Guest guest Posted June 16, 2008 Report Share Posted June 16, 2008 So my Nada used to throw herself birthday parties. She would buy herself a cake, buy herself gifts and then wrap them and address them from us. Then she would open them and say " This one is from you... oh! I love it! Thank you sweetie! " and act surprised. It was definatly one of those moments when we knew something was wrong with her. Then she would have us all sing. It was really REALLY sad. And weird. What is really sad is that if she didn't do the self thrown party, we probably wouldnt have done anything for her. I know it sounds mean but everybody was always just so sick of her, we didnt really consider celebrating her birthday or mothers day. Any ideas about why someone would do something so weird? Wha's that about? How does that fit in with BPD? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2008 Report Share Posted June 16, 2008 My nada didn't do that, but last Christmas she decreed since the entire family was going on a cruise together (which meant my sister, her hubby, her oldest daughter and spouse and youngest daughter, and my sister's stepmother in law and half-sister in law, and nada) that we would agree not to buy each other Christmas gifts. Even though I chose not to go, I went along with the no gifts rule. So Christmas Day comes, and nada calls me from my sister's house, hysterical. It seems no one bought nada a gift and she didn't buy them gifts, but they bought each other gifts. Nada felt neglected. When they repeated back to her that she had agreed not to give gifts and they agreed not to as well, they clarified that they hadn't promised EACH OTHER not to do gifts - just nada. She's still kvetching about how she felt like a " n-word " (this is a WHITE woman!) and how they would all be sorry. By the way this happened a month or so after she removed me as executrix of her will and made my sister the executrix. She's still talking about leaving it all to a total stranger. Why is it when you give a BP what they've asked for, it's still not good enough? > > So my Nada used to throw herself birthday parties. She would buy > herself a cake, buy herself gifts and then wrap them and address them > from us. Then she would open them and say " This one is from you... oh! > I love it! Thank you sweetie! " and act surprised. It was definatly one > of those moments when we knew something was wrong with her. Then she > would have us all sing. > > It was really REALLY sad. And weird. What is really sad is that if she > didn't do the self thrown party, we probably wouldnt have done anything > for her. I know it sounds mean but everybody was always just so sick of > her, we didnt really consider celebrating her birthday or mothers day. > > Any ideas about why someone would do something so weird? Wha's that > about? How does that fit in with BPD? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2008 Report Share Posted June 16, 2008 --- This reminds me of my nada's rantings, growing up, which would start several days prior to Mother's Day and her bday, about how we'd BETTER not get her a gift, AFTER the WAY WE TREATED HER. This was so cruel. She really is such an evil bitch. You know how little girls want to give their mother a card or a gift? I cannot in a million years imagine depriving my little girl of this joy. Now, my solution to Mother's Day and her bday is to send flowers. That way, when anyone comes in, there they are, proof that her daughters are caring. I do not call. I refuse to talk to her on the phone. I can't listen to the complaining or the raging. Joanna In WTOAdultChildren1 , " Doc " wrote: > > My nada didn't do that, but last Christmas she decreed since the > entire family was going on a cruise together (which meant my sister, > her hubby, her oldest daughter and spouse and youngest daughter, and > my sister's stepmother in law and half-sister in law, and nada) that > we would agree not to buy each other Christmas gifts. Even though I > chose not to go, I went along with the no gifts rule. > > So Christmas Day comes, and nada calls me from my sister's house, > hysterical. It seems no one bought nada a gift and she didn't buy > them gifts, but they bought each other gifts. Nada felt neglected. > When they repeated back to her that she had agreed not to give gifts > and they agreed not to as well, they clarified that they hadn't > promised EACH OTHER not to do gifts - just nada. > > She's still kvetching about how she felt like a " n-word " (this is a > WHITE woman!) and how they would all be sorry. By the way this > happened a month or so after she removed me as executrix of her will > and made my sister the executrix. She's still talking about leaving > it all to a total stranger. > > Why is it when you give a BP what they've asked for, it's still not > good enough? > > > > > > > > So my Nada used to throw herself birthday parties. She would buy > > herself a cake, buy herself gifts and then wrap them and address > them > > from us. Then she would open them and say " This one is from you... > oh! > > I love it! Thank you sweetie! " and act surprised. It was definatly > one > > of those moments when we knew something was wrong with her. Then > she > > would have us all sing. > > > > It was really REALLY sad. And weird. What is really sad is that if > she > > didn't do the self thrown party, we probably wouldnt have done > anything > > for her. I know it sounds mean but everybody was always just so > sick of > > her, we didnt really consider celebrating her birthday or mothers > day. > > > > Any ideas about why someone would do something so weird? Wha's that > > about? How does that fit in with BPD? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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