Re: Re:ACcustomed to projection

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It is one of our biggest fleas. Our biggest problem in dealing with it has

always been a spontaneous defensive tactic. I agree with you about identifing

the flea, but generally speaking when someone is going to criticize you they

don't give you the opportunity to stop and think about what you feel in your

gut. Most people just charge in there with their criticism. I also agree with

you when given the opportunity and maybe with practice listening to the other

person remarks could/should eventually change our responses. You are right too

about being able to name the trait. (all of our traits) only when you name

them can you change them. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!

MARY

C D wrote:

I think not being able to deal with criticism is a big flea for us. I

have to step back and consider the words, not the tone of voice because of

nada's manipulations. I actaully studied how to realy listen to another person's

remarks so I did not blow up in anger or numb myself. It is good to recognize

this trait; when you name it, you can change it. blessings, mg