Guest guest Posted June 7, 2008 Report Share Posted June 7, 2008 Just to update all of you, my father's funeral was yesterday, and it went off without a hitch. & nbsp; My BP mom did not create a scene, and I managed to evade her successfully. & nbsp; I had told a couple friends of mine the situation with her, and the possibility of attacks and theatrics, based on what several of you had mentioned, and these friends stuck to me like glue. & nbsp; It was a very successful strategy, because she couldn't corner me. & nbsp; She tried several times, but each time my friends either blocked her, or engaged me in conversation with my back to her, so that she couldn't & nbsp; get my attention. My mom didn't know these friends, either, and when they came in 10 minutes late, she gave them dirty looks several times. & nbsp; It was rather funny, actually. & nbsp; And after the service, she couldn't bully them or manipulate them, because she didn't know them! & nbsp; She did manage to cadge an introduction to them after all the well-wishers had gone, and gave them a fake smile. & nbsp; I weasled my way out to the car at the end, and zoomed off while she was giving her dog some water. (yes, she took the dog with her for the three hour drive to where she used to live, where the service was held. & nbsp; and the dog went to the burial-the actual gravesite, as well.) & nbsp; Afterwards, my mom's sisters and in-laws all met at my friend's house, as well as & nbsp;my bro and SIL, and my mom didn't know a thing about it. & nbsp; Her siblings went LC with her looooong before I did and applauded when I finally left her 6 years ago. They've been a huge support during this time of my father's extended illness. Moral of the story: & nbsp; the toxic & nbsp;person can be neutralized if there enough people who know what's going on and block access to the intended victim! BIG sigh of relief! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2008 Report Share Posted June 10, 2008 I am soooo glad you were able to manage this so that the day went smoothly. You and your friends did a supurb job you should be proud of yourself. I hate to see days like this damaged by the theatrics of one idiot. Good for you. As a forewarning, be prepared for her behavior to get bizzare over the next six months when she realizes that the attention is no longer on her. Keep your guard up. Fada's funeral over Just to update all of you, my father's funeral was yesterday, and it went off without a hitch. & nbsp; My BP mom did not create a scene, and I managed to evade her successfully. & nbsp; I had told a couple friends of mine the situation with her, and the possibility of attacks and theatrics, based on what several of you had mentioned, and these friends stuck to me like glue. & nbsp; It was a very successful strategy, because she couldn't corner me. & nbsp; She tried several times, but each time my friends either blocked her, or engaged me in conversation with my back to her, so that she couldn't & nbsp; get my attention. My mom didn't know these friends, either, and when they came in 10 minutes late, she gave them dirty looks several times. & nbsp; It was rather funny, actually. & nbsp; And after the service, she couldn't bully them or manipulate them, because she didn't know them! & nbsp; She did manage to cadge an introduction to them after all the well-wishers had gone, and gave them a fake smile. & nbsp; I weasled my way out to the car at the end, and zoomed off while she was giving her dog some water. (yes, she took the dog with her for the three hour drive to where she used to live, where the service was held. & nbsp; and the dog went to the burial-the actual gravesite, as well.) & nbsp; Afterwards, my mom's sisters and in-laws all met at my friend's house, as well as & nbsp;my bro and SIL, and my mom didn't know a thing about it. & nbsp; Her siblings went LC with her looooong before I did and applauded when I finally left her 6 years ago. They've been a huge support during this time of my father's extended illness. Moral of the story: & nbsp; the toxic & nbsp;person can be neutralized if there enough people who know what's going on and block access to the intended victim! BIG sigh of relief! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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