Re: Is anyone a highly sensitive person???/migraines

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Interesting!! I am also sensitive to sounds, sights, smells...

can't spend long in stores with scented candles and products and

perfumes, an afternoon at a shopping mall can sometimes give me a

headache... and I seem to absorb other people's moods sometimes, and

have to sometimes be careful about movies I see, imax no good! And

some kinds of graphic violence or strong emotional content can really

freak me out. I am the one in the theater screaming in the wrong

place. Very embarrassing.

Anway, interesting the topic of childhood migraines... I've gotten

them since age 8 or 9 I think. I'd wake up with one, complain of a

headache, not be believed, and be shunted off to school where it would

build to the point I would vomit (which is what often happens when a

migraine reaches a peak). And THEN I'd be taken seriously enough to

get sent home. A couple years ago mom alluded to the third grade

teacher who she said was so terrible she cause my " upset tummy " . I

told her, well it was migraines!! And they've continued my whole life

so can't just blame the 3rd grade teacher! She had absolutely no

clue... just amazes me since she has chronic migraines herself that

it never occurred to her, even with me telling her my head hurt!

I am reading the Borderline Mother book now, they mention childhood

migraines as a result of having BPD parent, maybe all those repressed

feelings and having to live in constant fear of inconsistent

reactions.. interesting theory.. in standard migraine literature

they tend to stress triggers, like diet, sleep, air pressure,

hormones, etc, and also genetics, so I hadn't thought much about

family patterns. Any thoughts on this??

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Yes I have thoughts on this.

I am not too sensitive to smell although my kids think I can smell a

dirty sock a mile away ;0) Sound maybe??? I love scary

movies....but hate it when husband or boys scare me.

But the head aches......they are the worst!!! My nada also got them

and yet she wasn't really that interested in taking me to a Dr. I

have tinitus (ringing in the ear) from all the asprin I took as a

kid. THANKS MOM!!! Also would vomit if it went too long. She did

finally take me to see a specialist, but I was in my late teens by

then.

I also had horrible cramps, at my time of the month, and called to

come home from school......I got the 10 minute lecture about how I

wouldn't be able to come home from work because " you got your

period " . I hated her for making me feel like a woose. I got my

period at a girlfriends house one summer and she gave me a pill that

was prescribed to her. AND WHAT DID YOU KNOW......they worked like

a dream!!! I ran to my own Dr. and got a precription.

Again......THANKS AGAIN MOM!!!

My son get mirgraines too. We manage them with diet and avoid all

the don't's. They are manageable now and we can feel them coming on

and are able to stop them before getting sick. Stress is a trigger

but getting over heated is a big one for me personally. Don't like

the heat.

Interesting topic.....

drlingirl

>

>

> Interesting!! I am also sensitive to sounds, sights, smells...

> can't spend long in stores with scented candles and products and

> perfumes, an afternoon at a shopping mall can sometimes give me a

> headache... and I seem to absorb other people's moods sometimes,

and

> have to sometimes be careful about movies I see, imax no good! And

> some kinds of graphic violence or strong emotional content can

really

> freak me out. I am the one in the theater screaming in the wrong

> place. Very embarrassing.

>

> Anway, interesting the topic of childhood migraines... I've gotten

> them since age 8 or 9 I think. I'd wake up with one, complain of a

> headache, not be believed, and be shunted off to school where it

would

> build to the point I would vomit (which is what often happens when

a

> migraine reaches a peak). And THEN I'd be taken seriously enough to

> get sent home. A couple years ago mom alluded to the third grade

> teacher who she said was so terrible she cause my " upset tummy " . I

> told her, well it was migraines!! And they've continued my whole

life

> so can't just blame the 3rd grade teacher! She had absolutely no

> clue... just amazes me since she has chronic migraines herself

that

> it never occurred to her, even with me telling her my head hurt!

>

> I am reading the Borderline Mother book now, they mention childhood

> migraines as a result of having BPD parent, maybe all those

repressed

> feelings and having to live in constant fear of inconsistent

> reactions.. interesting theory.. in standard migraine literature

> they tend to stress triggers, like diet, sleep, air pressure,

> hormones, etc, and also genetics, so I hadn't thought much about

> family patterns. Any thoughts on this??

>

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I have migraines sometimes, but always if I'm highly stressed for long periods

of time (weeks or months), so I can't help but assume that's the cause. I know I

had them when I was younger, probably just as infrequent.

I only remember one as a kid though. Nada was screaming and carrying on and I

was already crying, then I remember my head hurting so bad I could barely stand

up, could hardly see, the works. So I cried harder (that just made it worse) and

pled with nada to stop yelling because my head hurt so bad. She thought I was

making excuses so she'd leave me alone and ignored me until I fell on my knees

and actually begged at her feet. Then she lowered her voice and yelled for my

dad to get me an aspirin.

The funny part (and probably the only reason I remember this at all) is that I

couldn't swallow a pill yet and we didn't have any chewables. So my dad brings

me the aspirin and I start crying harder, saying I can't take the pill. So nada

turns her attention to him and is just screaming and screaming at him as he

ransacks the whole house trying to find chewable painkillers. I'm still sobbing

on the floor, unable to move or find any relief and now little sis is sitting by

me, worried as hell and trying to comfort me by holding my hand while she

watches our parents with big eyes. Finally, Dad gets the brilliant idea to put

the aspirin in cream cheese so I can swallow it. The taste of cream cheese still

makes me throw up as an adult. So that didn't go very well. Dad got a second

aspirin and put it in the rest of the cream cheese to try again. So I had to sit

on the bathroom floor, still crying, holding my hand over my mouth while nada

stood by demanding that

I not throw up. That second one worked.

After this whole ordeal is over, sis decides to speak up for the first time. She

pulls on my dad's hand and says " Daddy, don't they have chewies at the store? "

Because of course, one parent could have just run down to the drugstore. Nada

laughed her ass off and dad just puttered around for while muttering about how

he should have thought of that. I still laugh about it.

Jae

Re: Is anyone a highly sensitive

person???/migraines

Interesting! ! I am also sensitive to sounds, sights, smells...

can't spend long in stores with scented candles and products and

perfumes, an afternoon at a shopping mall can sometimes give me a

headache... and I seem to absorb other people's moods sometimes, and

have to sometimes be careful about movies I see, imax no good! And

some kinds of graphic violence or strong emotional content can really

freak me out. I am the one in the theater screaming in the wrong

place. Very embarrassing.

Anway, interesting the topic of childhood migraines... I've gotten

them since age 8 or 9 I think. I'd wake up with one, complain of a

headache, not be believed, and be shunted off to school where it would

build to the point I would vomit (which is what often happens when a

migraine reaches a peak). And THEN I'd be taken seriously enough to

get sent home. A couple years ago mom alluded to the third grade

teacher who she said was so terrible she cause my " upset tummy " . I

told her, well it was migraines!! And they've continued my whole life

so can't just blame the 3rd grade teacher! She had absolutely no

clue... just amazes me since she has chronic migraines herself that

it never occurred to her, even with me telling her my head hurt!

I am reading the Borderline Mother book now, they mention childhood

migraines as a result of having BPD parent, maybe all those repressed

feelings and having to live in constant fear of inconsistent

reactions.. interesting theory.. in standard migraine literature

they tend to stress triggers, like diet, sleep, air pressure,

hormones, etc, and also genetics, so I hadn't thought much about

family patterns. Any thoughts on this??

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> But the head aches......they are the worst!!! My nada also got them

> and yet she wasn't really that interested in taking me to a Dr.

This is the weird part, isn't it? Mine also suffered terribly from

migraines so you'd think she'd have a clue? The world ends and we have

to tiptoe around her every time she doesn't feel well, but she had no

idea whatsoever that I got migraines as a child? Why have no interest

in taking a child to a doctor or developing some other coping

strategies? You figured out your son gets migraines, wouldn't that be

the normal parental thing to do? I mean, the migraines were recurrent,

I probably had them once or twice a month to the point of getting

auras and puking, for my entire childhood after age 8-- and she never

knew? I am just realising how bizarre this is, there is no way I would

miss that in my own kids, I KNOW THAT as a parent now! For years I

played these tricks justifying stuff like this, saying well she meant

well, or it was probably hard for her to be aware, etc etc etc, and

now I realise how crazy this is.

Mine are manageable too, if I get enough sleep, avoid some dietary

triggers-- careful about when and how much chocolate, cheese, wine I

have, especially if feeling PMSie. Exercise sometimes helps. Come to

think of it my mother never learned how to manage hers at all-- pop a

pain killer, go to sleep, and cream at other people are how she copes.

Speaking of migraines, reminds me... last time I was with her and she

had one I tried to give her some peppermint oil temple rub thing I had

which I find always gives ME a fair bit of relief, and I have heard

the same from others.. she just rolled her eyes and pushed me out of

the way and said she had to go get her pills. No, not a big deal in

one sense, except that it seems my role other than to be usually split

bad, is that whatever I say or do is completely irrelevant to her, so

this was jsut another case... a few weeks alter she mentioned that

her sister uses menthol (related to peppermint) and she had seen it

advertised elsewhere.. meaning well maybe since my suggestion was

confirmed elsewhere maybe she could consider it. hmph. Anyway, there

is another topic? Anyone feel they play some sort of predetermined

script, the need to fill some role? My brother was The Clown, I was

The Irrelevant and Inconsequential or Downright Ludicrous one.... or

the Invisible One.

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Oh yeah. This sort of behavior is so typical of my nada, to the point

that whatever I say is so irrelevant that she can ask me the same

questions over and over and not remember that we talked about it

before. And, of course, anything I say is ridiculed, dismissed, or

just ignored. She's done it my whole life, but I've only recently

gotten completely fed up with it. She's getting no more advice from

me, and I'll be hanging up on her (politely) the next time she's

dismissive to me.

qwerty

>

> Speaking of migraines, reminds me... last time I was with her and she

> had one I tried to give her some peppermint oil temple rub thing I had

> which I find always gives ME a fair bit of relief, and I have heard

> the same from others.. she just rolled her eyes and pushed me out of

> the way and said she had to go get her pills. No, not a big deal in

> one sense, except that it seems my role other than to be usually split

> bad, is that whatever I say or do is completely irrelevant to her, so

> this was jsut another case... a few weeks alter she mentioned that

> her sister uses menthol (related to peppermint) and she had seen it

> advertised elsewhere.. meaning well maybe since my suggestion was

> confirmed elsewhere maybe she could consider it. hmph. Anyway, there

> is another topic? Anyone feel they play some sort of predetermined

> script, the need to fill some role? My brother was The Clown, I was

> The Irrelevant and Inconsequential or Downright Ludicrous one.... or

> the Invisible One.

>

[Guest guest]

Does anyone else have a nada who gets migraines constantly? I think I've seen

it mentioned before but I was curious--

Mine gets them constantly, now more than ever, I think usually as a delayed

psychic response to one of her rages.

qz wrote:

Oh yeah. This sort of behavior is so typical of my nada, to the point

that whatever I say is so irrelevant that she can ask me the same

questions over and over and not remember that we talked about it

before. And, of course, anything I say is ridiculed, dismissed, or

just ignored. She's done it my whole life, but I've only recently

gotten completely fed up with it. She's getting no more advice from

me, and I'll be hanging up on her (politely) the next time she's

dismissive to me.

qwerty

>

> Speaking of migraines, reminds me... last time I was with her and she

> had one I tried to give her some peppermint oil temple rub thing I had

> which I find always gives ME a fair bit of relief, and I have heard

> the same from others.. she just rolled her eyes and pushed me out of

> the way and said she had to go get her pills. No, not a big deal in

> one sense, except that it seems my role other than to be usually split

> bad, is that whatever I say or do is completely irrelevant to her, so

> this was jsut another case... a few weeks alter she mentioned that

> her sister uses menthol (related to peppermint) and she had seen it

> advertised elsewhere.. meaning well maybe since my suggestion was

> confirmed elsewhere maybe she could consider it. hmph. Anyway, there

> is another topic? Anyone feel they play some sort of predetermined

> script, the need to fill some role? My brother was The Clown, I was

> The Irrelevant and Inconsequential or Downright Ludicrous one.... or

> the Invisible One.

>

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