Guest guest Posted January 4, 2008 Report Share Posted January 4, 2008 I guess I don't have as much of a problem with " good boy " as I do with what he'd say if he was misbehaving, i.e. " bad boy " . I think it's fine to tell a child s/he is good, but when it comes to misbehavior I think it's critical to label the behavior, and not the child, as bad. I do tell my son he's a good boy, but almost never in the context of something he's done. Usually it's when I'm tucking him in or giving him a hug before I go to work. > > My father was just over and told my son several times " good boy " for > going to the potty. " Good boy " for putting your toys away. On and on > with this good boy. I guess if he hadn't he would have been a " bad > boy " . It reminds me of how you talk to a dog. Does anyone else see > this in what was said? Has this happened to you? > > Kelley > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2008 Report Share Posted January 4, 2008 I lived with lots of nonsense labeling, too. My sister was an angry-rebel & I was a fearful-pleaser. Nada/fada always said that I was the " mature one " . For them, submissiveness = maturity. Go figure! > > I recently found a letter my nada's father wrote to me when I was in > college (I'm sure at her prompting). I reread it and was interested > to see him say, " I am glad you are one of my good grandchildren. " I > remember when I read it then thinking that I didn't know that I had > " bad " cousins. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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