Re: Newbie/cpmplaining/great list:)

[Guest guest]

Im with you both Deanna and Dolly on that, When I read

complaining it just reminded me of what our BPD parents do to us!

Bottom line there are tons of help groups on line if one isnt working

for you try another. Why complain and make everyone else upset? This

seems just an attention seeking behavior and does no one any good.

This list obviously gives help to alot of people or they wouldnt be

here saying so. We all would love to have tons of responses but that

isnt realistic, unless I have something to add that would be

constructive or unless a topic " speaks " to me I dont respond its

nothing personal Im just not into it. If I need to write in I do and

if someone answers that is just icing on the cake but no one is

required to. I think the biggest help from this list is just hearing

other peoples stories and knowing finally its not you, its them.

I took a break from writing into this list but I am glad it is here

when I need it. Thanks to all of you who make it a great list:)

>

> Deanna,

>

> Thank you for saying this. I'm glad someone had the fortitude to say

> it. I was disappointed to read 's posting, but now I understand

> exactly why...

>

> Bless you for having the strength to express yourself so well.

>

>

> Dolly

>

[Guest guest]

Yes -- I thought what Deanna wrote was right on the money. /Janie

(?) uses " Newbie " posts as her trojan horse to deliver a dig to

everyone else. (She says practically the same thing every time. She

seems to continually lurk for the sole purpose of seizing a chance to

get a dig in to the rest of us.) She still has some anger to offload -

- from her first " thanks for nothing " message. I can't deal with

her. Her anger store is too great, and I'm not here to be her dumping

ground.

-Kyla

[Guest guest]

Well I question whether that person is not BPD themselves as well as a

KO. Doesnt help this list.

>

> Yes -- I thought what Deanna wrote was right on the money. /Janie

> (?) uses " Newbie " posts as her trojan horse to deliver a dig to

> everyone else. (She says practically the same thing every time. She

> seems to continually lurk for the sole purpose of seizing a chance to

> get a dig in to the rest of us.) She still has some anger to offload -

> - from her first " thanks for nothing " message. I can't deal with

> her. Her anger store is too great, and I'm not here to be her dumping

> ground.

>

> -Kyla

>

[Guest guest]

Umm I didn’t bother reading it. I read the subject and thought I’ve had

enough of people whinging.

Venting can be hilarious, and quite healthy all round, but it sounded more

like just someone having a good old bitch about nothing. Sound familiar?

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[Guest guest]

I personally don't think we need to explain ourselves to this person. As a KO I

have always felt I needed to explain and keep explaining why I have done certain

things or not done certain things. The point is we are all free to respond to

whoever we want whenever we want. We are also free not to let others dump their

shame on us and free not to take judgmental comments personal. I just look at it

as an opportunity to practice boundaries with people who are unhealthy and

unsafe.

KElley

To: WTOAdultChildren1@...: femspirit@...: Wed, 2 Jan

2008 01:20:04 +0000Subject: Re: Newbie/cpmplaining/great

list:)

Im with you both Deanna and Dolly on that, When I read complaining it just

reminded me of what our BPD parents do to us!Bottom line there are tons of help

groups on line if one isnt workingfor you try another. Why complain and make

everyone else upset? Thisseems just an attention seeking behavior and does no

one any good.This list obviously gives help to alot of people or they wouldnt

behere saying so. We all would love to have tons of responses but thatisnt

realistic, unless I have something to add that would beconstructive or unless a

topic " speaks " to me I dont respond itsnothing personal Im just not into it. If

I need to write in I do andif someone answers that is just icing on the cake but

no one isrequired to. I think the biggest help from this list is just

hearingother peoples stories and knowing finally its not you, its them. I took a

break from writing into this list but I am glad it is herewhen I need it.

Thanks to all of you who make it a great list:) >>

Deanna,> > Thank you for saying this. I'm glad someone had the fortitude to say

> it. I was disappointed to read 's posting, but now I understand > exactly

why...> > Bless you for having the strength to express yourself so well.> > >

Dolly>

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