Re: magnetism for the wrong sort

[Guest guest]

Girlscout, you got it bad girl! I don't know what " it " is, but you

got it. The image of all these people following you from the

Salvation Army is most outlandish I've ever heard of. Now see,

that's why I stay inside and have become a hermit. To avoid these

things Seriously though a number of my odd crazy people

attractions have been mentally unbalanced homeless people like you've

experienced. I've come up with many explanations for this some

flattering or some not. One is that they can tell we would have

compassion for them, another is that they see something they need

that they want on some subtle spiritual level, another is that (eeek)

they sense something in common with us. I tend to jump to spiritual

explanations because I just have never found an ordinary explanation

that explains it. I mean, is having a " kind face " enough to explain

all that??? What do your coworkers who've seen this in action think

causes it?

julie

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> > > > I was wondering how many here identify with attracting BPD

and NPD

> > > > people as friends and lovers? My father is likely NPD, and my

> > family

> > > > of origin has sprinkles of BPD and NPD behaviors all over the

> > place.

> > > > So even though I try to learn and be healthier, I can't help

but

> > > > wonder that I'm sending out signals to BPD/NPD people that

bring

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> > > > in and signals to normal folks to stay away. Has anyone here

had

> > > > this problem and overcome it? I have isolated myself a lot in

> > recent

> > > > years since I figured out what was going on, and seemed I

couldn't

> > > > stop it. I worked on being more and more aware and all I get

was

> > > > better and better camouflaged PD folks who took off the mask

as

> > soon

> > > > as I relaxed!

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> > > > thanks everyone

> > > > julie

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[Guest guest]

Hey GS-

didn't mean to imply your weren't a fighter, only telling what changed

things for me...actually, given your notes here I'm now wondering if

maybe you are just such a cool, magnetic person that you attract

freaks. I don't mean this sarcastically, I mean like movie stars do.

For example, I have a friend who actually is a dead ringer for

Hoffman. He tells a very funny story about walking down the street in

NYC, and having some lady on a bus start screaming out the window

" It's Hoffman! It's Hoffman! " Next thing he knows, an

entire tour bus full of people is chasing him down the street

screaming " ! come back, ! "

I've also known people who were so pretty, or so unusual, or just so

full of good warm loving life energy that lonely sad people drew near

them like moths to a flame. Could be that's what happening to you.

, I loved your line - Starbucks. The Native American word for

" weird people like strong coffee " . ha ha ha!

Letty

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> > > > > I was wondering how many here identify with attracting BPD and

> > NPD

> > > > > people as friends and lovers? My father is likely NPD, and my

> > > family

> > > > > of origin has sprinkles of BPD and NPD behaviors all over the

> > > place.

> > > > > So even though I try to learn and be healthier, I can't help

> > but

> > > > > wonder that I'm sending out signals to BPD/NPD people that

> > bring

> > > them

> > > > > in and signals to normal folks to stay away. Has anyone here

> > had

> > > > > this problem and overcome it? I have isolated myself a lot in

> > > recent

> > > > > years since I figured out what was going on, and seemed I

> > couldn't

> > > > > stop it. I worked on being more and more aware and all I get

> > was

> > > > > better and better camouflaged PD folks who took off the mask as

> > > soon

> > > > > as I relaxed!

> > > > >

> > > > > thanks everyone

> > > > > julie

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