another meeting w/parents' therapist

[Guest guest]

Gosh this feels like it's never gonna end. Once the can of worms is

open there's no way to shut it. 2 days after x-mas my dad calls w/a

plea to come chat w/their therapist again. I agree to. In the meeting

my nada admits to being jealous of me, of my life, everything. She'll

make rude comments to me because of this jealousy. Suspecting it was

one thing, knowing she feels this way is quite another. She wouldn't

admit to changing stories from one person to another/lying. I didn't

expect her to. I just don't know how to be around her. I couldn't be

friends w/someone like her. After these meetings and arguing we seem to

go on like it never happened until she does something else. I don't

know how to cope w/this. I finally told my parents via ecard that I was

expecting a baby. After their crummy responses the previous times

that's why I sent the announcement on the web. This time they gave me a

really fake wow we are soooooo excited. Whatever. I hate being around

her, I can't talk to my dad about it much because he doesn't want to be

in the middle. I really hate this. Sorry I had to just vent.....

Jill

[Guest guest]

Jill,

i am so sorry, the same thing goes on in my family. Big Blow up, ignore it,

repeat. I would

say at least your Nada is in therapy, but from the tone of your post it sounds

like it doesn't

make much of a difference.

Congrats on the pregnancy, even if they aren't excited you sure can be, I know

I would!

Maybe you can gather up some friends that will be truly happy for you. I am

finding it

necessary to " start my own family " in order to be happy and celebrate my life!

L

[Guest guest]

Hey, Jill --

I'm in the same spot. I just limit my time with them, simple as

that -- they make me too crazy otherwise. You can do the same. YOU

get to decide how much of them you'll tolerate. They hate it, blame

me for it, chastise me for daring to suggest she needs help,

etc....the list goes on and on. Not my concern -- I'm concerned

with my own emotional health and that of my family.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

=Kyla

>

> Gosh this feels like it's never gonna end. Once the can of worms

is

> open there's no way to shut it. 2 days after x-mas my dad calls

w/a

> plea to come chat w/their therapist again. I agree to. In the

meeting

> my nada admits to being jealous of me, of my life, everything.

She'll

> make rude comments to me because of this jealousy. Suspecting it

was

> one thing, knowing she feels this way is quite another. She

wouldn't

> admit to changing stories from one person to another/lying. I

didn't

> expect her to. I just don't know how to be around her. I couldn't

be

> friends w/someone like her. After these meetings and arguing we

seem to

> go on like it never happened until she does something else. I

don't

> know how to cope w/this. I finally told my parents via ecard that

I was

> expecting a baby. After their crummy responses the previous times

> that's why I sent the announcement on the web. This time they gave

me a

> really fake wow we are soooooo excited. Whatever. I hate being

around

> her, I can't talk to my dad about it much because he doesn't want

to be

> in the middle. I really hate this. Sorry I had to just vent.....

> Jill

>