Guest guest Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Carolyn, Education is not going to feed you, do the laundry, love you, be compassionate and make you laugh. I am so sorry your family feels that way, I have two Masters, a bachelors, two medical certifications, military rank and retired as Major. All that education did not make me rich as I am very simple person. I took a job in the garden center at Home Depot and my son said, " Mom you are the only one I know that takes a minimum wage job with two Masters. " I enjoyed it but hurt my back lifting > > My family hates him because he isn't well educated, and well off > financially. If they could only see that he has what is really > important in > abundance: great compassion and a wonderful sense of humor, they > would be > ashamed of the way they behave. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Yeah, I figured that out a long time ago. If I have to make a choice between who I spend time with, family or husband, husband wins every time. They are the ones who missed out on knowing this really great guy. We've been together 30 years as of last Sept. " Sweet Goat Mama " Carolyn Eddy www.goattracksmagazine.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 > The only thing that really matters is what you think about him. You > cant change other people, so really not any thing you can do about it. If you can’t change something then don’t worry about it. Ron/Pat You are so wise. I spent years trying to be there for my Dad who despise all his son-in-laws and puts them down in front of me. My husband will not be around him anymore and it is stressful be there for everyone. To late, I decided to stand up and say, I do not want to talk about anyone as it is not condusive to anyone and I love each one of you. I had to get this stress off me trying to " get along " with every one. It is their problem and sad that they chose not to know the wonderful person you husband is. My Dad is 88 and is not going to change so I just stick to my guns that is my husband and I love him so lets not talk about him. I treat everyones relationship individually. My Dad is now a pretty lonely guy because he has alienated everyone but I still go see him every three -four weeks and it sets me back driving six hours by myself. My Dad thinks I just should deal with my pain and if I lay down too much he hovers over me and tells me I must get up. He has a farm and I take my dogs, it is nice but sometimes stressful. It goes back to even though we are pain it seems we have to deal with others not being able to handle our pain and supporting them and we have to continue to handle our pain. My Father watched my Mother become bedridden and not recover from it and is worried the same will happen with me. I have to take opiates to function and he is not big on pain medication but has come to accept that I have to take them to function. Carolyn, I can tell you are a caring person and you are right to feel the way you do. You see the best in people and that is a great attribute. Bennie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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