Guest guest Posted January 4, 2008 Report Share Posted January 4, 2008 Hello everyone. I have been NC with NADA since November 15th. When i stopped talking to her, I didn't plan on being NC forever. But when I went NC i didn't give her any reasons for doing so. she hung up the phone on me one day, and i haven't called her since. and she would rather die than " make the first move " and call me. Eventually in the near future i would like to talk to her again. But seeing as there will be no " reasoning " with her, i don't know how to do it. I thought about writing a letter telling her how I feel about everything...ive never told her about how i felt about her as a mom or anything like what i talk about on the boards here. ive written my mother several letters over the years, mostly when i was younger and still living at home as a child. i would write her letters of remore and apology for being such a bad kid, and how sorry i was for doing wrong. she loved those letters, and saved all of them. if i write this letter and send it to her, before she opens it she will expect it to be another apology letter like she used to get from me. but it wont be, and i don't know how she will react to it. i don't know where to go from here. i plan on talking to my therapist about this before i take action. but i don't know how to word anything if i decide to write it. have any of you wrote similar letters to your NADA's or FADA's? Can you give me examples of what you wrote and how you wrote it? Should I just leave things the way they are and not worry about telling her anything? Any advice is appreciated. You all help me so much....and this board has been the biggest help for me getting through all this with my mom. Thank you so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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