Anyone put a restraining order on nada?

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Has anyone obtained a restraining order against their nada without a

catastophic event? We live 3 blocks from nada & fada and I have been

very LC for 2-3 years. Nada hada been just leaving us alone for the

last 9 months. Even after having them to our house with the entire

family for Christmas, they stayed away. Then we decided to meet them

with my brother & his family at Easter and since then she has

been " running " into me when I pick up the kids, dropping things on

the front porch and then stopped by to drop off a gift a couple weeks

ago.

Below is the email I wrote to her after she dropped by unannounced

and a couple weeks later she wrote the response below. We have

changed our locks and made it clear to her that she is not to come

into contact with any of my family without permission. She was doing

pretty well. But her disregard for my boundaries in this email makes

me wonder if I need to take it to the next level.

Anyone have any legal background that they could offer advice? Is

this enough for me to be granted a restraining order? Any other word

of wisdom? I am back to having terrible dreams and the rest hoping

she will stay away from my 3 young kids.

My Email to them:

Mom and Dad,

Please request my permission in the future to drop items off at my

house, come to my home or on my property. This may require more

advanced notice for delivery of birthday items in the future. There

is also always the option of mailing birthday items. You are also

required to have my permission to enter my children¡¯s places of

school/activities or come in contact with them in any way.

Driving by or facilitating chance encounters is a stalking, bullying

and intimidating behavior. If you cannot control and avoid these

behaviors, maybe you should consider taking steps that will make

these behaviors less tempting for you.

I might normally be inclined to say something nice here or thank you

for Ben¡¯s birthday gift however you seem to read these simple acts as

a sign that you no longer need to be respectful of the above things I

have requested from you.

Thank you in advance,

[my name]

Her response email:

[my name]:

I first wrote this 4/22, and for some reason didn¡¯t/couldn¡¯t send.

Today, we went to see [nada's counselor]. It helps to talk.

Perhaps you know [my brother's] Schedule. If you are available &

want to come Sunday after the race, we Welcome you & Your Family.

I¡¯ll have pulled pork sandwiches, fruit¡¦etc. We¡¯d like to offer

our cottage facilities to you & perhaps your friends while we are

away. We¡¯ll be gone June 12-July 3rd & possibly head for the lake July

4th. It¡¯s also available Aug. 8-15. ¢½Mom

4-22-08

We did want to reach out to you & your family. ¡°Hugs from __.¡±

Realizing Sat. we hadn¡¯t again mailed [my son's] card early enough to

be there for His Birthday. We were gone & tired¡¦didn¡¯t get it done.

I wrapped the gift quickly before meeting someone for dinner & we

dropped it off on our way back home. There is a natural feeling to

want to connect w/family after being w/your Cousins, Aunt & Uncle.

I¡¯d like to share w/you messages from all of the ________¡¦there

greetings. I¡¯d like for you to see the _______ that _____ Made for

us. We can¡¯t call unless there is a death. We¡¯ve rarely gotten a

response to email. Dropping off a Birthday Gift isn¡¯t very

satisfying for any of us. I¡¯d like for you to drop by as you did

w/___ wanting to stop by ¡°Grandpa & Grandma around the corner.¡± You

are Welcome.

I¡¯ve been told by a counselor that we should find out when school

activities are¡¦if you don¡¯t let us know. ArePublic Schools off-

limits to Grandparents?

I am offended & concerned that you areindicating there have been

chance encounters facilitated. Love. Mom & Dad