Update.

[Guest guest]

Thank you all so much for your kind messages & helping me get through

what can only be described as the darkest days of my life.

Things still are not ok. My daughter is absolutely besides herself. I

have had to deal with her thinking that if I had not had her that my

relationship would not have faltered. Not only that but just 6 hours

before she found out that my partner had decided he was in love with her

not me, she had been involved in a car accident, where she had given CPR

to her friend trying to save her. Her friend died in her arms, then she

got the call from me & came straight home. She has now missed the

funeral because of all of this & said to me that she wishes she were

dead. She is only 20 & a very young 20 at that & has never had to deal

with much more than the usual girlfriend boyfriend tiff before

everything went wrong.

As for me. My pain has become unbearable & I am unable to stay on top

of it. I Know this is likely due to the fact that I am so stressed &

upset. I have had him threaten to come into the house when I was

begging him not to as my daughter was there & terrified of him now. He &

his father both own guns which makes my life just a little more scary

too. I had his parents stand in my front yard yelling abuse at me

because I was refusing to give him his stuff, without the return of my

stuff that he had taken from the safe. Very important things like my

passports, my citizenship papers etc. I need those with me. I also

thought give & take was usual but apparently not.

When he then said later the same day that he was coming in I begged him

not to. I told him my daughter was terrified of him & he accused me of

making him into a monster. As my daughter said he did that himself when

he broke my heart & fixated his attentions upon her. He was telling me

to give him one good reason not to come & I thought telling him my

daughter was scared would work. After all he said he was in love with

her. I told him I would box his stuff up & put it in the garage so he

could get it the following night but it was not good enough for him. I

phoned the police to be advised they would not attend unless he was

already there. I told them that he had house keys & they just kept on

with the " we can not do anything unless he is there " even though they

know both my partner & his father has numerous weapons (all licensed)

Then he turned up with the police in tow! Seems that his mother had told

them I was damaging his property & that there would be a breach of the

peace.

So the police came in expecting to see broken stuff all over the house &

all they saw instead was two very fragile females both in tears begging

them to get him to see reason & do as I asked. They walked through the

house with me (which is immaculate as I have thrown myself into cleaning

regardless of pain as it helps numb the emotional pain) & then went

outside & informed them that in their opinion their claims that I would

cause a breach of the peace were unfounded, that they felt that seeing

how upset my daughter & I both are that he should just agree to my very

reasonable request & stay away from the house.

Later that night his sister called me. I have been taking abusive calls

from his family all day & was terrified of what she was going to say.

She told me she had been away & thought from the little she had heard

that we had just had an argument like all couples do. I told her that if

she wanted to find out the full truth she were welcome to come over & I

would show her the letter he wrote to my daughter & I would not say a

word. She came over & when she saw the state i was in gave me a huge

hug. Then she read the letter & sat there in dis-belief saying " I don't

know my brother at all, this is so sick oh my god its sick " She then

pulled me over to her & hugged me again telling me she was so sorry. She

told me her family are very strange & that my ex partner is the golden

child the gifted boy & that they will never see it as it is. that he

will feed them his side & they will run with it. Her husband who is very

strong then walked around the house & picked up all the large items that

my ex had requested & put them in the garage & moved the boxes I had

been able to pack into there as well. They told me to call them if I

needed anything & told me they would take all his " Valuables' straight

to him so that he would not feel the need to constantly go at me.

So yesterday I had a phone call from him accusing me of turning his

sister against him. I said I had not said anything about him & he told

me showing her the letter was what did it. He didn't get if he had not

done as he had, then his sister would never think of him in a different

light. His sister also told her parents to leave me alone & to stay out

of affairs that had nothing to do with them. So now I have been accused

of ripping his family apart that they would never be normal again

because of me,

My Dr has been amazing, giving me sleeping pills so that I actually

sleep. He is concerned that I have not eaten for 4 days but I cant,

everything tastes like cardboard. I am at my wits end not knowing who or

what to turn to anymore. My daughter has to go back to work soon, she is

in the Navy & can only have so much time off. When she goes, I will be

on my own trying to look after a huge house, my pets & I know I can not

do it on my own. I am so scared of this & knowing I have to pack up the

house. My ex said he would come help me but I do not want him near me.

To be honest. I don't know what to do anymore.

I am so sorry I am venting on here. I just feel emotionally wrung out &

so scared & the pain from my nerve damage has run rampant through my

body now to the stage that I can not control it even with my meds & my

Dr is very worried about upping the dose that I am on

Alison

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[Guest guest]

You really need to get a restraining order so that you can get help from the

police when you call them.

Either just against him or against any of the family that you are afraid of.

He can't be allowed to run your life like this.

" Sweet Goat Mama "

Carolyn Eddy

www.goattracksmagazine.com