Understanding the BPD Mother.

[Guest guest]

Good morning everyone.

So my wife and I started reading the book Understanding the BPD

Mother, and so far I want to say it has been very helpful, and to

anyone that hasnt read it, i can tell by the first chapter and a half

that it is going to be a great help. It has helped me even remember

things that I had forgotten had happened to me, or sounded very

familiar, and the explanations are great. One thing that I was

wondering, is that in the beginning it states how mostly the BPD mom

will attach to daughters, and kids of BPD's are less likely to be

male. I had actually noticed that on this board it had seemed to me

that I was in a minority being a male here, and I was wondering if

there are any other males on this board. I am sure there are but

just haven't recognized them due to all i know about them is their

screen name. The book stated that their theory to as why there is

less men with BPD moms is only because men are much less likely to

seek therapy to even find out that their mom may suffer from BPD. If

there are guys on this board, I would be interested to hear your

story, what triggered it, when, how you are dealing with it now,

ect...

Also, I know I am extremely, what some may consider anal, but I have

been trying to plan things out (which may be an impossible feat with

a BPD mom). But my wife and I, we have only been married 2.5 years,

but we are considering having kids here in the next year or so, and

would just like to know what i should expect going into this with a

BPD mom? Right now we are NC, but I forsee me trying to regain some

contact somehow before then. I understand boundaries are important

to set, but how do you deal with a BPD mom with this situation. Some

had expressed concern for even letting my mom near any kids we may

have? Is this a valid concern, or how should people with BPD be

handled with their grandchildren?

Thanks again all.

T