Guest guest Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008  Elle,   I don't understand the point your are trying to make.  We all try to LOVE NATURALLY, but in the end no matter what we do we end up getting hurt through abuse in one form or another.  This is why we are encouraged to go No Contact.  We are  caring and good people and are in so much turmoil because the response in return is NOT NORMAL and at times ABUSIVE. .  We are to be loved unconditionally, but AREN'T. We are NOT overly-critical as you put it for we are just trying to make sense of NOT NORMAL behavior and learning from others that we are NOT alone. LOVE is a behavior- I was once told.  Doesn't one think that loving oneself first is required before loving another.  Hence, removing ourselves from abuse or trying to make sense of why we treated the way we are treated from our NADAs and FADAs is the first step.  By doing so, we can learn to loves ourselves and then build healthy relationships so that we can LOVE NATURALLY as you put it.    JUST DO IT NATURALLY don't WORK for those with BPD.  Please clarify your point. Many of other are quite interested. ________________________________________ Posted through Grouply, the better way to access your Yahoo Groups like this one. Check out Grouply at: http://www.grouply.com/?code=post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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