Re: Is anyone a highly sensitive person???

January 3, 2008

Yes...yes...yes. Nada always said that I was too emotional, even if

I thought I showed no emotion at all. You've just hit the nail on

the head with me. Wow!

Khris

>

> I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully shy,

> introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to comment

> on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing up

> if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in my

> child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a Highly

> Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

being

> Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have these

> characteristics?

>

> You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your environment,

> whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

>

> You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may find

> it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> solitude, relief and comfort.

>

> You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may

> become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> closely watched or scrutinized.

>

> You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts, also

> enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized by

> chaos, clutter, or stress.

>

> You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of

> your control.

>

> You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

river,

> stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

>

> You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

and

> can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

problems.

>

> You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may also

> frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

>

> You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if

> someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

>

> You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been

> told " you take things too personally. "

>

> You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your life.

>

> You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child.

>

> Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily. Cautious

> in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has a

> deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

>

> Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they may

> be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

>

> Kelley

>

January 3, 2008

Oooooh, Letty -- sorry to hear about the migraines, but I think

you're onto something there.....The onslaught of stimuli affects you

that way. Makes perfect sense.

I also have a clothing sensitivity! I can only wear cotton -- can't

stand to get dressed on cold mornings because I guess the cold

causes goose bumps and I hate the scratchy feeling of putting

clothes on when goose-bumpy. Also, I remember all those years I

worked and the BIG MOMENT came every morning when I had to face the

inevitable: PANTY HOSE. No wonder I was late so often!

I'm with you: what drives those people who need so much stimuli?!!

I just can't identify with it. I have a former friend that is

constantly in motion, can't sit still. Acquires friends like

shoes.....Always picking up new " friends " .......I was one of those --

I've since " dropped " her because I can't keep up with her, and

interestingly, she has a drinking problem. (Hmmmmm.....Wonder if

there's a connection????!!!!)

I hope you find a solution for your migraines. I'm on the

newsletter distribution for some natural cures for that stuff --

contact me off-board if you want some links.

{hugs}

Kyla

January 3, 2008

That is how we are trained.

For one thing, the BPD parent can blow up in a rage in an instant,

and we try to be very vigilant to detect the change that means " run

like hell, now, or they'll mow you down with their fury " .

Additionally, we are trained that our feelings don't matter, and

told by the BPD parent that we're just being selfish or overly

sensitive or whatever.

Not a great combination!

>

> I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully shy,

> introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to comment

> on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing up

> if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in my

> child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a Highly

> Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

being

> Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have these

> characteristics?

>

> You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

environment,

> whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

>

> You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

find

> it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> solitude, relief and comfort.

>

> You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may

> become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> closely watched or scrutinized.

>

> You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts, also

> enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized by

> chaos, clutter, or stress.

>

> You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of

> your control.

>

> You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

river,

> stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

>

> You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

and

> can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

problems.

>

> You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may also

> frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

>

> You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if

> someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

>

> You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been

> told " you take things too personally. "

>

> You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your life.

>

> You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child.

>

> Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

Cautious

> in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has a

> deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

>

> Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they may

> be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

>

> Kelley

>

January 3, 2008

Wow, this is interesting. I fit this description, too, and seeing so

many other affirmatives on this thread I can't help but wonder how

much is nature versus (lack of) nurture. I too was always told I was

too sensitive and needed to develop a " thick skin " . Which leads me

to wonder: why? Why do we need to develop a thick skin? So other

people can casually berate us without consequence? So no one has to

think about how their words or actions might hurt other people? I

mean, I know that there are people in this world that are going to be

mean. But I think if we teach sensitive kids how to appropriately

communicate the inappropriateness of the other's actions, rather than

to shut up and suck it up, the world might be a better place.

> >

> > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully

shy,

> > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to

comment

> > on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing

up

> > if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in

my

> > child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a

Highly

> > Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

> being

> > Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have

these

> > characteristics?

> >

> > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

> environment,

> > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> >

> > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

> find

> > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> > solitude, relief and comfort.

> >

> > You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may

> > become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> > closely watched or scrutinized.

> >

> > You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts, also

> > enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized

by

> > chaos, clutter, or stress.

> >

> > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of

> > your control.

> >

> > You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

> river,

> > stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

> >

> > You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

> and

> > can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

> problems.

> >

> > You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may

also

> > frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

> >

> > You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if

> > someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

> >

> > You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been

> > told " you take things too personally. "

> >

> > You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your life.

> >

> > You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child.

> >

> > Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

> Cautious

> > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has

a

> > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

> >

> > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they

may

> > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

> >

> > Kelley

> >

>

January 3, 2008

This me too.

I have suffered from migraines since I was a child. Also was told

constantly that I was too sensitive. My dad still brags on how easy

of a child I was to discipline as he only needed to raise his voice

and I would burst out in tears.

I am not a drinker. I have been made fun of by my nada, sister, and

nada's husband for being a stick in the mudd, and not knowing how to

have fun. " Your too serious " . When staying the night with them and

booze is out I make sure that my car is where I can get it out. My

kids practically sleep with their shoes on or close by. I have left

in the early morning after an all nighter at nada's. I have a hard

enough time at home sleeping in my own bed......but go there and

have to listen to the arguing and the loud music while you are

trying to sleep is just plain stupid......and ridiculous of them to

do anyways. I have hard time shutting my head off at night. I take

melintonin for sleep and this helps. Drinking would just interfere

with this and I feel the need to be alert to a waking child or

whatever.

I am very sensitive to others moods. Especially with babies and

animals. I can feel an explosion from miles away, earthquakes,

trains etc. I tend to read peoples faces......which is scary. I am

amazed with peoples expressions. People give alot away in just a

look. I usually can tell what some one is thinking too, movies are

fun to predict, and my family likes to throw pillows at me while

watching them. My oldest and I say word for word what each other

are thinking, and freak out when ever it happens.

I hate crowds. Its just too much, and I get over loaded, and would

rather not. I try to go, and end up leaving early after feeling

sick about it. Home is my peace and serenity.

I saw an acupuncturist this last summer. I thought she was putting

2 needles in at the same time. When I asked her about it she was

amazed, and told me that she had never had anyone feel that

sensation. She had read about it, but never seen it. She too said

I was very sensitve.

I also have motion sensitivity, and was diagnosed with a rare

condition called MdDS (Mal de Debarqument Syndrome) I am so

sensitve to motion that it sometimes takes months to get over. Its

a horribly debilitating condition, and I think I have finally

figured out how to avoid it. My longest bout was this summer

lasting from March-Aug.....rocking constantly the whole time. We

have sold our RV, which was a huge trigger, and I will not be buying

a boat in this lifetime either. Planes are iffy too. So I am earth

bound, and am happy to keep to firm ground ;0)

Sensitivity hasn't been fun.......but I think it makes me a special

person, who loves much, and is sensitve, and caring to others. If

that makes me too serious then so be it!!!

drlingirl

>

> I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully shy,

> introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to comment

> on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing up

> if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in my

> child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a Highly

> Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

being

> Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have these

> characteristics?

>

> You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

environment,

> whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

>

> You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

find

> it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> solitude, relief and comfort.

>

> You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may

> become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> closely watched or scrutinized.

>

> You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts, also

> enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized by

> chaos, clutter, or stress.

>

> You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of

> your control.

>

> You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

river,

> stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

>

> You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

and

> can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

problems.

>

> You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may also

> frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

>

> You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if

> someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

>

> You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been

> told " you take things too personally. "

>

> You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your life.

>

> You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child.

>

> Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

Cautious

> in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has a

> deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

>

> Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they may

> be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

>

> Kelley

>

January 3, 2008

MY NADA always told me " you're so thin skinned " and " you take

everything personally " and " you take everything the wrong way! " .

I don't consider myself highly sensitive in a normal environment

surrounded by normal people. I am highly sensitive around my NADA

and the rest of my FOO. NADA can make the simplest comment and it

could still turn my world upside down.

I am a chubby girl, but i dress well, and consider myself semi

attractive. but when i am around mom and the family (excluding my

sister) i feel like a fat whale that should be ashamed of myself. my

NADA is a big girl too, and so is most of the family (we're italian,

all we eat is bread and pasta, what's a girl to do? haha!) but i

still felt like i was physically unacceptable around them. I

remember being 5 and my mom giving me lectures on how i should watch

what i eat, because she didn't want me to be heavy and have the same

problems she did with self esteem, confidence, men, and being

teased.

I have been overweight most of my life, and even in grade school and

high school i was NEVER teased for being fat or anything like that.

my mom brought up my weight problem more than anyone.

when i had to go to the doctors office for check ups or whatever and

had to get weighed, she would ask the doctor about my weight

problem. i once told her how that made me uncomfortable and asked

her to stop. after that when i would get weighed at the drs office,

she wouldn't bring it up, but after the nurse wrote my weight down

in the chart she would lean over very noticeably to look at the

number. if i had gained weight or she didn't like the numbers she

saw, she would look at me and shake her head or give me a look of

disapproval, as if i needed to be ashamed of myself.

she had been heavy her entire life. her own mother ridiculed her for

it, and was teased in high school. maybe this was NADA's ways of

putting me through the same turmoil she had to go through, just in a

different way.

but to the rest of the world i feel like a normal person...because I

can be myself around them. I can't be myself around NADA, because

that isn't good enough for her.

>

> I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully shy,

> introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to comment

> on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing up

> if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in my

> child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a Highly

> Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

being

> Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have these

> characteristics?

>

> You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

environment,

> whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

>

> You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

find

> it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> solitude, relief and comfort.

>

> You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may

> become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> closely watched or scrutinized.

>

> You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts, also

> enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized by

> chaos, clutter, or stress.

>

> You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of

> your control.

>

> You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

river,

> stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

>

> You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

and

> can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

problems.

>

> You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may also

> frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

>

> You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if

> someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

>

> You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been

> told " you take things too personally. "

>

> You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your life.

>

> You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child.

>

> Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

Cautious

> in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has a

> deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

>

> Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they may

> be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

>

> Kelley

>

January 3, 2008

Wow Kelley.....what a sad story.

I always wanted an Easy Bake Oven....she always said NO. I showed

her though.....I now have, a top of the line, stainless steel, Easy

Bake Oven, with all the bells and whistles!!!

Thanks for sharing, and its never too late for guitar

lessons...........drlingirl

> >> > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn,

painfully shy, > > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc.

She use to comment > > on how I noticed the slighted smell and

almost started throwing up > > if it was awful. I began to see some

of these same qualities in my > > child when I was first introduced

to the concept of being a Highly > > Sensitive Person. Here are the

characteristics associated with > being > > Highly Sensitive and I

was wondering if other KO's also have these > > characteristics?> >

> > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your >

environment, > > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> > > > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and

may > find > > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room,

to seek > > solitude, relief and comfort. > > > > You are very

conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may > > become

uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being > >

closely watched or scrutinized. > > > > You feel compelled to file

and organize things and thoughts, also > > enjoy simplicity and may

become overwhelmed or even immobilized by > > chaos, clutter, or

stress. > > > > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are

getting out of > > your control. > > > > You get a sense of comfort

and well being when around a lake, > river, > > stream, the ocean,

or even a fountain. > > > > You experience mood swings, sometimes

occurring almost instantly > and > > can also be affected by other

people's moods, emotions and > problems. > > > > You have a deep,

rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may also > > frequently

have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares. > > > > You are very

intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if > > someone

isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong. > > > > You

get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been > >

told " you take things too personally. " > > > > You have had the

experience of " cutting people out " of your life. > > > > You were

considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child. > > > >

Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily. >

Cautious > > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra

sensitive to > > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and

TV shows. Has a > > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music

and art. > > > > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for

you, your > > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you

or they may > > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. " > > > >

Kelley> >>

>

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January 3, 2008

Sara Jo.......you are so cute!!!

Thanks for sharing your sweet story. My nada was constantly on us

girls for everything related to weight, you eat too much, you eat

too fast, eat an apple, etc... As a result my sister, and I are

chubby as adults (related or not???). I look back at my teenage

years and drool over my figure. I had huge boobs that I hated so

much.....the boys like them but I did not!!!

I think now my nada was just jealous of our youth, and beauty. Her

mother is now in her 80's and talks badly of fat people....like they

don't deserve to breathe. She is a all of 85 pounds and won't sit

still and eats crap, cookies, icecream etc. She is misrable to be

around for any length of time, and is very negative. So I see where

my nada comes by this naturally. And I feel her pain of having to

live with her OWN nada......

I can't and won't live with it or mine. I am breaking the

disfunction chain!!!

drlingirl

> >

> > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully

shy,

> > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to

comment

> > on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing

up

> > if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in

my

> > child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a

Highly

> > Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

> being

> > Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have

these

> > characteristics?

> >

> > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

> environment,

> > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> >

> > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

> find

> > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> > solitude, relief and comfort.

> >

> > You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but

may

> > become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> > closely watched or scrutinized.

> >

> > You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts,

also

> > enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized

by

> > chaos, clutter, or stress.

> >

> > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out

of

> > your control.

> >

> > You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

> river,

> > stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

> >

> > You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

> and

> > can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

> problems.

> >

> > You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may

also

> > frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

> >

> > You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense

if

> > someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

> >

> > You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also

been

> > told " you take things too personally. "

> >

> > You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your

life.

> >

> > You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a

child.

> >

> > Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

> Cautious

> > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has

a

> > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

> >

> > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they

may

> > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

> >

> > Kelley

> >

>

January 3, 2008

Sara Jo -- that makes me sad for you -- that your mom harped on you

like that. It's no surprise that you feel inadequate around

others. She programmed you that way.

I, too, struggle with feeling not good enough around others. I

always feel like I'll come in last, or not do it right, or worse, be

RIDICULED. That's my greatest fear.

Also, on the sensitive topic, one of my mom's lines, after

delivering an insult to me, was " Don't get defensive! " -- My

therapist finally had an answer for that one: " Then don't attack. "

-Kyla

> >

> > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully

shy,

> > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to

comment

> > on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing

up

> > if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in

my

> > child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a

Highly

> > Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

> being

> > Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have

these

> > characteristics?

> >

> > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

> environment,

> > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> >

> > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

> find

> > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> > solitude, relief and comfort.

> >

> > You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but

may

> > become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> > closely watched or scrutinized.

> >

> > You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts,

also

> > enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized

by

> > chaos, clutter, or stress.

> >

> > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out

of

> > your control.

> >

> > You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

> river,

> > stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

> >

> > You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

> and

> > can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

> problems.

> >

> > You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may

also

> > frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

> >

> > You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense

if

> > someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

> >

> > You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also

been

> > told " you take things too personally. "

> >

> > You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your

life.

> >

> > You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a

child.

> >

> > Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

> Cautious

> > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has

a

> > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

> >

> > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they

may

> > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

> >

> > Kelley

> >

>

January 3, 2008

So sorry she choked the life out of dancing for you, but you're

obviously an artist at heart, and she can NEVER take that away.

-Kyla

January 3, 2008

Wow -- you showed her! I'm jealous!!!

I remember getting an Easy Bake oven, and when I was little, I still

distinctly remember my mom sleeping in while I was left to my own

devices and I got into the Easy Bake mixes and just ate the powder. I

still remember that it made me sick. I know I was really young, maybe

5 years old? And looking back as a mom myself, I can now see that I

wasn't important enough for her to get out of bed for. She kept doing

that even when my brother and I were going to elementary school. I

just can't even imagine doing that to my kids -- even now, when

they're 12 and 13, I get up and make their breakfast. (Although, they

DO let me sleep in a little on non-school days!)

Every time I see an Easy-Bake oven, I remember how I was left alone in

the mornings.

-Kyla

January 3, 2008

drlinggirl --

I related to SO MUCH in your post. (And thanks for the kudos

yesterday!)

I'm not a big drinker, don't like crowds, and I thought I was the

only one that parked in such a way that I could get out on a

moment's notice!! LOL!

And yes, your sensitivity DOES make you special! You're able to

read other human beings! I can see how that can be used for the

good.

I'm sensitive to others' moods, too. I remember being terrified of

bosses, my mother, teachers, etc. And most of it resided in ME.

I'm just now realizing that I can just chill, and let the world just

BE.

-Kyla

> >

> > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully

shy,

> > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to

comment

> > on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started throwing

up

> > if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities in

my

> > child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a

Highly

> > Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

> being

> > Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have

these

> > characteristics?

> >

> > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

> environment,

> > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> >

> > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

> find

> > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> > solitude, relief and comfort.

> >

> > You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but

may

> > become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being

> > closely watched or scrutinized.

> >

> > You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts,

also

> > enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized

by

> > chaos, clutter, or stress.

> >

> > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out

of

> > your control.

> >

> > You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

> river,

> > stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

> >

> > You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly

> and

> > can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

> problems.

> >

> > You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may

also

> > frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

> >

> > You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense

if

> > someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

> >

> > You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also

been

> > told " you take things too personally. "

> >

> > You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your

life.

> >

> > You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a

child.

> >

> > Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

> Cautious

> > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to

> > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has

a

> > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

> >

> > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they

may

> > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

> >

> > Kelley

> >

>

January 3, 2008

WHat a great point -- thanks for the link. I can't wait to dive into

that.

-Kyla

January 3, 2008

Kyla,

You sound like a great mom. I tried cooking for the boys, but they

just aren't hungry enough for a hot meal. I do make them toast from

time to time, or oatmeal.

Your mom sounds like my mom except I had older brothers that she

yelled at to make her coffee, dress your sister, and fix her hair.

Its a wonder I made it through elementry school without getting

picked on ;0)

My aunt used to sleep in on weekends, after a hard night drinking.

Cousins got into all kind of stuff. I remember spending the night,

and my boy cousin said there was homemade beef jerky in the

oven.....we ate it till we couldn't eat anymore, and damn near ate

the whole bag. We were in so much trouble!!! My cousin also took a

cake out of the oven, and ate all the frosting, and went out, and

replaced it with dirt, and put it back in the oven. I wasn't sure

why they put things in the oven till I stayed a couple of nights

there. My cousin was a kid that went through all the cupboards

looking for food. Poor kid!!! They were probably thinking they

were hiding it from him. That or they had cats??? Another good one

was he took his dads cashed paycheck, and threw it all over the

front lawn.......they woke up to 100 bills all over the

neighborhood. All in the name of drinking!!!

Fun,fun,fun......drlingirl

>

> Wow -- you showed her! I'm jealous!!!

>

> I remember getting an Easy Bake oven, and when I was little, I

still

> distinctly remember my mom sleeping in while I was left to my own

> devices and I got into the Easy Bake mixes and just ate the

powder. I

> still remember that it made me sick. I know I was really young,

maybe

> 5 years old? And looking back as a mom myself, I can now see that

I

> wasn't important enough for her to get out of bed for. She kept

doing

> that even when my brother and I were going to elementary school.

I

> just can't even imagine doing that to my kids -- even now, when

> they're 12 and 13, I get up and make their breakfast. (Although,

they

> DO let me sleep in a little on non-school days!)

>

> Every time I see an Easy-Bake oven, I remember how I was left

alone in

> the mornings.

>

> -Kyla

>

January 3, 2008

At the grocery store, I think it is my responsibility to watch other

people's kids when they are in a cart and the mom turns away from

them. I feel like I have to wait to make sure they don't get up and fall.

January 3, 2008

Funny Kyla,

Gotta love the mommy missile(my mini van)with its pointed end

towards the closest get away, when visiting the my FOO'S. I also

will walk a mile out of my way if needed, to find a safe parking

spot. Keys in hand at all times, ears perked, sight sharply keen,

I'm no dummy!!! Oh and a drink in hand ='s a fight. I get really

nervous anytime I heard the opening of a beer can, or the clinking

of ice to glass......spin chilling!!!

I knew I need to not " feel " people's moods so much when one day a

waitress with the most F-d up look on her face. I almost gasped out

loud, her face was so twisted. Come to find out it was her first

day at work. Nice things were coming out of her mouth, but her face

was scary!!!

I try now to take a back seat, and have a little more fun with

this " gift " of mine ;0)

drlingirl

> > >

> > > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully

> shy,

> > > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to

> comment

> > > on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started

throwing

> up

> > > if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities

in

> my

> > > child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a

> Highly

> > > Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

> > being

> > > Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have

> these

> > > characteristics?

> > >

> > > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

> > environment,

> > > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> > >

> > > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

> > find

> > > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> > > solitude, relief and comfort.

> > >

> > > You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but

> may

> > > become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when

being

> > > closely watched or scrutinized.

> > >

> > > You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts,

> also

> > > enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even

immobilized

> by

> > > chaos, clutter, or stress.

> > >

> > > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out

> of

> > > your control.

> > >

> > > You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

> > river,

> > > stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

> > >

> > > You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost

instantly

> > and

> > > can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

> > problems.

> > >

> > > You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may

> also

> > > frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

> > >

> > > You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense

> if

> > > someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

> > >

> > > You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also

> been

> > > told " you take things too personally. "

> > >

> > > You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your

> life.

> > >

> > > You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a

> child.

> > >

> > > Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

> > Cautious

> > > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive

to

> > > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows.

Has

> a

> > > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

> > >

> > > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> > > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they

> may

> > > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

> > >

> > > Kelley

> > >

> >

>

January 3, 2008

It is sad.......

My bp sis is famous for sleeping in. Depressed, and just loves to

sleep her life away. Anyways her little girl was found with

lipstick all over her face and with a can of tuna she was eating the

paper off of, with a full diaper, at noon!!! I begged my nada to do

something about this and she didn't do a f-ing thing. We were

supposed to just let it be.

Messed up......and very sad......drlingirl

Wow -- you showed her!

I'm jealous!!!

>

> I remember getting an Easy Bake oven, and when I was little, I

still

> distinctly remember my mom sleeping in while I was left to my own

> devices and I got into the Easy Bake mixes and just ate the

powder. I

> still remember that it made me sick. I know I was really young,

maybe

> 5 years old? And looking back as a mom myself, I can now see that

I

> wasn't important enough for her to get out of bed for. She kept

doing

> that even when my brother and I were going to elementary school. I

> just can't even imagine doing that to my kids -- even now, when

> they're 12 and 13, I get up and make their breakfast. (Although,

they

> DO let me sleep in a little on non-school days!)

>

> Every time I see an Easy-Bake oven, I remember how I was left

alone in

> the mornings.

>

> -Kyla

>

> ---------------------------------

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Mobile. Try it now.

>

January 3, 2008

Writer,

I agree with you. I think, though, that being highly sensitive is

more nature. The nuture part deals with how our sensitivity is

treated by others. I also suspect that our BPD parent - as attuned

as they are - were aware at some level of our sensitivity. For

myself, I believe my mother knew that there were things I understood

far better than her (because of my heightened sensitivity), and

instead of respecting and acknowledging that, she chose to abuse me,

somewhat out of jealousy, and just because she could.

My children too are highly sensitive. For both of them, this has

caused some problems in their life. However, as their mother, I was

there to offer support, understanding, encouragement.

I think as highly sensitive people, we can bring a perspective and

understanding to situations that many others cannot. At the same

time, we are aware that our perceptions are often dismissed - too

sensitive, etc. We do have to develop a 'tough skin' - tough enough

to overcome the criticisms of others as we use our sensitivity to

bring that additional perspective into the lives of others. Talk

about an oxymoron!

Sylvia

> > >

> > > I was always labeled by my Nada as being withdrawn, painfully

> shy,

> > > introverted, drama queen, overly sensitive etc. She use to

> comment

> > > on how I noticed the slighted smell and almost started

throwing

> up

> > > if it was awful. I began to see some of these same qualities

in

> my

> > > child when I was first introduced to the concept of being a

> Highly

> > > Sensitive Person. Here are the characteristics associated with

> > being

> > > Highly Sensitive and I was wondering if other KO's also have

> these

> > > characteristics?

> > >

> > > You, have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your

> > environment,

> > > whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

> > >

> > > You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may

> > find

> > > it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek

> > > solitude, relief and comfort.

> > >

> > > You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but

may

> > > become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when

being

> > > closely watched or scrutinized.

> > >

> > > You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts,

also

> > > enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even

immobilized

> by

> > > chaos, clutter, or stress.

> > >

> > > You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out

of

> > > your control.

> > >

> > > You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake,

> > river,

> > > stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

> > >

> > > You experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost

instantly

> > and

> > > can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and

> > problems.

> > >

> > > You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual and may

> also

> > > frequently have vivid dreams, and possibly nightmares.

> > >

> > > You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense

if

> > > someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

> > >

> > > You get concerned and worry about many things, and have also

been

> > > told " you take things too personally. "

> > >

> > > You have had the experience of " cutting people out " of your

life.

> > >

> > > You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a

child.

> > >

> > > Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily.

> > Cautious

> > > in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive

to

> > > pain. Don't like crowds. Avoids violent movies and TV shows.

Has

> a

> > > deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

> > >

> > > Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your

> > > partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they

> may

> > > be a highly sensitive person or " HSP. "

> > >

> > > Kelley

> > >

> >

>

January 3, 2008

Awesome, . And congratulations! Yes, you have broken free.