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Hello all. I am a 42 y/o daughter of a 70 y/o untreated, never

officially diagnosed borderline. I just returned from visiting her

this w/e and having gotten caught up into her madness. I have

gotten much better over the years of not " taking the bait " , but she

got me good this w/e. I got into a huge argument with her, which as

usual went from topic to topic, blaming my sister and I for all

kinds of things, then crying and playing the pity game. She

rebuffed my efforts to go get her some groceries. I had not been

planning on visiting her for the holidays at all, but then I felt

guilty and decided to go. Also, her little dog (who used to be my

dog) was dying and needed to be euthanized. I took the dog to the

vet Monday morning, and of course got not credit for this. (I was

glad to do it, but all she did was question me about it afterwards,

accusingly - Did you stay with her??? YOu didn't just drop her off,

did you???) She SO MEAN. She's so angry and bitter. It's so hard

to summarize it all, but she was very abusive, mentally and

physically to my sister and I, and our father. My dad took it all

for years, until his death last Jan at 78. He was like her personal

slave. He did everything for her - all the household chores,

completely raised my sister and I, all the while she criticized and

bitched. Driving back to NC from WV this w/e, I realized that I've

been thru this same exact cycle before, and I feel like I'm too old

to deal with it anymore. But I feel sorry for her. She is really

alone now, and it is all her fault.

Joanna in NC