes with my twins when they were infants & toddlers and it was a good way for all 3 of us to socialize and get out of the house and for me to get much needed exercise. I think exposing my son to social situations from an early age has helped him so much now to understand what behaviors are socially acceptable and those that are not.we've always practiced when my daughter's friends are around and we are on outings. Kristy Nardini Tazzini Stainless Steel Bottles www.tazzini.com kristy@... 858.243.1929 <http://www.facebook.com/tazzinicompany> Find us on Facebook! <http://www.twitter.com/tazzini> Follow us on Twitter! From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Mom Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 8:45 AM undisclosed recipients: Subject: social life ? what to do? Hi All, I am sure all of us must be going through to this? I also have a twin sister who is NT. Been busy with my son taking him to hospital, therapy, etc Am not having any playdates for my daughter yet. Sometimes, I want my son to be a bit social before I have playdates for my kids. Dauther who is about 3.5yrs feels left out at theapy as it is mostly play method. My daughter on the other hand I feel is loosing out on her childhoold if I don't do anything for her. What should I do? Am I taking her for granted ? Please help as to how you handle these situations. Thanks 3yrs old ASD ... will start cheltion soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Laureen, That has been my experience,too. My NT kids are so kind, loving and accepting with their little brother and other children with extra challenges. My 2 high schoolers are the Basketball coaches for my son's Abilities Basketball league. These are great reasons for optimism for the future. I am so grateful for them! Sheryl Sent from my iPhone On Mar 30, 2011, at 9:39 AM, Laureen Forman <lforman@...> wrote: > For both of my younger daughters, I did classes and enrolled them in Pre-K > at age 2 as I felt it was important for them to socialize with their peers. > > However, I have found that it has been really beneficial for my kids to > socialize and be around other kids like her brother and hang out with the > typical siblings of these kids. I just didn’t have the time nor the energy > to hang out with moms from the Pre-K where they were worried about very > mundane things in my opinion as I have much bigger issues to deal with. > Most of my friends have kids like mine and typical kids too – it makes for > very interesting get togethers – but, for my girls, it’s completely normal > in their world. > > My middle is the kindest, sweetest, gentile kiddo with other kids who may > not necessarily reciprocate her attempts to play. She sticks it out with > them though and forms very great friendships with those kids. She has an > innate sense of what to do and patience. I think the siblings will be the > ones to change the world. > > Laureen > > On 3/29/11 8:52 PM, " Kristy Nardini " <knardini@...> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > I, too, have boy/girl twins (they just turned 9 on Sunday). My daughter gets > > a lot of socializing at school and now that they are older, it's much easier > > to arrange for playdates for her to go to a friends' or to have a friend > > over on those rare afternoons we are actually home and not at some kind of > > therapy appointment. Can you put your daughter in a really fun preschool at > > least a couple of days a week? I did Stroller Strides classes with my twins > > when they were infants & toddlers and it was a good way for all 3 of us to > > socialize and get out of the house and for me to get much needed exercise. I > > think exposing my son to social situations from an early age has helped him > > so much now to understand what behaviors are socially acceptable and those > > that are not.we've always practiced when my daughter's friends are around > > and we are on outings. > > > > Kristy Nardini > > > > Tazzini Stainless Steel Bottles > > > > www.tazzini.com > > > > kristy@... <mailto:kristy%40tazzini.com> > > > > 858.243.1929 > > > > <http://www.facebook.com/tazzinicompany> Find us on Facebook! > > > > <http://www.twitter.com/tazzini> Follow us on Twitter! > > > > From: <mailto:%40> > > [mailto: <mailto:%40> ] On Behalf Of > > > > Mom > > Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 8:45 AM > > undisclosed recipients: > > Subject: social life ? what to do? > > > > Hi All, > > I am sure all of us must be going through to this? > > I also have a twin sister who is NT. > > Been busy with my son taking him to hospital, therapy, etc > > Am not having any playdates for my daughter yet. Sometimes, I want my son > > to > > be a bit social before I have playdates for my kids. > > Dauther who is about 3.5yrs feels left out at theapy as it is mostly play > > method. > > My daughter on the other hand I feel is loosing out on her childhoold if I > > don't do anything for her. What should I do? Am I taking her for > > granted ? > > Please help as to how you handle these situations. > > > > Thanks > > > > 3yrs old ASD ... will start cheltion soon > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 For both of my younger daughters, I did classes and enrolled them in Pre-K at age 2 as I felt it was important for them to socialize with their peers. However, I have found that it has been really beneficial for my kids to socialize and be around other kids like her brother and hang out with the typical siblings of these kids. I just didn¹t have the time nor the energy to hang out with moms from the Pre-K where they were worried about very mundane things in my opinion as I have much bigger issues to deal with. Most of my friends have kids like mine and typical kids too it makes for very interesting get togethers but, for my girls, it¹s completely normal in their world. My middle is the kindest, sweetest, gentile kiddo with other kids who may not necessarily reciprocate her attempts to play. She sticks it out with them though and forms very great friendships with those kids. She has an innate sense of what to do and patience. I think the siblings will be the ones to change the world. Laureen On 3/29/11 8:52 PM, " Kristy Nardini " <knardini@...> wrote: > > > > > > I, too, have boy/girl twins (they just turned 9 on Sunday). My daughter gets > a lot of socializing at school and now that they are older, it's much easier > to arrange for playdates for her to go to a friends' or to have a friend > over on those rare afternoons we are actually home and not at some kind of > therapy appointment. Can you put your daughter in a really fun preschool at > least a couple of days a week? I did Stroller Strides classes with my twins > when they were infants & toddlers and it was a good way for all 3 of us to > socialize and get out of the house and for me to get much needed exercise. I > think exposing my son to social situations from an early age has helped him > so much now to understand what behaviors are socially acceptable and those > that are not.we've always practiced when my daughter's friends are around > and we are on outings. > > Kristy Nardini > > Tazzini Stainless Steel Bottles > > www.tazzini.com > > kristy@... <mailto:kristy%40tazzini.com> > > 858.243.1929 > > <http://www.facebook.com/tazzinicompany> Find us on Facebook! > > <http://www.twitter.com/tazzini> Follow us on Twitter! > > From: <mailto:%40> > [mailto: <mailto:%40> ] On Behalf Of > > Mom > Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 8:45 AM > undisclosed recipients: > Subject: social life ? what to do? > > Hi All, > I am sure all of us must be going through to this? > I also have a twin sister who is NT. > Been busy with my son taking him to hospital, therapy, etc > Am not having any playdates for my daughter yet. Sometimes, I want my son > to > be a bit social before I have playdates for my kids. > Dauther who is about 3.5yrs feels left out at theapy as it is mostly play > method. > My daughter on the other hand I feel is loosing out on her childhoold if I > don't do anything for her. What should I do? Am I taking her for > granted ? > Please help as to how you handle these situations. > > Thanks > > 3yrs old ASD ... will start cheltion soon > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Our sons first friend in pre-k was a very patient and loving girl. After talking with her mom it became clear that her youngest had some speech issues and could have been on the spectrum. This girl was patient and kind to my son because she was used to bein a caregiver at home. Unfortunatly they are in different kindergarten classes this year.  > > > > > > > > > > > > > I, too, have boy/girl twins (they just turned 9 on Sunday). My daughter gets > > a lot of socializing at school and now that they are older, it's much easier > > to arrange for playdates for her to go to a friends' or to have a friend > > over on those rare afternoons we are actually home and not at some kind of > > therapy appointment. Can you put your daughter in a really fun preschool at > > least a couple of days a week? I did Stroller Strides classes with my twins > > when they were infants & toddlers and it was a good way for all 3 of us to > > socialize and get out of the house and for me to get much needed exercise. I > > think exposing my son to social situations from an early age has helped him > > so much now to understand what behaviors are socially acceptable and those > > that are not.we've always practiced when my daughter's friends are around > > and we are on outings. > > > > Kristy Nardini > > > > Tazzini Stainless Steel Bottles > > > > www.tazzini.com > > > > kristy@... <mailto:kristy%40tazzini.com> > > > > 858.243.1929 > > > > <http://www.facebook.com/tazzinicompany> Find us on Facebook! > > > > <http://www.twitter.com/tazzini> Follow us on Twitter! > > > > From: <mailto:%40> > > [mailto: <mailto:%40> ] On Behalf Of > > > > Mom > > Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 8:45 AM > > undisclosed recipients: > > Subject: social life ? what to do? > > > > Hi All, > > I am sure all of us must be going through to this? > > I also have a twin sister who is NT. > > Been busy with my son taking him to hospital, therapy, etc > > Am not having any playdates for my daughter yet. Sometimes, I want my son > > to > > be a bit social before I have playdates for my kids. > > Dauther who is about 3.5yrs feels left out at theapy as it is mostly play > > method. > > My daughter on the other hand I feel is loosing out on her childhoold if I > > don't do anything for her. What should I do? Am I taking her for > > granted ? > > Please help as to how you handle these situations. > > > > Thanks > > > > 3yrs old ASD ... will start cheltion soon > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 I agree with you Laureen! Our daughter is 2 & 1/1 years older that our son and she went to all of his therapies and participated in the playgroups as a model to her brother and other kids. This helped her to realize that she can make a difference in other kids lives! Today she's 15 and with our help formed a non-profit to ship food to the poor of the Dominican Republic and Haiti. Both our son and daughter travel with us every summer for 2 weeks to help feed the poor, all of this was her idea. She is very social at school and has many friends. And thanks to bringing her typical friends for sleepovers at our house over the years when they were little our son learned from them. Girls are very accepting and helpful. Even to this day, he's 12 and the girls are 15-16 and they still include him in and hug and kiss him all the time, and yes they still come over for sleep overs. I hope this helps! Argie On Mar 30, 2011, at 9:39 AM, Laureen Forman wrote: > For both of my younger daughters, I did classes and enrolled them in > Pre-K > at age 2 as I felt it was important for them to socialize with their > peers. > > However, I have found that it has been really beneficial for my kids > to > socialize and be around other kids like her brother and hang out > with the > typical siblings of these kids. I just didn’t have the time nor the > energy > to hang out with moms from the Pre-K where they were worried about > very > mundane things in my opinion as I have much bigger issues to deal > with. > Most of my friends have kids like mine and typical kids too – it > makes for > very interesting get togethers – but, for my girls, it’s completely > normal > in their world. > > My middle is the kindest, sweetest, gentile kiddo with other kids > who may > not necessarily reciprocate her attempts to play. She sticks it out > with > them though and forms very great friendships with those kids. She > has an > innate sense of what to do and patience. I think the siblings will > be the > ones to change the world. > > Laureen > > On 3/29/11 8:52 PM, " Kristy Nardini " <knardini@...> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > I, too, have boy/girl twins (they just turned 9 on Sunday). My > daughter gets > > a lot of socializing at school and now that they are older, it's > much easier > > to arrange for playdates for her to go to a friends' or to have a > friend > > over on those rare afternoons we are actually home and not at some > kind of > > therapy appointment. Can you put your daughter in a really fun > preschool at > > least a couple of days a week? I did Stroller Strides classes with > my twins > > when they were infants & toddlers and it was a good way for all 3 > of us to > > socialize and get out of the house and for me to get much needed > exercise. I > > think exposing my son to social situations from an early age has > helped him > > so much now to understand what behaviors are socially acceptable > and those > > that are not.we've always practiced when my daughter's friends are > around > > and we are on outings. > > > > Kristy Nardini > > > > Tazzini Stainless Steel Bottles > > > > www.tazzini.com > > > > kristy@... <mailto:kristy%40tazzini.com> > > > > 858.243.1929 > > > > <http://www.facebook.com/tazzinicompany> Find us on Facebook! > > > > <http://www.twitter.com/tazzini> Follow us on Twitter! > > > > From: <mailto:%40> > > [mailto: <mailto:%40> ] On > Behalf Of > > > > Mom > > Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 8:45 AM > > undisclosed recipients: > > Subject: social life ? what to do? > > > > Hi All, > > I am sure all of us must be going through to this? > > I also have a twin sister who is NT. > > Been busy with my son taking him to hospital, therapy, etc > > Am not having any playdates for my daughter yet. Sometimes, I want > my son > > to > > be a bit social before I have playdates for my kids. > > Dauther who is about 3.5yrs feels left out at theapy as it is > mostly play > > method. > > My daughter on the other hand I feel is loosing out on her > childhoold if I > > don't do anything for her. What should I do? Am I taking her for > > granted ? > > Please help as to how you handle these situations. > > > > Thanks > > > > 3yrs old ASD ... will start cheltion soon > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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