Re: Nada/Fada live rent free in my head.

[Guest guest]

Sounds like you know what to do. (accept the terms or renegotiate).

Hang in there. You will come up with a good solution.

Remember that there are ways to " take care " of aging parents without

being at their beck and call. You don't have to become the sole taker-

on of your mother's crap if you don't wanna be.

[Guest guest]

As long as you stay on the path to the recovery, you will overcome

this. With therapy and support, you'll be able to find a balance

where you're supportive of your parents on your own terms. It may

seem overwhelming now, but you will get through this. I know it.

G.

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> I want to evict them, but only the parts of them I don't like. I feel

> like an adult poster child for the " why to read a book on boundaries "

> movement today.

>

> I feel like I'm in the good daughter trap. I'm in the " Who's going to

> take care of me when your father dies " (he's got cancer) trap. I want

> to be there for my parents, but on my terms and I can't get things on

> my terms without losing a lot of stuff. I guess it's a bargain I've

> struck for myself and I need to live with the terms or renegotiate.

>

> I've had one conversation with them today and ever since there has been

> a war going on in my head...it's all in my head. They have such power

> over my mind. It's not good. I don't like it, but I'm a little to

> tired to change things today. Recovery is work and I'm tired. I think

> I'll just hide today.

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