Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Devon, I'm glad you are getting your answers as young as you are. This will help you navigate your future very well. It took me until after 40 yrs of age to learn about BPD. Like you, after reading profusely, I felt everything I'd experienced now made perfect sense! I want to caution you: the next feeling I had was hopelessness. In realizing the dimensions of this disorder (and with the help of a good counselor), I also had to accept that I will never change a BPD parent. This somehow made me feel hopeless since I'd spent so many years trying to please this person and making myself believe I had the power to help. It's sad to accept that you actually can not change the situation; you can only make it better for yourself, but not in the way you had hoped it would be. You cannot trade in your parents, and you cannot cure a BPD parent. That being said, there is no easy way to share a life with a BPD parent and most of us end up breaking contact to save ourselves. Good luck in your journey. ~Elle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Elle, Reading this post makes me want to cry. If I could shed tears, I would cry. But, I lost that ability long ago. What a long, arduous journey it seems to be trying to come back from Neverland. Sometimes it seems all-consuming. Khris > > Devon, > I'm glad you are getting your answers as young as you are. This will > help you navigate your future very well. It took me until after 40 yrs > of age to learn about BPD. Like you, after reading profusely, I felt > everything I'd experienced now made perfect sense! I want to caution > you: the next feeling I had was hopelessness. In realizing the > dimensions of this disorder (and with the help of a good counselor), I > also had to accept that I will never change a BPD parent. This somehow > made me feel hopeless since I'd spent so many years trying to please > this person and making myself believe I had the power to help. It's > sad to accept that you actually can not change the situation; you can > only make it better for yourself, but not in the way you had hoped it > would be. You cannot trade in your parents, and you cannot cure a BPD > parent. That being said, there is no easy way to share a life with a > BPD parent and most of us end up breaking contact to save ourselves. > Good luck in your journey. > ~Elle > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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