Guest guest Posted January 7, 2008 Report Share Posted January 7, 2008 I don't think your angry.....I made the mistake of telling my nada to " just get the kids sweat shirts " after she called me freaking out in the mall screaming that she didn't know what to get my boys. Needless to say......they have gotten a sweat shirt every year, ever since. She also puts money in with the sweat shirts in the form of a check.....then gets pissed when we forget to cash them right away. My nada has 4 grandkids too....and acts like she is overwhelmed each and every Christmas. I'm sure she will be like on of those nasty old ladies I hear bitching about ALL the grankids they HAVE to buy for. Makes you see what not to do when we are grandparents someday!!! I personally can't wait.......drlingirl > > Friday while I was working my sister dropped off some Christmas > gifts for our family. I thought she was just dropping off gifts > from the siblings, but when I got home I discovered that she had > also dropped off some from Mom & Dad (I'm not mad at sis--I think > there was a genuine misunderstanding). The kids had already opened > some of them, and since you can't " un-unwrap " gifts and I thought it > would be cruel to make them return them, we decided to open them. > For me: a 104-piece flatware set, I'm not sure why—is it normal to > get people flatware when you've never discussed whether we need > flatware (we don't), and you have no idea what their pattern > preferences are? For my husband: a pullover. For my four year old > son: an inflatable toy for three year olds. For my six year old > girl: a Hannah Montana Barbie and a High School Musical 2 Barbie. > And for my eight year old girl: a Hannah Montana Barbie and a High > School Musical 2 Barbie. The same exact gift for both girls. This > is significant because my eight year old doesn't like Barbies, and > in fact gave my six year old all of her dolls/Barbies about two > years ago. My eight year old likes science stuff and books. I > understand that my contact with my parents was, well, limited for > four weeks prior to Christmas, but my oldest has been pretty > consistent with not liking dolls for the past two years. So she was > kind of disappointed. I can understand when people start having > tons of grandchildren getting them all pretty much the same thing, > but my oldest has always made it pretty clear that she actively > dislikes dolls, and they only have four granddaughters, so if they > wanted to be homogenous they could have picked something else. I > don't think it was a purposeful jab at her; in fact, I think it > stands as more of a perfect example of how other people's > wants/needs don't even register on Mom's radar screen. My daughter > must like Barbies, because all girls that age should like Barbies. > Maybe I'm being a little overcritical under the circumstances > (relatively recent NC), but it was always a huge pet peeve of mine > growing up that she never got me what I wanted, but what she thought > I *should* want. > > We returned the flatware and pullover. We have no idea where they > got the toys so my oldest daughter will have to live with > disappointment (although I think she'll survive). > > Oh, and I forgot to mention the postcards they had made from > pictures of my girls, and a picture of my Dad with my son. They > slid these into inexpensive plastic frames. Are framed postcards a > little bizarre? Why not just make prints? Are these meant to be > returned as thank-yous from my kids? I threw the postcards out, but > I'm still scratching my head about them. What do you guys think? > Are these gifts wierd or I am I just still angry from the NC thing? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that she never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. " When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots for my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces and cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number of pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me as graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases in as long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked for: a camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of my other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed poem and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry box that I left at home. She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / Chicos/ Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch of ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that say " On sale! $4.99! " Ugh! writermanque wrote: Friday while I was working my sister dropped off some Christmas gifts for our family. I thought she was just dropping off gifts from the siblings, but when I got home I discovered that she had also dropped off some from Mom & Dad (I'm not mad at sis--I think there was a genuine misunderstanding). The kids had already opened some of them, and since you can't " un-unwrap " gifts and I thought it would be cruel to make them return them, we decided to open them. For me: a 104-piece flatware set, I'm not sure why—is it normal to get people flatware when you've never discussed whether we need flatware (we don't), and you have no idea what their pattern preferences are? For my husband: a pullover. For my four year old son: an inflatable toy for three year olds. For my six year old girl: a Hannah Montana Barbie and a High School Musical 2 Barbie. And for my eight year old girl: a Hannah Montana Barbie and a High School Musical 2 Barbie. The same exact gift for both girls. This is significant because my eight year old doesn't like Barbies, and in fact gave my six year old all of her dolls/Barbies about two years ago. My eight year old likes science stuff and books. I understand that my contact with my parents was, well, limited for four weeks prior to Christmas, but my oldest has been pretty consistent with not liking dolls for the past two years. So she was kind of disappointed. I can understand when people start having tons of grandchildren getting them all pretty much the same thing, but my oldest has always made it pretty clear that she actively dislikes dolls, and they only have four granddaughters, so if they wanted to be homogenous they could have picked something else. I don't think it was a purposeful jab at her; in fact, I think it stands as more of a perfect example of how other people's wants/needs don't even register on Mom's radar screen. My daughter must like Barbies, because all girls that age should like Barbies. Maybe I'm being a little overcritical under the circumstances (relatively recent NC), but it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that she never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. We returned the flatware and pullover. We have no idea where they got the toys so my oldest daughter will have to live with disappointment (although I think she'll survive). Oh, and I forgot to mention the postcards they had made from pictures of my girls, and a picture of my Dad with my son. They slid these into inexpensive plastic frames. Are framed postcards a little bizarre? Why not just make prints? Are these meant to be returned as thank-yous from my kids? I threw the postcards out, but I'm still scratching my head about them. What do you guys think? Are these gifts wierd or I am I just still angry from the NC thing? --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Okay, just for fun (I'm always trying to find humor in my situation), what are some of the more ridiculous " gifts " you've been given for Christmas/birthdays? To preface this, I am the classic " sensitive person " we've been posting about recently: relatively reserved, and my decorating style can best be described as Amish. Nada was always harping at me at how I needed to be more ENTHUSIASTIC! More ENGAGED! More COLORFUL! Right in keeping with this, she got me a dollhouse (I had renounced dolls at age 8) when I was ten and gave my brother the exact game I had asked her for, a pink Holly Hobby pantsuit when I was 12 or 13, a tee shirt with my name printed on it with rhinestones (never worn), humongous dangly sparkly earrings (curiously lost shortly thereafter), any number of things with the designer's name garishly splashed on any suitable surface (always with the " 75% off " sticker still attached), and a leopard print throw that she had made herself, throwing in a conspiratorial " These sell for hundreds of dollars in the stores... " > > Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: > > " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that she never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. " > > When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots for my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces and cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number of pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me as graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases in as long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked for: a camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of my other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed poem and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry box that I left at home. > > She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / Chicos/ Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch of ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that say " On sale! $4.99! " > > Ugh! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Ooh! What is it about discount stores and leaving on the price tags? My mother will send an entire box of $1.99 clothes, with the bright orange discount tags still on, and think it is a wonderful gift. I used to be so disappointed at Christmas when I would be subjected to her wacky logic that one $20 shirt would be too much money to spend on me, but she would happily give me 30 ghastly pieces of clothing as long as they only cost $2 each. Sara > Friday while I was working my sister dropped off some Christmas > gifts for our family. I thought she was just dropping off gifts > from the siblings, but when I got home I discovered that she had > also dropped off some from Mom & Dad (I'm not mad at sis--I think > there was a genuine misunderstanding). The kids had already opened > some of them, and since you can't " un-unwrap " gifts and I thought it > would be cruel to make them return them, we decided to open them. > For me: a 104-piece flatware set, I'm not sure why—is it normal to > get people flatware when you've never discussed whether we need > flatware (we don't), and you have no idea what their pattern > preferences are? For my husband: a pullover. For my four year old > son: an inflatable toy for three year olds. For my six year old > girl: a Hannah Montana Barbie and a High School Musical 2 Barbie. > And for my eight year old girl: a Hannah Montana Barbie and a High > School Musical 2 Barbie. The same exact gift for both girls. This > is significant because my eight year old doesn't like Barbies, and > in fact gave my six year old all of her dolls/Barbies about two > years ago. My eight year old likes science stuff and books. I > understand that my contact with my parents was, well, limited for > four weeks prior to Christmas, but my oldest has been pretty > consistent with not liking dolls for the past two years. So she was > kind of disappointed. I can understand when people start having > tons of grandchildren getting them all pretty much the same thing, > but my oldest has always made it pretty clear that she actively > dislikes dolls, and they only have four granddaughters, so if they > wanted to be homogenous they could have picked something else. I > don't think it was a purposeful jab at her; in fact, I think it > stands as more of a perfect example of how other people's > wants/needs don't even register on Mom's radar screen. My daughter > must like Barbies, because all girls that age should like Barbies. > Maybe I'm being a little overcritical under the circumstances > (relatively recent NC), but it was always a huge pet peeve of mine > growing up that she never got me what I wanted, but what she thought > I *should* want. > > We returned the flatware and pullover. We have no idea where they > got the toys so my oldest daughter will have to live with > disappointment (although I think she'll survive). > > Oh, and I forgot to mention the postcards they had made from > pictures of my girls, and a picture of my Dad with my son. They > slid these into inexpensive plastic frames. Are framed postcards a > little bizarre? Why not just make prints? Are these meant to be > returned as thank-yous from my kids? I threw the postcards out, but > I'm still scratching my head about them. What do you guys think? > Are these gifts wierd or I am I just still angry from the NC thing? > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 My NADA always tried to give really good gifts to my sister and I. Even though she never had much money, she did whatever she could to give us tons of nice gifts at Christmas. Then later she would throw it in our faces when we did something wrong. " I can't believe you did this after everything I did for you for Christmas! " Gifts were always a weird thing. If it was before Christmas, and we did something to piss our mom off, she would try to hurt us by saying " Dont you dare get me anything for Christmas, I won't accept it! " As if giving her a gift was a special privilige we had that she was trying to take away as punishment. I remember feeling fearful,,what would happen if she opened a present from me? I always got her something no matter what, and she always opened it and loved it. but I would live in fear until she opened the present without anger and without destroying it. I hate recieving gifts from my mother. I know there is a string attached somewhere. This Christmas she tried to give me presents by giving them to my sister to give to me. I still can't believe the absurdity of this.....Isn't Christmas supposed to be the season of love and warmth? How warm is it to use a proxy to give someone a christmas present? She shouldn't use my sister in that way. I just sent her a card for Christmas. Now I'm worried about what I'm going to do for mothers day. I'm dreading it already and it's like 6months away. > > > > Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: > > > > " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that she > never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. " > > > > When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots for > my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces and > cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She > collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number of > pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've > gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me as > graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases in as > long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked for: a > camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of my > other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed poem > and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry box > that I left at home. > > > > She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 > ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / Chicos/ > Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch of > ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that say " On > sale! $4.99! " > > > > Ugh! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 --- Throughout my childhood, my mother would always say (rage), right before a holiday or her bday, " Don't you DARE get me anything for ___, after the way you treat me, I don't want anything from you. " Can anyone say double-bind? Sometimes she would accept them, sometimes she would angrily renounce them and refuse to accept them. Joanna In WTOAdultChildren1 , " Sara Jo " wrote: > > My NADA always tried to give really good gifts to my sister and I. > Even though she never had much money, she did whatever she could to > give us tons of nice gifts at Christmas. Then later she would throw > it in our faces when we did something wrong. " I can't believe you > did this after everything I did for you for Christmas! " > > Gifts were always a weird thing. If it was before Christmas, and we > did something to piss our mom off, she would try to hurt us by > saying " Dont you dare get me anything for Christmas, I won't accept > it! " As if giving her a gift was a special privilige we had that she > was trying to take away as punishment. I remember feeling > fearful,,what would happen if she opened a present from me? I always > got her something no matter what, and she always opened it and loved > it. but I would live in fear until she opened the present without > anger and without destroying it. > > I hate recieving gifts from my mother. I know there is a string > attached somewhere. This Christmas she tried to give me presents by > giving them to my sister to give to me. I still can't believe the > absurdity of this.....Isn't Christmas supposed to be the season of > love and warmth? How warm is it to use a proxy to give someone a > christmas present? She shouldn't use my sister in that way. > > I just sent her a card for Christmas. Now I'm worried about what I'm > going to do for mothers day. I'm dreading it already and it's like > 6months away. > > > > > > > > Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: > > > > > > " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that > she > > never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. " > > > > > > When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots for > > my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces and > > cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She > > collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number of > > pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've > > gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me as > > graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases in > as > > long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked for: > a > > camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of my > > other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed > poem > > and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry > box > > that I left at home. > > > > > > She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 > > ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / > Chicos/ > > Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch > of > > ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that say " On > > sale! $4.99! " > > > > > > Ugh! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Ugh! I forgot about the sizes thing! She hardly ever gets the right size for my kids! For one thing, she rarely asks what sizes they wear, and if she does ask, she ignores my answer. It's what size they *should* be, or if the item's on sale, she'll get it for them whether it's their size or not! She got all of her grandchildren winter coats for Christmas last year (even though all her grandchildren already had winter coats) because she found a good sale on children's jackets somewhere. The one she got my oldest daughter was too small, but we couldn't return it because it was one of those " all sales are final " things. And the thing is, she knew it would probably be too small, as she said " I hope it fits, but it was the last one they had in that style so it might be a little small... " And even if we could return it, why burden someone with the return if you know they're going to have to return it? Just buy something that would fit, or better yet, something that they might want! And yes, my nada is always trying to appear " cool " for knowing what the latest is with kids these days. However, my kids don't really follow those trends and could really care less. > > I don't think you sound like you are just still angry. I think all of these > things just validate why you went NC to begin with. Them stuck in their own > worlds, feeling like they are entitled to yours too. My nada does the > double gift thing...gives the same things to my nephews who are 12 and 17 > and have opposite tastes. That's because it's not about what they get it's > about nada...and what she is giving. I'm sure it was a double thing for > your nada...she gave your older daughter dolls because, like you said, that > is what she WANT'S her to want. Secondly, she probably thought it would > make her look good....Hannah Montana and High School musical is all the > rage....isn't she just so cool for knowing what " kids nowadays " like? My > grandmother did that with my youngest daughter....she would buy her size 2T > because my daughter was 2. Well 2T was way too big on her....my grandmother > would just insist...she is 2 so she should be wearing a 2. Nada has... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 You guys will get a kick out of this one. Both of my daughters (ages 19 and 20) called me last night. Their step-nada had called them both wondering if the Christmas presents the girls sent to their dad and stepmother (and their two little boys) had been lost in the mail or if they couldn't afford to send them. My oldest daughter is a junior in college and my youngest is a working single mother of a 9- month old. Neither of them have much money to spare and Christmas for them this year was really lean. My HB and I did get a small gift from each of the girls, but they came to our house for the whole Christmas thing and they didn't have to ship anything cross-country. Their stepmother should know that. Each of the girls said that they spent around $25.00 total in purchasing a gift for me, my HB and their stepbrother. That's understandably frugal in my opinion. I calmed both of my girls down (the oldest was very hurt by the phone call and the youngest was pissed) and told them to consider the source. I told them that their stepmother would forget all about it after another Crown and Coke. The girls have every reason to be upset and/or angry at receiving such a self-serving phone call. The gall. Khris > > > > I don't think you sound like you are just still angry. I think > all of these > > things just validate why you went NC to begin with. Them stuck in > their own > > worlds, feeling like they are entitled to yours too. My nada does > the > > double gift thing...gives the same things to my nephews who are 12 > and 17 > > and have opposite tastes. That's because it's not about what they > get it's > > about nada...and what she is giving. I'm sure it was a double > thing for > > your nada...she gave your older daughter dolls because, like you > said, that > > is what she WANT'S her to want. Secondly, she probably thought it > would > > make her look good....Hannah Montana and High School musical is > all the > > rage....isn't she just so cool for knowing what " kids nowadays " > like? My > > grandmother did that with my youngest daughter....she would buy > her size 2T > > because my daughter was 2. Well 2T was way too big on her....my > grandmother > > would just insist...she is 2 so she should be wearing a 2. Nada > has... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 My nada is the exact same way. She's given gifts back to me before after I've " made her angry " and she's said the whole, " I can't believe after all I did for -insert holiday here-! " too. > > > > > > > > Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: > > > > > > > > " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that > > she > > > never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* > want. " > > > > > > > > When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots > for > > > my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces > and > > > cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She > > > collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number > of > > > pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've > > > gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me > as > > > graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases > in > > as > > > long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked > for: > > a > > > camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of > my > > > other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed > > poem > > > and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry > > box > > > that I left at home. > > > > > > > > She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 > > > ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / > > Chicos/ > > > Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch > > of > > > ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that > say " On > > > sale! $4.99! " > > > > > > > > Ugh! > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 ha! one christmas my nada (remembering she is lds/mormon) got me a pack of t-shirts called " modest-tees " in a plastic box, like one you would get from costco. (i have chosen to live my life otherwise and it horrifies her that i wear spaghetti straps and short skirts sometimes.) AND she got me an emergency kit. like to put in your car. with emergency blankets and flash lights and stuff like that. something she prob got from someone else. And she wrapped up some of my things that i left at her house when i moved out and made them look like christmas presents. and all of these " gifts " were wrapped in multiple boxes with elaborate wrapping and bows. probably to make it look like she got me a ton of stuff in front of our other family members and family friends. i think that year she outdid herself. at least this year she didnt get me anything instead of trying to pretend she did > > > > Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: > > > > " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that she > never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. " > > > > When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots for > my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces and > cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She > collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number of > pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've > gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me as > graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases in as > long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked for: a > camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of my > other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed poem > and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry box > that I left at home. > > > > She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 > ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / Chicos/ > Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch of > ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that say " On > sale! $4.99! " > > > > Ugh! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 on some mother's days, i haven't even called her. why stress it? i know it might sound bad, but think about it. we're thinking their feelings might get hurt because we didn't do something for them on mother's day. their feelings WONT be hurt. they will be ANGRY because they realize they dont have CONTROL over someone in their life. and think about it this way. they will probably be happier because it will just give them an excuse to be the victim again. and this would give them more satisfaction than actually receiving a card, right? its sad to think about it this way, but im doing the best i can for me > > > > > > Loved this! One of those posts that really pushed my buttons: > > > > > > " But it was always a huge pet peeve of mine growing up that > she > > never got me what I wanted, but what she thought I *should* want. " > > > > > > When I was thirteen, my mom forced me to get glamour shots for > > my birthday gift (I was a bit of an awkward tomboy with braces and > > cried at the shooting, I look miserable in the pictures). She > > collects pig paraphanalia and I can't even TELL you the number of > > pig gardening gloves, notecards, mugs, bags, keychains etc. I've > > gotten from her. She often has her own paintings framed for me as > > graduation gifts etc. and this is one of the first Christmases in > as > > long as I can remember on which she got me something I asked for: > a > > camera (I brought it up about 16 times in November). Three of my > > other gifts, however, were for the house (an ornament, a framed > poem > > and painting) and the other was a hideous but expensive jewelry > box > > that I left at home. > > > > > > She'll also spend SO much money on her own clothes ($600 > > ballgowns she'll wear once, a whole wardrobe of Ann / > Chicos/ > > Nordstroms) but will go on a spree at Kohl's and send me a bunch > of > > ugly, tacky stuff in the mail with the tags still on that say " On > > sale! $4.99! " > > > > > > Ugh! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 I had to chime in on the gifts thread. My husbands grandmother was quite a piece of work. She was notorious for being a cheapskate. She favored her daughter and daughters children over my husbands father and his children. They all tolerated her because they had to ya know. One Christmas she gave the three oldest grandsons dress socks. One pair each that she had separated from a three pack. She got her grandaughter a little sleeve of bath salt blocks. and because I think she forgot to get the youngest grandson something till the last minute she wrapped a box of Kudos snack bars. For many years after that someone always bought a box of Kudos for him and wrapped it for Christmas. (this woman was not remotely broke or hard up) I for some reason rated with her. she gave me a table cloth with the family crest on it that had been hers and a pack of those puffy satin hangers. I always tried to entertain her a little. I figured she wasn't my nada grandnada and she did not bother me for the whopping two hours I would see her every few years. Hey that way all her family does not have to deal with her right? Over the years after every visit she tried to give me her china and her silver ect... I never ended up with them because my sister-in-law had a fit about it. Fleas from being slighted by her grandmother her whole life. Whatever, no skin of my nose. how sad tho. Carla > > > > I don't think you sound like you are just still angry. I think > all of these > > things just validate why you went NC to begin with. Them stuck in > their own > > worlds, feeling like they are entitled to yours too. My nada does > the > > double gift thing...gives the same things to my nephews who are 12 > and 17 > > and have opposite tastes. That's because it's not about what they > get it's > > about nada...and what she is giving. I'm sure it was a double > thing for > > your nada...she gave your older daughter dolls because, like you > said, that > > is what she WANT'S her to want. Secondly, she probably thought it > would > > make her look good....Hannah Montana and High School musical is > all the > > rage....isn't she just so cool for knowing what " kids nowadays " > like? My > > grandmother did that with my youngest daughter....she would buy > her size 2T > > because my daughter was 2. Well 2T was way too big on her....my > grandmother > > would just insist...she is 2 so she should be wearing a 2. Nada > has... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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